ADHD children with anger.

Stacy - posted on 04/16/2009 ( 80 moms have responded )

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Anyone dealing with a ADHD child that has anger issues?

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Linda - posted on 04/16/2009

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As a Mom who has been dealing with a child and grandchildren of ADHD I can tell you that both of them have had anger issues.  I have found that alot of their anger comes from teachers who are not as patient with them as required, making examples of them in classrooms, being shunned by their peers, and their feeling of no self worth, because they are always being put down, if not by us, by all these other people, constantly telling them that they have done something wrong, stop being so noisy, pay attention, why didn't you read the directions or follow the direction I gave you, I can go on and on with reason why.  Praise for what they do right is so very important to them and you.  It does help them feel like they can do something right. We even got to praising for sitting down to the table to eat, anything and everything we could think of to let them know they can do something right.  You might speak to the teachers and request that when they give instructions for papers that they actually go and give the directions to the child, then ask the child to repeat the directions.  Have the teacher praise the child for doing something like being quiet during a class, small things can make a child that has anger feel good about themselves.  There are ADHD parents groups that have formed all across the U.S., contact your local community mental health center and find if they have any in the area.  Counseling is another way, but I  am sure if the child has already been diagnoised you have the child in counseling in order to get the medication as that is normally something the ped's require.  Good luck, but remember to try and praise the child for rights, and ask teachers to do the same.  Just a little of everyones time can make a world of difference to a child with ADhD. 

Louise - posted on 04/19/2009

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Hi i can relate to everyones stories ! my 8 yr old now takes strattera which settles her anger a lot although she still has crying tempers if she doesnt get her own way ! but before my daughter was on meds she would kick, bite , scream she even threw a knife at me...it was getting really scary....i do recomend that if any mum worries just the slightest go get help caus ealthough these kids really love us we are their would even though they may or may not say it....they really can not help their anger/ agression issues....and the saddest part is most of the time my daughter cant even remember what she did wrong and why i am so standofish with her......

Julie - posted on 12/17/2012

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I am sure you are learning quickly that they go hand in hand. The anger is from the frustration, the frustration is from the inability to perform like others.
I have a Wave Master Boxing Bag that my boys beat until the timer goes off for the new "timeout"
I also am a Kickboxing instructor, so I know how effective exercise is for anger management :)

Kerrylee - posted on 04/19/2009

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My son is 8 and gets angry very easily he takes it out on his older sister 12 and also his younger sister 2. He will say I hate you alot and will throw toys around and kick the door when he chucks a temper tantrum.

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My son who is 6 is also constantly angry. He was not that bad before we started the adderall. Once he was on that his anger went off the scale. We talked with his doctor about it after he had been on it for 2 weeks and the doctor decided to put him on Metadate. He said that meds have different ways of treating the ADHD. In some kids the ADHD is the main problem and the behavior is secondary. Where as in other kids the behavior is the main problem and the ADHD is secondary, which this is the way it is for my son. Now that he is on Metadate, he seems to be doing a little better. He still gets pretty angry, but not as often. He is also going to sleep at like 9:30 instead of like at midnight when he was on Adderall.



I constantly hear that he hates me and everyone else. Then a couple of minutes later he will say he is sorry and doesn't mean it. I would talk to your doctor about his anger and see what they say about it.

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Marisela - posted on 08/27/2014

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Yes. I have a 13 year old that has ADHD and I m struggling. With his anger issues, he's doing good at school but he get really angry when things are being taken away, he is not on medication, is there any advice on what I can do.

Steph - posted on 04/19/2013

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Hi Loretta, I was just wondering what you do about the stories your kids tell their teachers about you? Has CPS ever came to investigate? I will tell you my son was in preschool just turned 5, and CPS showed up at my door because his teacher said that I hit him on the head over a video game, and we don't even own a video game and also, we would never lay a hand on our child! well CPS obviously just went on their way. But it scared me to death, we DO NOT use physical punishment, he gets grounded or time out. And since then it has worried me that he will get mad at me or that will happen again. I have no clue how to handle that! Did you ever get anything figured out with your similar situation? He also is the type of child that if you ask to many questions or something too many times he will begin to make things up or if you put any kind of idea in his head he will run with it and use it, hes very bright and imaginative! I need help!

