Over 40 and back in school how about you?

Karron - posted on 06/17/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hello to all of you,
I want to ask how many of you out there are like me? Over 40 or near it, back in college (or for the first time) and struggling to get their older brains to learn subjects we haven't had in many, many years, which is exhausting and frustrating.
I had my children at 20, 25 & 29 years of age and was primarily a stay home mom for approx.15 years with little league, soccer, tae-kwon-do, football, jr. drill team and 7 yrs of swim team; whew! You name it they did it and I shuttled them around. Now they are all working and one in college. I just finished my first class which was a remedial math class and I signed up for the next math in the first summer session. By the second week and 2 hours of class every day, 1 hour of tutoring and 5- hours of homework a day I had to drop it. I was falling to far behind and my tutor (hooray for free tutoring from the math dept.) who is also a math professor said this class is 2 years of algebra crammed into 6 weeks :0! No wonder I was so behind. I honestly had no idea is was so much info. I desperately wanted to get through with this class this summer, especially since it is a pre-req for all 3 of my biology classes, the first of which I was supposed to take in the fall. It was very upsetting for me to accept the fact that I needed to take the math over a long semester in the fall and drop it. I feel as though I am already so far behind at 44 and that I have to run as fast as I can to try and catch up. I am attending community college here in Houston and you can only apply to the RN program once a year 5 months before the program begins, so I will be 45 almost 46 when I apply. I try so hard to stay upbeat and perky but it is depressing to realize that I will be almost 50 when I am finished. I don't know why that bothers me, especially when I meet women that age all the time going back to school and I think it is simply wonderful! Why is it I have a difficult time applying that attitude to myself? I hope no one construes this as whining. I don't want it to seem that way at all. I would love to be in contact with other gals such as myself to vent, support each other and so on. Please reply to this post I would love to hear from you all

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Grisell - posted on 07/26/2009

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Hi!! Belive me but you all made my day. I'm 42 with 2 kids at home (15 & 7). I was a SAHM from 1995 to 2005 when I returned to school. I made my Asociate degree in Ophtalmic Tech and continue for a Bachellor in Nursing (BSN). Now in August I starting my clinical rotation. I can say that my kids are "college kids". They are use to go with me to class. The oldest preffer my classes because he finds college more interesting than high and the youngest I have to admit had some experiences (specially in science) that is not what a 7 y/o is used to. Like Sherry I belive this is My Turn to chase my dream. Is not easy, but at this time I can smell that diploma and I want it so bad.Of all this journey, the worst is to make the younger understand that I need time for homework and for me, not because I don't love her, but because I want to give her a better chance in life and because Mom needs to keep her head chill.

Sherry - posted on 07/26/2009

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So you'll be 50 when you get out-And. 42 and just starting school-It's my Turn My kids are 19 and 22.

Loretta - posted on 07/24/2009

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Hello Karron,

I am 48 and in college for the first time. AABA in medical billing and coding is my major. So far the tuffest class I have had is Art Appriciation, I guess because I do not understand what it has to do with my major. I have 12 classes left before I graduate which is 6 sessions. I can hardley wait. I am from a family with 11 kids and the first of the 11 that has went to college, however I have a couple neices that are going to college as well. I take my courses online which makes it great because I have time for myself and my family that way. My children are 26, 28, 30 and 31. Two girls and two boys. They are my life, my heart and soul. I am married, and have 14 grandchildren that their ages range between 17 and expecting. :) You are not whinning I understand fully where you are coming from. Just do not give up!

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Do not fret. We are never too old to fulfill our dreams. I never went to college. When I was growing up we were taught to be mothers and wives. After raising two children and then dealing with a divorce(my choice), I was back to work and living what I thought was a good life. With my first husband of 30 years ago, had a good job(not a career) and talking about how I wished I had gone to college. He helped me decide to go and I was going to take part-time classes. Then I was devastated to be laid off. But what I thought to be bad luck turned in my favor. My boyfriend is a wonderful man that makes a good living. He told me that if I really wanted to go to school then I needed to decide on a major that I could use after graduation and then go full time. He does not want me to work so I have time for the studies. I have been very lucky. I signed up for spring quarter with one media class and 4 computer(at home) classes. Came out with a 4.0. Summer quarter I thought I would try to get my English AND Pre-Algebra out of the way. Well as you saw how summer courses go. I too dropped the math, but am doing the English and added some more computer courses. My major is Interactive Graphics. It is like Graphic Design but with the computerized element. So, you can see, you are not alone. Oh, and I will be 50 this year! It is a lot of work, but with determination we can do it.

