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juggling my schoolwork, my son's schoolwork, and getting my toddler ready for school

Shauna - posted on 06/27/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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i'm beginning to lose all hope that my life is going to get better....i know it's not supposed to be easy, but i'm trying to go to school which i'm going to school for fashion merchandising management. my son just finished kindergarten this year. so i've been completely focused on myself and thank god my 6 yr old son is so smart bc i seemed to have gotten away with slacking on helping him out w/school at times this year. my problem is tho that first grade is going to be harder on him and i have a 4 yr old daughter that i feel like i've completely neglected as far as teaching her how to count and say and recognize her alphabet. my son knew his numbers and letters by the time he was 3 and i feel like me starting so late w/her...basically she's already behind and it's all my fault. i just can't juggle all 3 and i don't have much help at all. i can't afford tutoring for my son although he doesn't need it, but what if he does. thank god my daughter still has another year b4 she starts school, but by that time i'll be getting into my harder classes and i go to an excelled school so they cram 4 yrs in to 2 yrs...meaning i have no spring/summer/christmas break. 10 weeks is an entire semester at my school so i can't afford to miss any school really and i really can't get behind b/c it's impossible for me to catch up...not to mention i'm broke as hell and can't even afford to be going here in the first place. i got 14,000 in financial aid, but had to take out a loan for the other 14,000. this is my sencond attempt at college and i'm determined to get thru it. i HAVE to get thru it...it's not even an option!!! i really love school and i want this really bad. not only for myself, but mostly for my kids. i know if i'm happy w/my career then i'll have happy children too. right now i'm miserable w/my career and i' always broke so i feel so guilty when i can't do afford to go do fun things w/my kids or buy them all the things they want. but now i'm starting to feel guilty b/c i feel selfish for focusing more on my school than my kids.....what do i do? any suggestions???? i feel like i'm at the end of my rope here, and i def don't wanna work midnights at a hotel the rest of my life either. the midnights is draining and i feel like i'm not even a part of normal society bc i sleep during the day when i'm not in school, my house is a wreck most of the time now and i have no time for myself. i need help...desperately!

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Jamie - posted on 07/11/2010

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I know the feeling. I have 5 kids in my household and I been going to school since january and my husband is starting in August with me. One of the best things is to get a daily calender and make a schedule out for your self. My three middle children 6, 4, and 3 and close to all the same. Sit down with the both of them and work together. As your lil girl is learning new things it would be a good review for your son. Even if its only an hour a day you could even split it up. While you are in the kitchen preparing a meal ask you pull things out ask colors or my kids love i spy (you can do this any and everywhere. Driving, Shopping, it can be endless). I do it for counting, letters, shapes, and anything i can think of. Its hard to have every thing run smoothly. I really know but keep trying new things and if they dont work try again its ok to trya new routine. We were never given a handbook so just experiment till its right for you. Hope this helps. Jamie

Mabel - posted on 07/06/2010

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I invented an acronym for that:is . GoKiSHOM.

Go stands for God: by doing even a little prayer. After I pray....

Ki which means 5 minutes more or less for my oldest kid (talking, tutoring, playing a quick card game he/ she gets to pick.....). Then...

S for school (Your school: starting a project, studying an hour, etc.....)

H for house (I think which chores should be the most important at the moment and at least start doing it...just one

O for organizing (there I do the most urgent one in my To Do List. I include even haircuts, changing the car oil, groceries, every single thing that must be done)

M for me! You must have at least a 15 minutes to regain your sanity with maybe soft music, just lying down with eyes closed, or maybe checking at least the some messages in your email.....

Done? Start all over again...you'll spend the rest of your day giving every aspect of your life a little bit of your time and is more rewarding doing something than nothing at all. The second time around I give my second child some time, and after I completed enough rounds to give each one some minutes, I start with the oldest kid again and so. They always feel important. Try it! My kids and I are happier now. I also give them chores...even my 6 yr-old must clean the living room and put clean garbage bags if she wants to watch TV or use the computer (I have 3kids) They whined a lot at t first, but now are used to it. Even feel good of been helpful and proud of how clean is the place. The youngest one reminds us if we disorganized the area after "all her work" lol.

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