Steph - posted on 04/19/2013

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Hi Loretta, I was just wondering what you do about the stories your kids tell their teachers about you? Has CPS ever came to investigate? I will tell you my son was in preschool just turned 5, and CPS showed up at my door because his teacher said that I hit him on the head over a video game, and we don't even own a video game and also, we would never lay a hand on our child! well CPS obviously just went on their way. But it scared me to death, we DO NOT use physical punishment, he gets grounded or time out. And since then it has worried me that he will get mad at me or that will happen again. I have no clue how to handle that! Did you ever get anything figured out with your similar situation? He also is the type of child that if you ask to many questions or something too many times he will begin to make things up or if you put any kind of idea in his head he will run with it and use it, hes very bright and imaginative! I need help!

Phaedra - posted on 04/18/2013

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Hey ladies I know how u feel i have a 15 yr old girl with adhd with aggression. so i have the puberty monthly and that with her. At home when she starts hitting her blowing point most the time she calls our dog in her room with her and lays down he seems to help sometimes with her. also there is a site with articles called samsha the topics range from behaviors mental issues to dependency. Believe me she is hard i get calls from her teachers saying she dances on her desk and throw pencils, in 4th grade she made her teacher studder and cry and full grown man. She is also taking a med that is call vyvanse hope it works cuz the concerta didnt seem to.

Steph - posted on 04/18/2013

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Hi LeAnn Powers, I know your post is from 2012 but I just found this website and some of the post made me feel a little relieved to know that I am not the only parent that is going through this. My son was diagnosed with ADHD when he was about 5, hes been on meds for it but I also believe he has ADD also. But he gets into trouble because of his anger, the school says he is out of control and it brings me to tears because my husband and I are at a loss. we do not know what to do anymore, he has changed one of his meds twice we are on the 3rd time, and since we changed it about a week ago he has been completely out of control, mainly at school. When anyone tries talking to him, he will laugh in your face, he even done that to his teacher and the school counselor, and hes only in kindergarten. I am terrified of his future, especially with what is biologically in him. Do you have any suggestions?

Mindy - posted on 03/13/2013

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I have 4 kids, but my 11 year old is so angry he hits on his little brother that has A blood disorder, he has o.d.d a.d.d a.d.h.d. he fights me everyday on everything, at night he screams at the top of his lungs that he cant sleep waking up his 2 brothers n baby sister, I need help with him I do not no where to start with a child with all these disorders, please any ideas of where to start, I have been to the pediatrics. Doctor he can give him something. For a.d.d. but will not help the o.d.d help ,

Jessica - posted on 12/26/2012

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I have a 10 year old with ADHD, he use to have a horrible mean temper, which invovled screaming and trowing stuff and omg just horrible things. He is now on medication, which I was kinda reluctant to start at first but he is now a pleasant, happy young man. He is on vyvance 80mg!!! The only downfall is he has lost ALOT of weight and has trouble sleeping at night..... Also, if he misses a dose he becomes very hyper and cries non stop for no reason and it's very hard to settle him down.

Phaedra - posted on 12/25/2012

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I have a 15 year old daughter that has adhd with aggression and let me tell you it is hard to deal with. We just have her pick a place that she can go and calm down. And have to remind her to take her meds. I also had her eyes checked and she needed glasses that helped with some of the aggression. I also take time out to just spend one on one with her which has also helped since she is a twin and has a brother 10 months older.

Lisa - posted on 12/20/2012

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It does get easier.. maynot seem like it but my son was 2 and a half when dr put him on prozac for ADHD,Aniexty my son has been away from me on and off since he was 4! this last hosp stay i think they finally got it right ..his current diagnose is PDD ..he was on like 10 diff meds before the age of 6, when we left the hosp he told the staff "i wont be back this time" i made sure he went to the same hosp each time...this year alone he was there 3 times...its been a longgggg 7yrs but with god in our hearts and finally the right meds(hopefuly) we will be fine. does any one know if i can sue my sons Dr of 5 yrs for misdiagnose??

