Any single moms with jobs going to school?

Sarah - posted on 04/20/2009 ( 38 moms have responded )

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Just wondered if there was anyone else in a similar situation as mine. I just went through a divorce in October 2008. My son is 14 months old. I work part-time at a veterinary clinic and go to school full-time. I'm working on a Clinical Lab Science degree. Sometimes I just need to know that I'm not crazy and that I'm not alone. Thanks.

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Kaye - posted on 07/08/2009

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I am a single mother of a nine month old baby girl, work full time and go to school full time so yes I feel crazy and over whelmed all the time. It’s hard and I have my moments when I cry out and wish to God I had some help; But I look at my baby girl and because I want the best for her I go to work and make myself study to make good grades .My daughter is my motivation..But I do lose it sometimes. Keeping it all together is not an easy task. That is why I pray to God to help me not lose MY MIND!.

Erica - posted on 05/07/2009

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I am a single mother of two, 10 & 3. I work fulltime and go to college. I am a Behavioral Health/Human Service major. It is a challenge no doubt, but i try to keep things in perspective; I am creating a legacy for my children. I want to show them that nothing is impossible as long as they have the drive and determination to make their dreams come true. When my second child was born, I thought all hope was lost, i thought there was no way i could get an education and provide for them at the same time. I was lost. But i was able to stop playing the victim, pull myself by the bootstraps and get the ball rolling. YOU ARE NOT CRAZY: you are an inspiration. God bless u!

Kiouku - posted on 07/11/2009

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No you are not ALONE! For starters you have your wonderful son and since my son's father left it has been me n my son against the world. I work full time, go to school full time I am ALSO a peer writing tutor on campus and I raise a 6 y.o son by self so you are truely not alone. Keep going and think about the benefits you will reap when it is all over. My primary encouraging factor is knowing that everything I am doing now is building a better life for my son and I in the future.

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Kate L - posted on 03/23/2014

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You are not alone and you are not crazy. Be prepared for other people to not understand what you go through in your daily life. They will tell you what to do, what not to do, and how you are or are not taking care of the best for your child. How I see it, going to school and getting an education and succeeding in life so that you can provide for your son or daughter is one of the best moves that you can make for your life. Sometimes, I just think other people want you to take an easier route, or they say you should not be stressed, that God does not want for your life. I have other people tell me this often. The ones that truly support me do not say a word, they just say they are there, and is there anything that they can do to help.
If I'm acting crazy or overwhelmed they are just quiet and stand with me, and try to just be a presence. These are the people you need to stay close to, and do not necessarily share and get close with those who do not do this. You can do it, do not give up, just ask God each time what he wants you to do and try follow that. Sometimes you have to make sacrifices, live each day to the fullest, and make sure your children know why you are doing it and make sure you give them some experience of it so that they understand how and why how hard you work. Good luck!

Lou - posted on 01/31/2014

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Hi Im afulltime mother of a 2 year old baby girl, at the moment Im still with my partner and father of my child but nfortunately the relationship isnt going well, sometimes Im wonderring if ever we fall apart, would i manage to survive with my lil girl, I want to go to school and finish a degree but without any support from anyone how would i manage to do it? Especially with financial matter, with one salary between childcare, school, and everyday expenses? Im just scared, if its only me i wont worry bout schooling and just get any type of job, but as a mother I want to do something to secure my daughters future! Can anyone tell me its possible!

Tiffany - posted on 08/24/2013

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Hello everyone, can you all tell me how your daily schedule goes when you work 2 jobs and go to school full time... I'm having trouble figuring out how to work 2 jobs and go to school full time; the time management part. It doesn't seem like there are enough hours in the day just get to all of the locations that you need to. How much sleep do you get? How do you get projects done on time? Do your children participate in after school activities? I ask because my daughter is 12 years old and plays basketball and the violin. Do you all pay for child care? It's just me and my daughter. I can't leave her at home by herself, so how do i work this out?
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Ganesha V - posted on 07/04/2013

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I am also a single mom of an 8 1/ 2 year old smart Guy and a 23 month smart girl and I have always wanted to be a nurse I now work part time but at times struggle and I am always so nervous if I can do those hard classes. help ganeshajames@gmail.com

Lisa - posted on 10/18/2012

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I would like to share this phone number: 832-225-5021... as well as my information, in case there is any interest: Lisa Marks Powell, lisapowell@legalshield.com, www.lisapowell.legalshield.com. The number I have listed is a recruiting call for PARENTS by one of our top leaders, Tony Petrill, He gives an overview of the memberships offered by LegalShield and there are 8 parents who talk about their stories of success with LegalShield and how LegalShield has helped them in their household and lifestyle. LegalShield helps parents to be the leader in their household by giving them wise counsel. LegalShield also allows parents flexibility to create income for their family. As a mom engaged in LegalShield, I want to help other mom's be successful as well! Thank you so much! Lisa Marks Powell

Suzanne - posted on 03/03/2012

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I'm a single mom going through a divorce. I work 50 hours a week and am taking three online courses. With my son being 21/2 and it is very stressful.I am also dealing with court stuff and having to pay tickets fines and fees. AHH!! Sometimes i just cry because I really don't know how I got to this point and how to get out. I think It will be over soon...

