Aerica - posted on 06/10/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
I left my husband a year ago, divorce finalized this year, and had gotten my son into counseling fairly early in the game. My daughter started having anger outbursts more frequently, so i got her into counseling as well. Her Dr told me that her outbursts are from Post Traumatic Stress. Are there any books I can read about PTS in children? Most of the books on the market are for peole who are still in the relationship, but i'm out (emotionally skewed still) and I dont' know how to help her, other than continuing her therapy. She has been mothering my son and trying to interact with my ex, as her Dr stated was her way of having control of something and talking to ex is to make sure my son is safe to be with him for the day (make sure he's calm so he'll be in a good mood and not go off on brother).
Having said that, I have to co-parent with him. This involves drop-offs and pick-ups, and,unfortunately, son gets daily phone contact. (the 'unfortunate' part is when ex tries to talk to me, threaten me, or calls repeatedly, txts repeatedly, etc) He does have supervised visits, but the supervisors are his parents and i'm not comfortable with them on any level. I am finding it difficult to interact with them (and him) as his parents are also verbally abusive, confrontational people. I'm out of the relationship, but still getting the abuse. What can I do to protect my children and myself? How do you get it to stop? Applying for a contempt of court (calling multiple times would violate divorce decree) or a no-contact order would give him a platform to defend himself and would therefore defeat the purpose of protecting us and getting the behavior to stop.