Working mom and college student looking to talk to other moms in the same situation.

Tiffany - posted on 12/20/2009 ( 36 moms have responded )

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I go to college 3/4 time and also work full time. I have a two year old son and sometimes wish I knew more people to talk to about all the pressures and stresses of such a heavy load. I'm sure others can relate.

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Katie - posted on 03/10/2010

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omg i can totally relate!! I have two boys ages: 6y/o and 21mo's and I also work full-time. I wonder somedays when the insanity will stop! I go to school part time. All I remembering being told is it will pay out in the long run.

also "keep your head up" beacuse I have had many times I just want to break down.

Katie

Kelyana - posted on 03/01/2014

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Hey! I'm new to this site, but this topic suits me well! I'm 23, and I'm a full time student, full time employee, I have a almost 2 year old, and a disabled husband who cannot work. Not only is this workload overwhelming and too much to handle, it's making me crazy and resentful. I hear things like, "take a break from school" or "find a new job" often. How do you do that, knowing that your family cannot survive financially or mentally without your heavy workload that will one day pay off?! The best advice I've heard this far is to do what you have to do, enjoy the down time, and don't be too proud to ask for help when you absolutely can't take it. Because at this point, you can't quit what your doing because it's necessary, so suck it up and get it done. These words made me mad at first, but then I realized that I'm only doing all of this to be in a better situation later, and my family desperately needs that.

Valerie - posted on 12/29/2013

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Hi there my name is Valerie I am a 30 year old mother of 3 15 months, 6 and 10. I am a full time college student just entering my second year. I hear all you stressed out moms. It is not easy not at all. Ive heard it to oh it will be worth it in the long run well ya I no that but it sure still is hard man I cant wait to graduate

Ria - posted on 09/01/2012

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i my name ria smith i love to go back to collage and get some where in my life for me and my little girl but i seem to hard because i can't a baby sitter or any thing my boyfriend he work silly hour one week 6 in the moring till 2 in the after noon then 2 in the after noon till 10 at night so if any can help me n tell me how do u do this

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Jennifer - posted on 06/16/2014

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I'm a full time working mom of two boys a 2.5 year old and 7 month old..and of course my big boy which is my husband...and I go to school full time as well...and I am completely overwhelmed...I have so much work and so much homework and so many things to do with the boys, because I don't want them not to have fun just because I have so much to do....Sometimes I just want to be alone for 10 minutes and readjust my mentality but I don't even really get that....

Jurika - posted on 05/30/2014

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I have a 3.5 year old, studying part-time (correspondence) and work as freelance writer. I thought MY life was hard - I salute those of you that take on a lot more and thank you for the encouragement! :)

Jessica - posted on 02/21/2014

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This is all so encouraging, I am a single mom of a 1 year old boy and am starting a new job next month. I am studying toward my degree and started before I was pregnant. I now have 12 subjects left and have been considering giving up but after reading this I know that with planning and discipline i can still achieve my dream and raise my son well. :) Thanks and bless you all :)

Claudia - posted on 01/08/2014

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I completely understand. Just remember you are setting the best example for your child by going to college. Your son will thank you later on in life, and he will probably follow your steps of going to college. I am proud of you! I am also a full time student and mother of a 28 month old son. He's a handful, and although I do not work (stay home mom), my life is still very stressful. I do not have the need to work, but those who do work and still go to school deserve an applause :)

Julian - posted on 04/12/2013

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It's overwhelming for sure. I work a full time job, sometimes have to work overtime. With college and 2 lovely children, I sometimes feel like I 'm going to lose it! But I'm just taking it one day at a time. I've got about 10 months left and I will be done! Just counting down and holding on... The hardest part is when my four year old begs me to quit school because she misses me two nights a week. That's a killer. I'm trying to have mommy dates with her so she feels like she gets some special time with me. We will see how that works. I'm crossing my fingers...

Staci - posted on 09/15/2012

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I completely understand how you feel. I am in grad school (seminary) part-time and I homeschool my 9-year-old son who has some issues that we are still trying to get diagnosed. My husband is disabled and severely depressed, and so is unable to help much. My mother lives with us so that she can help some with housework and stuff but she has a multitude of health problems that require constant monitoring (and she isn't good about doing it with me monitoring her). My son and I also both have health problems so we have to juggle in at least 3 doctor appointments a week too. With my son being in soccer, karate, and 4-H too, our schedule gets extremely hectic. Sometimes I just want to lock myself in my room and scream! It helps to have people that you can talk to you when things get overwhelming and who can help ease some of the pressure you feel having to try to balance being a student and a mom and an employee. Just remember it won't last forever! It took me 6 years to get through undergrad and it's going to take me that long to get through grad school too. But in the end it will be worth it! Good luck to you!