Laura - posted on 02/19/2011

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yes in sort of the same boat. I work as a sample person at Sam's for 6 hours, 4 days a week and I do 2 college classes per term, considered full time. I am currently working on finding a sit-down job because standing so much is literally taking a toll on my inside body organs, due to all the gravity from hours of standing. I can't take much more of this. My divorce was Sept 30 of last year and I have my 11 year old living with me but have 3 other grown children too, teens and young adults. If you need a friend feel free to email me at futurehopevm@gmail.com

~Laura

Katrina - posted on 08/26/2009

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HI, you are definitly not alone. I am working part time teaching dance and going to school to become a teacher. My daughter is 9 months old and sometimes I am just not sure how to juggle it all. It is crazy and exhausting but I just try to take a deep breath and remember it wont be like this forever and it will be better for both of us in the long run.

Alana - posted on 08/24/2009

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Sarah, you most certainly are not the only one going thru this. I am a single mother with 2 jobs and a full-time student. You will find yourself busy as hell but you need to do what you need to do. You son is only 14months. This is the time when they learn, but if he sees mommy reading and studying he will think it is the cool thing to do and it will make him wanna open up a book and start reading. Sometimes I even read my school work out loud to my son and show him some of the pictures. My son is about to be 20 months on the 29th and I am about to graduate with a double major in Criminology & Sociology. When people ask how you do it, you'll just say "I don't know...but i do".....Betting your education will only make a better life for your son when he gets older. Granted, it may be hard as hell now, but he will thank mommy and say wow mom u did all that, when he gets older. :) Keep your head up girly and keep doing what needs to be done.

Reva - posted on 08/09/2009

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No- you're not alone! I work full time with special ed kids, go to school full time to get my RN degree and am a single mom of boys (5 and 4). It is crazy a lot of the time. A lot of late nights and early mornings!!

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I am a single mom and work part-time at a child care center and will be starting back to school full-time in 3 weeks. It is not going to be fun, but I know it's important to finish my degree. I only have 3 semesters left. Good luck to you! And keep at it!

Alisha - posted on 08/01/2009

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Hey Sarah. I have a two year old living on campus at IU in Bloomington, IN. I also work part time at the family housing apartment where I live. It can be difficult at times not having much money at all and trying to survive. It is nice to know i am not the only one. It gets very stressful for me sometimes and I wonder why I am doing this, but someday I will thank myself. good luck with your schooling. If you ever need anyone to vent to send me a message. I love to listen and will help if I can.

Jessica - posted on 07/26/2009

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Single mom of a two month old, going to school full time & working full time. No support what-so-ever.... Believe me i feel ya!

Onaida - posted on 07/26/2009

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No you are not alone, I work full time and then go to school at night trying to get my associate degree after (4 long years) I graduate in the Fall. It is hard to balance work, school and mommy life. When you want "me" time there seems there isn't, but you are doing something good for you and your child in the long run. Hang in there you will make it.

Lisa - posted on 07/19/2009

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I am a single mom of a high medical needs 3 year old, am a sonologist and going to back school in Sept. for Respiratory Therapy. I went to school during my sons bought with cancer as well. It was rough but what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. And no, you are no where near crazy.

Pamela - posted on 07/10/2009

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No your not crazy and definately not alone. You are among many, like myself, that are working mothers and going to school. I am a single mom to an 11 yr old that travels on the weekends playing sports. I work full time and I take classes part time, mostly online. I am actually about to get married and will have two more sons to care for, so I know that it will get tougher but know that you must stay the course and finish your degree. The rewards of your accomplishment will shine past your temporary struggles your going through at this point.

Mitzi - posted on 07/08/2009

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when my husband and I seperated i was working 2 jobs, and going to school. One of my employers told me I was killing myself and I should quit school and work for him full-time, I know what his intentions were and I know he meant the best but in the end, I want my kids to see I accomplished something. I know it is hard but it WILL be worth it in the end.

Stacey - posted on 07/08/2009

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I work full-time at a local college and I'm the single mother of a soon-to-be 8 year old with special needs. I received my associate's degree this past spring and am now attending classes full-time working towards my bachelor's degree. This quarter I'm taking one class on-site and two online. I have class at the school on Mondays from 5:30-9:30 p.m. (usually about 3-4 hours of homework throughout the week for that class). My two online courses take about 6-7 hours/week for each of them. It is a crazy time trying to do everything all the time. I'm lucky to get 3 hours of sleep during the week, but I usually can get 5 or 6 on the weekends to attempt to catch up a little...lol. I keep telling myself that in a little more than a year I'll be done with school -- I won't know what to do with myself when I have a little free time. Good luck! You are definitely not alone.

