Dawn - posted on 01/29/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
I don't know what to do anymore. I am at my wit's end. My son is 5 years old. He has not been "officially" diagnosed with ADHD because he is apparently too young. I am looking for a child psychiatrist to get the ball rolling.
Some background info. My Dh and I adopted our son from foster care. He came to us, his fourth home, when he was 22 months old. He was removed from his bio mom at birth. He was prenatally exposed to cocaine and alcohol and tested positive for both at delivery.
He attends a preschool disabled program with an IEP for speech and readiness. His teacher describes him as high maintenance but can be easily redirected.
We try to control the ADHD with the Feingold all natural diet. Overall, he's a great little kid but lately he has been very physically aggressive towards everyone in the house. Last week, he tore his room apart including the mattress off the bunk bed. Last night, among throwing toys and spitballs at me, he threw a wooden rolling pin at me. Tonight, after a reasonably good day, we went to his room for bed and story time and found his closet doors and dresser full of dings. He banged on them with his sister's doll crib leg. He breaks all his toys and then his sister's toys. When he doesn't get his way, he attacks her, knocking her down and biting her. She is his 4 years old biological sister with a similar history but no behavioral/ learning problems. He lies about everything. If he thinks he may be in trouble, he yells, "Don't hit me" or "Don't spank my butt". We don't spank....ever!!! This really bothers me. I am afraid someone will believe him and call the authorities
His toys were removed from his room and put in his playhouse outside. He tells us he hates us and he's going to hurt us one way or another. I just don't understand. My DH and I are not violent people.
I just don't know what to do anymore...He is small now but I am afraid of his actions when he's older.
Thanks, I just needed to vent.