Leah - posted on 04/15/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )
My 10 yr old son was removed from school, emergency exclusion, weds due to yelling that he felt like blowing up the school and later telling principle that he only wants to hurt himself not anyone else. Come to find out that since january he has had thoughts/feelings of "hurting" himself. He says he even tried to choke himself with the seatbelt one day when I yelled at him. He has. Even diagnosed (years ago) with ADHD, mild seperation anxiety, depression, dysgraphia, unofficial PTSD and is currently on concerta and a nightly dose of tenex.
He has had a rough time in school and his current school (been there 3 yrs) has failed numerous times to intervene when he has been bullied etc. he told me and his counselor that he feels sad and lonely at school as he has no friends at school, gets picked on, bullied, not listened to, he hates being different, but the worst is when he gets yelled at by grown ups-when he is telled at is when he feels like hurting himself.
It is so heartbreaking. ..
He has finally started talking about these feelings and it scares the hell out of me. We haven't met with the safety rep for the schools yet but I know the principle does not want him back at that school (she has been pushing all year for him to be put in a self contained classroom due to fighting and really I don't want him back at that school as they are just adding to his problems.
The question is if I don't put him back at that school then where do I put him? There is a therapeutic private school placement within our neighboring school district that I feel would be excellent for him. The school district has told me however that that is a last resort school as it is considered the most restrictive environment as he would not be around and general Ed students. The school has said we would have to try and fail a self contained classroom for behaviorally disturbed kids at the public school. My concern with that is he is already depressed due to not fitting in with gen Ed kids and being picked on so wouldn't this classroom make things worse as his former peers will see him there and know he's in that classroom? I wouldn't mind taking him to the homeschool resource Ctr for classes but then I have to leave my job.
How can I help situations get better?
Oh I am also calling for appt with children's hospital for a new full eval and psychiatrist as his current psych is hard to reach his counselor is great though.