The vicious cycle. Keeping your children/child from it. Even if it means keeping them away from the grandparents.

Heather - posted on 01/20/2013

Oh my God, try everything you can to protect your child. Call you state Department of Health and Human Services and find information about any non-profit domestic abuse agencies that can guide you, give you some emotional support, and point you in the right direction with other local resources that you can tap into. Good luck and please let us know how you are doing..

Jana - posted on 11/09/2012

I understand your problem. However, a child need to know both parents and should never have to choose between them. You are your daughters protection. Just make sure you are healthy minded, not narcistic, and have right intentions in your own heart. I would say, protect, protect, protect and at the same time, continue your own path to healthiness. The best way to do that is to involve you self in God's word, allow Him to soften your heart. Make Him your first priority, than you daughter. Keep things in His perspective.



I speak from experience. I will pray for you. Keystone

Angela - posted on 11/09/2012

Refuse them any unsupervised access. But do let them have supervised access. It's important for all parties to know each other as family. Good luck.

Jana - posted on 11/07/2012

I think you are very right in protecting her. I would never leave her alone with him, if she does see him. You are her protection. Sounds to me like you have a court case that would win. If you need to move out of the area to put distance, find a way to do that. If this man is as dangerous as you say he is, don't let him around your daughter. God bless, we are in difficult times.

Mel - posted on 07/10/2012

It is never wrong to keep a child safe. I am fighting to keep my daughter safe right now and not winning the battle because of the courts and a manipilative ex and the ex's family.

A child should be alllowed to live a full and happy life. I do not know how the law works as it seems people like the ones you have mentioned do not care or have any sense of morals or ethics and yet get their way quite often.

I would keep fighting for what is in the best interests of my child.

When I think about things like this, If it were a total stranger they would be seen as unfit, but just because they have a biological input it is okay for them to get away with the evil they do.
If people like that are unfit to adopt etc, why would they be fit to raise a child? Doesnt make sense to me. Keep doing what your doing. The child will respect you and your influence is what will make a positive difference in her life.

Kimberly - posted on 05/04/2012

Yes you are fully in your right to keep this child away from these people! I know that people change and the past is the past but the son has shown current signs that he still lives and acts out the things from his past so that does put your child in danger. I came from a very violent upbringing and I know the lasting effect that it can have on you but unlike you ex I found counsiling and a way to move past all the things that happened to me. Mother has also changed and it is for real as she realized that the life she was living already costed her one daughter and if she didnt change she would lose the other two, plus I made sure they same things that happened to me couldnt happen to them. Keep your daughter safe both physically and mentally, there is nothing sadder then a child that gets there spirit broken by cruel people who are only repeating history.