Thinking About getting Divorced!!

Cheryl - posted on 11/22/2011

once a cheater always a cheater my ex husband cheated on me before we were even married when i was pregnant with our daughter and i didnt find out till later.then when i found out he cheated on me with one of the girls we worked with AT WORK stupid me stayed with him. then he got really heavy into drugs always leaving my daughter with other family members when he lost his job and continued cheating 6 years later i decided my daughter and i deserved better and we walked out the door.

Kitty - posted on 11/16/2011

this is true.. and it takes time to Develope a good marriage... but it also takes a lot of work and sometimes i just feel i cant put anymore into it and if i did marry again it is For life and i know a friend of mine wants the same goals...

Robin - posted on 03/29/2010

As long as you know you did all you could do to salvage your marriage find some peace in that. You can't make someone do what you want them to do. You can't watch them 24/7 and you can't think it has anything to do with you. People cheat because they want to. Why would you want to live in a situation where you are constantly wondering where your husband is going when he leaves the house or if he is seeing some other woman. Girl, just do what is best for you. You know you don't want your daughters to grow to accept such behavior from any man in thier lives. I understand your dilemma. That is the exact reason I am divorcing my husband. We are great friends but thats all. I had to put me and my impression on my daughter first. I don't want to show her anything wrong. Especially when it come to men.

Allison - posted on 01/22/2010

Shaunda I am in a similar situation. I have been married for 11 1/2 years. Have had many ups and downs and found almost 3 years again my husband was cheating. He didnt sleep with her but there were heavy make out sessions and that crushed me. He lied and tried to make me feel that I was losing my mind. That I was just imagining things. He finally came clean I forgave him and wanted to work things out. Nothing got better he became increasingly degrading, lying, and I found I about 9 months ago he was with the same women. I file for divorce. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I didnt believe in divorce growing up, and through my marriage but one day I decided I cant take this anymore. The lying, cheating, and mental abuse he put me through is unacceptable. I filed for the divorce but he walked away from me our marriage and our family a long time ago. I prayed and prayed about it for a long time only you know what is right for you. The answer to my prayer was filing for the divorce. Thats not easy either it is pretty nasty right now and I am informed by my attorney it is only going to get worse. I made the decision to fight for me and my kids. I wish you the best and will keep you in my prayers!

Amy - posted on 01/13/2010

The key word is again. If he has done it once then most likely it will happen again. You are raising young adults. Show them that their father's actions are not acceptable behavior. Remember his isnt just cheating on you but on your children too. And if you accept his behavior what kind of message does this send to your children.

Shelley - posted on 01/02/2010

once a cheater always a cheater, move out and on with your life you are not setting a good example for you children, children are a lot more resilant than you think they will get over it before you do.

I have been separated for 9 years and divorced for 8 years and have been remarried for 2 years, and don't think that my first marrage was short we were togeather for 16 years and married for 14 of those years but I could not take the mental abuse any more. it is worse than the physical. GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU STILL CAN........