Melissa - posted on 07/06/2009

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I have a 3 year old son and work full time...and go to school for a Masters part time. You are not crazy and not alone! We are the strong ones that will be blessed because we stressed. =)

Alicia - posted on 06/30/2009

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Ughhh... definitely not alone. Been separated for 9 months. I have a 5 months old a 2 y.o. Not to mention we decided to work on our marriage while he is deployed and is 8 hours a head of us. I work full time(nights) and am getting my interior design B.A. I also go the both physical ( pregnancy related) and mental (marriage related) therapy. I have like NO time to do anything. I shove food down my throat as I run out the door.

Kimberly - posted on 06/26/2009

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You are not alone. I just seperated after a three and a half year relationship, work, and going to school at Devry University and have three children. It is so hard, just wanted to tell you to hang in there. It will get better and all be worth it in the end, which is what I have to keep telling myself, LOL

Vanessa - posted on 06/25/2009

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You are definately not alone...although maybe we are all a little crazy! :-) As you can see there are a number of strong intelligent women looking to make a better life for themselves and their children without the help of a man. I read through these thinking wow, I an single work, go to school and have one child (16 mths)...and I am overwhelmed somedays. I can't imagine the stress that would go along with having multiple children. You ladies are amazing!

Melissa - posted on 06/24/2009

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I am not a single mom, but sometimes I feel like I might as well be. My husband is in the army and is deployed for 15 months every other year. Even the year he spends here he is gone for 2 weeks here or 3 months there for training. I take online courses so I do not have to pay for 4 kids in daycare, and I have a job that I do from home that luckily is not very demanding. My situation is lucky compared to yours, or other moms on here, but it still feels stressful and chaotic. You must be strong to be able to continue on like you do. It is not crazy to feel the pressures of role conflict.

Kelley - posted on 06/02/2009

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You are not crazy and not alone. I am a single mom and work fulltime and go to school at nite. Let me tell you there are days that I could scream and feel overwhelmed, but the feeling I get when I ace a class, I am one step closer to a better life for me and my daughter. It may be a struggle but when it is all over it will so be worth it!!! Keep your eye on prize!

Good Luck and god bless you and yours!

~Kelley

Della - posted on 05/29/2009

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You are not alone it is hard work. I have four kids and two ex husbands and am going to school full time to get my elementary degree. I also work at the high school full time. That is like having about 50 kids of my own. Keep your head up I am sure you will be GREAT!

Erika - posted on 05/22/2009

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As you can tell, you are not alone in this matter. I too, am a single mother of a 9, 6 ,5, 3, and 1 year old. I work and go to school full time. I just keep in my mind that this will help me and my children in the future.

Jen - posted on 05/09/2009

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I am also going through a similar situation. I am a 29 yr old mother of a 3 yr old. I work third shift, 12 hr shifts and go to nursing school full time. I am working on my second degree and wonder why I ever went back to school. Now that I am going through a separation as well, it has become extremely overwhelming. I feel like I am having a breakdown daily!...you definitely are not alone! Hang in there..it will get better, I just take it one day at a time

Sarah - posted on 05/07/2009

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Thanks to everyone for their posts! I know that I have to do this to give my son and I a better life.

Melissa - posted on 04/28/2009

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Im not a single mom, but my husband is away often, I work weekends 16 hours a day and go to school full time working on my B.A. in Criminology. Its hard to make time for everything. Im sorry that you have to probably do a majority alone, but in the end you will of accomplished raising a beautiful son and I hope he knows what a strong mommy he has

Tiffany - posted on 04/27/2009

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I am a full time student, full time photographer and a full time mom! Its crazy and sometimes its all I can do not to cry myself to sleep some of the nights. But it is what it is, and it is ALL worth it in the end. Just keep the mantra, : this is not just for me, its for my children. this is not about what I need, its about what they will need in the future. I get through my days one at a time!

:) Hi my name is Tiffany. Its nice to meet you Sarah!

Krista - posted on 04/27/2009

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I am a single mother of a 5 year old and a nineteen month old. I work full time during the day, spend a couple of hours with the kids at night, then I spend 4 hours doing schoolwork. I'm in school for accounting...you are so not alone.

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My son is 3 and 1/2 and right now I am currently doing basically time and a half in college. Full time is 12 credit hours and I'm taking 20.5. I'm a double major in Accounting and Culinary Arts. I also work 12 hours a week at a local restaurant and I'm lucky if between those, I get one day off a week. It is crazy and I do stress out a lot but it's all worth it in the end.

Mary - posted on 04/21/2009

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I am married but my husband is a truck driver and gone a lot. I work full time 3rd shift and I am getting ready to go back to finish my nursing degree and plan on attending full time. Not sure how this will work but I know it will. My kids are older 9 and 14, but some times I think that makes it worse. You are not alone there are a lot of single moms struggling to work and go to school. Just hang in there everything will work out in the long run. What you are doing now will benefit your son in the future.

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