Lee - posted on 07/07/2009

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I am 37, married, with an active 10 yrs old. I started my master's program in Social Work last year and it has been a struggle. I rec'd my undergrad about 13 years ago and I found it difficult to study and retain anything. Luckily, my husband's finishing his master's this fall and he's been supportive of my struggle. I can understand your difficulty w/ math though. I was really good at it when I had to take it so many years ago, but now I struggle just to help my 10 yr old w/ some of his math!!! Hang in there and remember it doesn't matter how old you are when you get an education, it just matters that you get it! I actually just saw a bill board this morning that had a pix of a 95 yr old woman receiving her BS-how great is that!?

Shari - posted on 07/03/2009

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I was 48 when I started online college, recieved my Associates in Business Administration the year I turned 50, got my BA in Healthcare Management at age 51 and am about ready to recieve my Masters in Organizational Leadership at age 54. My girls when I went back to school were 28,16, and11 years old, although I did this for myself, I also did this to show my girls that education never stops.


I had all of the normal concerns about going back to school,which is why I decided to attend online.

Karron - posted on 06/19/2009

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Don't quit Sara. Yes It does get frustrating but you just have to ignore the comments from those who might be condescending towards you. You are doing it for yourslef not them, so as hard as it may be  you can get past thier remarks and press on. Good luck!   


Quoting Sara:

Hi Karron, i no just how u feel. Im Sara in 37 (38 in Sept) and mum to 2 girls aged 10 & 7. i had 2 quit my full time job in motor insurance back in 2005 as i got ill and cud no longer work. as i started to get bttr, i realised that insurance wasnt for me and doin a job i didnt really like contirbuted to me becumin ill. so I did sumthin....

Karron - posted on 06/19/2009

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Don't quit Sara. Yes It does get frustrating but you just have to ignore the comments from those who might be condescending towards you. You are doing it for yourslef not them, so as hard as it may be  you can get past thier remarks and press on. Good luck!   


Quoting Sara:

Hi Karron, i no just how u feel. Im Sara in 37 (38 in Sept) and mum to 2 girls aged 10 & 7. i had 2 quit my full time job in motor insurance back in 2005 as i got ill and cud no longer work. as i started to get bttr, i realised that insurance wasnt for me and doin a job i didnt really like contirbuted to me becumin ill. so I did sumthin....

Cidalia - posted on 06/19/2009

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I understand. I'm in the midst of college applications, etc. I will be almost 36 when I start, and I occasionally do the math on how old I will be when I finish, etc. I'm starting with a 2-year law clerk program but am toying with the idea of law school. I just remind myself that in X number of years, I will still be X years old, only I'll have a degree and won't spend the rest of my life wondering "what if?" Personally, I love school, and that will make the journey part of the fun too.

Sara - posted on 06/19/2009

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Hi Karron, i no just how u feel. Im Sara in 37 (38 in Sept) and mum to 2 girls aged 10 & 7. i had 2 quit my full time job in motor insurance back in 2005 as i got ill and cud no longer work. as i started to get bttr, i realised that insurance wasnt for me and doin a job i didnt really like contirbuted to me becumin ill. so I did sumthin I hv alsways wanted to do a tuk up training in childcare. at first i did entry levels courses and helped in my daughters class and it was fab but now im doin nvq 2, maths and 1 day a wk in a skool as part of my course. sum of the staff memebers in the skool r obviously younger than me and sumtimes i just feel like they dont take me seriously, 2day 4 example it was obvious they were all rushing about preparing 4 an event in the school. i thought il show an interest and asked ' ooh wot the events, wots going to be happening?' the reply i got frm ther teaching assistant was ' oh just a skool event thats all' - how rude! l8r she heard me talking to another teacher about it and said 'oh dont ask u dont want to know' then walked off. well yes i did want to know and did want to help! sumtimes i think i shud just give up honestly i do. sorry for venting , ive just got in frm the skool and im sooooo annoyed.

i have another poss 2 years b4 im where i want 2 be and like u i find it soooo depressing and frustrating at times.



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