User - posted on 12/21/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
Ok this is going to be a bit long. I have an 11 month old daughter whos my ENTIRE life. Im currently in the process of being seperated from my abusive husband. We were married in August this year and I got an EPO (Emergency protection order) against him for abusing me and my daughter. He's also had a history of abusing me, my daughter and my 4 year old son from a previous relationship. But I was still stupid enough to marry him. I'm also expecting his 2nd biological child in March, which the baby is not doing so well because of my "ex" husband. I got a lawyer from legal aid and we went to court a few weeks ago to try and get the EPO extended (me and both my kids are on the order) but he didnt have a lawyer so now we have to go back in February to give him time to find a lawyer. And he denies EVERYTHING that he has done to me and the kids. My sons father has never been in the picture, hes denied him from day 1 just so he didnt have to pay child support, which I dont really care about the support, but I did go to maintanece and cant get anything from him anyways. And I really dont want to take my kids away from my "ex" husband. But I know for a fact if he was alone with our daughter or even my son, if he'd get any visitiation of him, they wouldnt be safe at all. My lawyer said he would probably start with supervised visitation, then be able to take my kids alone with him, but I dont want him to even have visitation. My daughters only 11 months old, she was 9 months old when I called the cops and got the EPO, and she was TERRIFIED of him. My kids have changed so much since he left, for the good, and Im really scared for how the custody battle will go. If he keeps denying everything, he could easily get some custody. How can I make it so he doesnt get custody or visitation at all? I only want whats best for my kids and its best if they cant be around him. I have wrote down everything that hes done to me and the kids and everything thats happened in our relationship and I gave it to my lawyer. Please help!!