Sharon - posted on 01/01/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
November 2007 after I returned home from Thanksgiving, I had an e-mail from a lawyer telling me that my husband filed for divorce. He wasn't even man enough to tell me himself, but that shouldn't have surprise me since he's an alcoholic and doesn't know the truth if it hit him in the face. It's been over a year now, and nothing has changed since we went to court in December 2007 for temp. support. Needless to say this past year has been very difficult. I could write a book, but I'm sure all of you could too! He and his lawyer have been stalling this divorce since August. They won't give me a settlement offer. I belive it because he is trying to get overnight visits with the boys and needs to clean up his act.
This past week I learned that he has been late twice in the past three months on the house payment. In fact he didn't make the December payment. He was court order to pay the mortgage when we went to court a year ago. I also learned that he reopen a credit card that I thought I closed and has charged over $6,500 in my name. My lawyer said that I might have to pay it since the credit account was a joint account. I was also told that there is a good chance that I could loose the house. Mean while, the man has purchased 12 guns since he has moved out of the house (I hate guns.....scarded to death of them).
My lawyer keeps telling me that when the divorce is final, things will not be any better. I have to disagree with her. I'm so sick of my life being on hold. I need for this divorce to be over with so I can move on with my life. Please tell me that things will be better once this is over with. Can anyone share with me what type of support they are receiving? I may not get anything other than child support. I don't think that right. I was married to his man for 21 years and was a stay at home mom for 13 years to raise his children. I think I should get something!