Candi - posted on 08/05/2010

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I feel the same way. I have 3 kids ages 11, 10, and 5. I go to school when I can. My husband is in the military, so its hard to get much help from him. Don't get me wrong, he is great! But some months he works nights and then for a week or 2 he will be on day shift and you really can't get a flexible college schedule!! The closest family is 6 hours away, so a babysitter is out of the question. I will have to wait until my kids go to school before I can think about going back. Its taking me forever to get my 4 yr degree and I will probably be the oldest person in my class, but who cares? As long as I get my degree before my oldest child does, I will be ok

Shaterical - posted on 06/15/2010

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BEING A FULL TIME COLLEGE STUDENT IS A DIFFICULT SITUATION WHEN U ARE TRYING TO BE A FULL TIME MOM ASWELL..SOMETIMES IT MAY FEEL AS IF YOUR CHOOSING YOUR EDUCATION OVER YOUR CHILD BUT YOU KNOW THAT THIS WILL HELP THE BOTH OF YOU IN THE LONG RUN...I KNOW I HAVE PUT MYSELF IN THIS SITUATION BUT I KNOW I HAVE TO MOVE ON AND NOT REGRET HAVING A CHILD BECAUSE I WOULDN'T HAVE ELIZABETH.

Jill - posted on 05/29/2010

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Hey.......you are living my life too. I got to school 3/4 time, work full time, have 3 kids at home and just got divorced. I have no family in the state I live in either. So, some weeks I do better than others. Keep plugging along I know it will be work it in the end.

Jaimie - posted on 05/15/2010

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I just want to say that all of you are so amazing for what you have done and for juggling school and mommyhood. I only have a4 month old at home and I am working full time while trying to finish my degree and i can't imagine doing it with more than one child and with older children. You are all amazing women and I hope you know that!

Jessica - posted on 04/25/2010

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I go to school full time, work "part-time" but full time hours most weeks, and have a 2 year old. Girl we are gonna go crazy before this is over with lol

Tiffany - posted on 04/21/2010

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I definitely understand. I just started a new job, although I am part-time, my son is 6 months old and I am in school full time. I only have a year left but it feels like a lifetime. Sometimes I wish I had taken this semester off instead of last semester but I was as big as a house so I couldn't go anywhere. I just feel as though it gets harder and harder sometimes and I know my family understands but not on the same level.

Emily - posted on 04/14/2010

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i have a 2 year old as well... i work nights bartending, so most nights i am getting only about 3-4 hours of sleep befor my son wakes up and i go to school as well. i feel your load... trying to make ends meet alone is tough, not to mention that the added stress of school. but i have to do it! i love my caos some days... i thnk thats what helped me the most embracing my chaos... that and alot of coffee, and the thought that i want my son to have it better then i did... i dont have anyone near me that can help me out and pick up the slack when i cant. his dad works days and my entire family is almost 80 miles away. though i am sure if i called, they would drive up, because they are just that cool.

keep your head up. you are doing an amazing thing with everything you take on kudos to you... and evey other mother out there that is in a similar position...

we rock! if you ever want to chat or just freek.... my email is efetter1@wi.rr.com. it goes right to my bb, so im just a send click away!

Karen - posted on 04/12/2010

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Hi Tiffany - I completely understand the pressures and stresses you are under. I am a single divorced mother of 3 children ages, 12, 9, 8 yrs. I work full-time and pursuing my paralegal studies part-time. when the pressure and stress gets a hold of me, I just cry out to God to give me extra strenght to endure..but I tell myself all the time you can make it, success comes through hard work. There are times when I feel like giving up but its the determination and faith in God that keeps me going...don't be discourage you are not alone...you can make...

Martinique - posted on 04/07/2010

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I really can relate, I am a mom with 7 kids, go to school and work full-time. Two days out of the week I don't get home till 1 am. so I don't see my kids or hubby at all on those days. He pretty much care for the kids those two days and I pick up the slack the other days. Its really hard to balance it all, but we are strong creatures. Sometimes we are doing things and when people say I don't know how you do it....I just say neither so I, but I am!!! So I hope you hold on and work hard and the dedication will pay off.

Stacey - posted on 04/02/2010

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Yes, I think we can all relate. :) I go to school full-time and work full-time. I am a single mom to an 8 year-old boy with autism and spd. Life is busy, challenging, and exhausting... but, I know it's worth it. I should graduate in nine months and I am definitely looking forward to having free time once again! Hmmm... maybe I'll actually get 8 hours of sleep once I have my degree. ;) Good luck to you and feel free to contact me any time.

Jessica(Katie) - posted on 04/02/2010

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oh trust me i know. I am mom to a 9 month old who sleeps maybe 4 hours a night if I am lucky, full time caregiver to my parents(both disabled) Husband works away from home (that helps so i dont have to work as hard) And go to school more than ful time (full time is 12) I take 15 credits.Its a crazy life, and I know support is the best thing. Finding someone who can relate. I hope that everything works out for you. But dont give up you can do it and it wil benifit your family.

Amanda - posted on 03/25/2010

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I go to school 1/2 time and work full time and have a 1 1/2 year old. My husband is unable to worrk so he disabled. I know the pressure of it all. It's hard very hard. Sometimes I just want to run away, but I know when i'm finished w/ school and it will be all better. Just hang in there and take it day by day, everything u doing is for ur lil one & at the end of the day if tried ur best and u know u did ur best then thats all that counts.

