i lost my precious girl on new years day and now i don't know what to do

Lisa - posted on 02/01/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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i lost my gorgeous little girl on new years day this year i woke up to my 4 year old son telling me she had been sick the post-mortom came back as she had died of sids (or sudi) i can't work out what went wrong when she was my 5th child and i have done everything the same taken the same precautions as the others they are all fine now i just don't know what to do with my self i feel so confused i just can't get it in my head can anyone tell me how long this is likely to go on for cos i feel like i'm goin mad

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Hillary - posted on 01/14/2013

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I lost my son, Liam Scott on May 17, 2007...he was 5 weeks and 3 days old, born April 9, 2007. My son, Jayden, almost 4 at the time, witnessed the traumatic, chaos filled morning that I woke up and found Liam lifeless. It's HARD! It's STILL hard! I don't know if it'll ever get easier...I think we just learn to function around the scars :(

Brittany - posted on 08/07/2010

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I lost my son Brayden on April 20, 2009 he was only 5 months 3 days old i am so angry my husband doesn't understand everyone keeps telling me to get over it i wasn't the only one going through it but im his mommie and im angry and i just want the pain to stop but it never will i know that but why cant they see that just because my husband is a marine he thinks he knows it all and he has the right to have no compassion but what about me im lost confused and need to talk to other mommies

Sherry - posted on 03/01/2010

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Hi, Im sherry and I lost my daughter on 4/22/2009. The best thing you can do is talk to people about it. find the answers you need. They might not come, but letting your feelings be know will help you heal. I had to go to the doc and get lexipro, an anti anxiety medication that does not make you feel like your in space. I also became a volunteer for LOPA because we donated my daughters organs. I am so sorry for your loss and know that you are hurting. You can go to the lopa websight and look for support groups for anyone, not just for organ Donors. There is also a group meeting for moms and kids in shreveport at the end of march at Broadmore Baptist Church on youree called a place that warms the heart. If I can help in any way please give me a call. Sherry Denson Sellers 318-294-9051

Tanya - posted on 06/10/2009

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i too am here for you lisa. I lost my only daughter a month and a half ago. I cry and hurt everyday b/c i tried so hard to have her in the first place. it took me and my husband 7 yrs to have Payton and she lived 3 months and god took her from us. I pray and ask why everynight? i know i will never know but just the other day after about a month after she died it was confirmed that she did die of SIDS. I am so mad but at what. She was so heathly and strong and i loved her everyday of her life. i even loved the lack of sleep i would get just to spend every moment with her. She was my life and now i have a hole in my heart that will never be filled. I was told no matter what me and my husband would have done she would not have survived. i just need support from people who know what i am going through. I am so sorry that there are so many of us that have lost children to this disease. This is a pain no one should ever feel or have to endure. I will live everyday of my life honoring my daughter and honoring the life she lived. I hope we can all help each other. thanks for listening. god bless XOXO

Tanya - posted on 06/10/2009

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i too am here for you lisa. I lost my only daughter a month and a half ago. I cry and hurt everyday b/c i tried so hard to have her in the first place. it took me and my husband 7 yrs to have Payton and she lived 3 months and god took her from us. I pray and ask why everynight? i know i will never know but just the other day after about a month after she died it was confirmed that she did die of SIDS. I am so mad but at what. She was so heathly and strong and i loved her everyday of her life. i even loved the lack of sleep i would get just to spend every moment with her. She was my life and now i have a hole in my heart that will never be filled. I was told no matter what me and my husband would have done she would not have survived. i just need support from people who know what i am going through. I am so sorry that there are so many of us that have lost children to this disease. This is a pain no one should ever feel or have to endure. I will live everyday of my life honoring my daughter and honoring the life she lived. I hope we can all help each other. thanks for listening. god bless XOXO

Lisa - posted on 05/04/2009

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THANKYOU FOR REPLYING TO MY MESSAGE IT MEANS A LOT THAT THERE ARE OTHERS WHO UNDERSTAND WHERE I AM COMING FROM! I AM SO SORYY ALSO FOR YOUR LOSSES MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU ALL! XX

Michelle - posted on 03/26/2009

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It will get easier as time goes on......I blamed myself for years and years and then 1 day I just stopped blaming myself. You loved your daughter and would have never done anything to hurt her, you did everything in YOUR power to take care of her and love her. SIDS is horrible, because I know I felt that it just wasnt a diagnosis! Its hard to explain but I think if it was a heart condition, etc I would have had closure a LONG time ago. My daughter Emily passed away in 1993. She would have been 16 this year, and I still miss her everyday.

Lena - posted on 02/11/2009

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Hi Lisa



I Just lost my sweet Lindy at age 10 months on the 19 of January of this year. It so hard to cope when you dont have people who understand your hurt and pain. People who REALLY understand. The loss of a child is like losing a part of your self. I go in circles every day. I cry for hours. I smile at the wonderful memories, and the better, stronger person I have become. My new goal in my life is to study sids, and be a support to other moms, dad, sisters and brothers.



Remember, you still have a life to live and people to love. When Lindy looks down on me from heaven, I want her to see what she seen when she was here with us, smiling, loving and laughing, she doesnt know us any other way, and that is what gives me my strength to go on and face the days before me.



HUGS from one mom to another.

Ashley - posted on 02/09/2009

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Well my baby girl Kiersten Lela was 56 days old she died on Dec 17 2007......I am still going thru the emotions....Im angry sad hurt feeling of betrayed by god.....I dont think your ever gonna get over it...It will always be there in your mind.......But I think it will get a lil easier as the days go on...Do you speak of your lil girl???I do I speak of her all the time thats the only thing that keeps me going!!!!There was nothing you could have done....When it's there time it is......My lil ones came back as SIDS to I knew it would but I didnt want it to...I thought there was something wrong the minute they induced me I felt this feeling.....Until the night we went to sleep and I woke up and she was gone that night I felt she was ok....It is weird but It was like GOD was telling me to let it rest....That she would be in a better place I dunno I cant explain it....That night I finally slept at ease with her....I know she was sent to me for something.....this prolly doesnt help you you prolly think im off my rocker!!!There isnt a day that goes by that I dont think of her and cry and smell her clothes or go in her room!!!!You need alot of support and you'll find it with other mummies who have been in the same situation!!!My family is there for me but the dont fully understand,not like my angel mummies do!!!!So Lisa I am here for you anytime message me......Thats why I started this so I can seek help and give it....Ashley XXX

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