Megan - posted on 03/12/2010

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I can understand where you are coming from I just recently had to go part time bc it is a lot I have a 9 month old son and I go to school full time I am in LPN program! It is very stressful and sometimes I just have to tell myself that it will eventually be worth it!

Nicole - posted on 03/07/2010

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Hi Tiffany, I'm Nicole. Although I'm still pregnant and this will be my first child i get scared that I will soon feel the pressure of school, work, and being a mom. It's difficult already because at my school I have to secure a B in all 4 of my classes in order to make my semester count in the case that I go into labor before I can finish the semester, because my due date is so close to finals. Anything less and I risk taking 13 wasted credits, not to mention time. Like I said since I haven't had my child yet, I don't really know the full effect of being a "mom in school" but I worry that I will try so hard to be dedicated to finishing the requirements for my degree I may neglect my child at the same time. I would just like to extend to you my ear if you even need one :) I would also appreciate if any other moms have advice for me. Thanks, Nicole

Anita - posted on 01/26/2010

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Hi! Tiffany i am to a busy mom i have 6 kids the older girls are big 2 lives on there own and one is going to college this sept . and i have 3 other children my son which is the only boy is started school in sept . and the other girls are going in grade 3 and 6 if any time you need to talk let me know i just finish part of my school course of daycare and want to do my ECE but one of my friends told me to do it online .. hope to hear from you . Anita

Cidalia - posted on 01/24/2010

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OMG, Sarah, I have the dedicated grandparents, but they watch my little one while I'm in school or at work, so when I'm home, he's with me (he's 2 1/2), and he's a handful. There is never any down time. I also have 2 other children, ages 12 and 8. I go to school full time and work part time. You take it one day at a time...

Tasha - posted on 01/21/2010

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I agree with Jocelyn. She makes a very valid point when saying it feels like your choosing school over your child(ren). I too am in the same situation as everyone here. I have an 11 month old son, I work 30+ hours a week, and I'm going to Paramedic school 3/4 time while also attempting to work clinical hours...it's hard, REALLY hard, but if you have people there to help you, don't be afraid to ask. I've had to overcome my independence and ask my son's grandparents and his father for the extra help so I can better myself to provide for my son. Chin up, you can do it!

Jocelyn - posted on 01/18/2010

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I hear you. I'm in grad school and am in an internship. I would not be able to do it without my mother-in-law and my husband. It sucks when it feels like you are choosing school over your child(ren), but just think you are being a better mother by going to school because you are improving your ability to provide for them, and hopefully you are nourished by what you are learning and that's important for us to do too. Homework doesn't feel like nourishment, but we wouldn't be studying what we are studying if we weren't interested in it right? It will be worth it and it won't last forever.

Jacque - posted on 01/14/2010

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I can totally relate. I have an 11, 8, and 3 year old. Working fulltime, attending college, and taking care of my family is not the easiest thing I have to do, but it will all be worth it in the end. Keep up the good work.

Leslie - posted on 01/06/2010

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a TON of us can relate but the end result will be soooooo worth the sacrifices

Bridget - posted on 01/02/2010

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Just keep it up...it will pay off in the end!!! Although my situation is easier now (I am a grad student, I'm married, I only work part time and not all the time and my oldest is 16, my youngest is 6) When I was an undergrad I was a single mom working full time, going to school full time. I often wonder how I did it, but the answer is really simple, I had too!! If you ever want to talk or need moral support, feel free to add me on facebook or email me at mommahelms@hotmail.com ...

Xiaoli - posted on 01/01/2010

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hi,
I am in the same situation. Single mum working and studying. Alot of juggling and balancing... i can relate to what you are talking about..The heavy load is not easy but worth it in the end..

Tasha - posted on 12/28/2009

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Hi Tiffany - I completely understand the pressures and stresses you are under. I have a 3y/o and 7y/o and I have been in school since 2006. The only way I get through it is with the support of my mother and husband. It can be a lot at times and I feel like I don't have any time to myself. I work all day then come home to spend some quality time with my boys (and hopefully my hubby) before starting my homework or work on my assignments. I try to do some school work while I'm at work during the day but that rarely happens. Just hang in there and know that you are not alone and it will pay off for you and your family in the end.

Good luck!!
Tasha

Sarah - posted on 12/27/2009

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I'm in the same situation, and omg it is hard! Sometimes I wish my baby had more dedicated grandparents or maybe a nearby babysitter, but most of the time it feels like more than I can take. My husband helps but he works full time and just started his own business so we're both really busy! I hope my degree pays off because I have no spare time, it really sucks sometimes when you need a break. One thing that has been helpful is that my employer allows me to have a somewhat flexible schedule and that helps. Good luck out there and best wishes, you're not alone, but sometimes people don't understand how worn out you really are and how precious your time is!

Nichole - posted on 12/22/2009

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I am the single mom of a 5y/o and a 6y/o and for the past 4 years I too have been working and going to school.... I know exactly what you mean!

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