Samantha - posted on 12/19/2012

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I believe my 3 year old has ADHD. He is always jumping up and down, won't sit still, etc. My husband has it so it's a possibility he does. Same with my 4 year old. He has anger issues and Autium. I know my 3 kids will have something cause my husband has ADHD, Bipolar, So I am really in for it! LOL

LeAnn - posted on 12/14/2012

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I agree with the comments about their child feeling segrated from the crowd. My son is almost 7 years old and was diagnosed at age 5. Every day I get yelled at, he hits the walls, kicks the doors, and screams at me. I'm so tired of the abuse from him but I know part of it is out of his control. He takes 10mg of Focalin in the morning and 4mg of Intuiniv at night. It stopped the hyperness but as time went on, he is now so angry. From what I've read most of the medicines tend to do that. He use to be very happy and outgoing, but now he is angry all the time and instead of getting in trouble at school for his impulses, he gets in trouble for his anger. He is so sefl conscience and socially withdrawn. That was not him before all this. He needs something to help him pay attention but is it worth losing my son's outgoing, nice personality. I'm scared for his future and I don't want him to be ostracized.

Ashley - posted on 10/28/2012

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my 8 year old as adhd and anger issues. he used to be really happy and outgoing, always wanting to help people and make everyone smile, always extremely good, but over the summer it changed. we ended up having to put him in the hospital for a week. they put him on medicine, which helps alot, but he also sees a therapist every two weeks, and were starting to learn more about why he is so angry all the time now. he loves going to the therapist. im not big on medicine, but everyone told me to trust the doctor's and that i could take him off if i didnt like how he was on it, so i trusted the doctor's and it seems to help alot. the main i requested tho, is medicine that doesnt not make him a zombie. i still want him to be himself, just without the anger. i also was dead set against putting him in the hospital...my mother in law kept trying to get us to, and we kept saying no, and then he had 3 very violent acts in one day towards his 2 brothers and our kitten, and me and my fiance talked about it and decided to go ahead and get help because we couldnt let him keep hurting everyone else. so, i called around to differant hospitals, and found one we liked, so we set up an appointment for the next day, and they decided it was best if he did inpatient. it was very hard to leave there without our son, but i have to say it really helped, and he is starting to return to the happy, caring, loving, little boy he was before.

Rebecca De La - posted on 08/19/2012

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In children parks i get some mum's or grand mum's looking at my boy with a disgusted face and sometimes moves the child away from mine or just looks sicken by how he behaves but they dont know my son and has no right to judge it makes me so annoyed!

Rebecca De La - posted on 08/19/2012

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Hello mum's.... My son is 7 and say's he hates me slam's his door and will turn his room upside down and slaps or pushes me its very hard and hurts my feeling's times are tough he does say sorry sometimes and is such a cutey at times... My doctor said my son has all the obvious signs for ADHD and im waiting on a appointment for pediatrician for a diagnonis... My son loses interest very easy and never sits still to eat he always on the move fidgeting and climbing playing dangerously and see's no danger has a very short attention span and run's all of a sudden like a headless chicken.... Bounces off wall's and shop windows zooms round with shop trollys ... slides cross floors then holding on to automatic doors to drag him long and he just does not listen to anyone and when playing and saying enough is enough when playing to rough or silly he just does it even more.. If i dont get him what he wants in town etc he will have a tantrum and hit his arms against his sides or throw things... He said to me other day 'are you a mommy or a retard which i just could not believe it just cant wait for his appointment .

Neetu - posted on 08/07/2012

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my child is very angery he attact me and use abussed word he is 7 year old pl can u help me

Ruth - posted on 07/24/2012

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i have never cried when he says he hates me. i know its just anger because he cant get what he wants! i just try to ignore him. then he cries and kicks off etc. but what else is there i can do ya know? lol x

Jaime - posted on 07/24/2012

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He has made me cry numerous times saying he hates me and wants to leave...or that I don't love him anymore. I understand the frustration and having a 20 month old going through the worst terrible 2's possible at the same time - I am starting to wear down.

Ruth - posted on 07/24/2012

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my son says i hate you to me and anyone else if he cant get his own way. such an attittude problem so hyper constantly. its exhausting! :(

Jaime - posted on 07/20/2012

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My son is 8 now and he is the sweetest boy a lot of the time, but when he gets upset it is bad. We call it the Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde moment. He hits and kicks, I was pregnant with our now 7 mth old and he kicked me right in the stomach...I almost lost it. I just walked away while he dad put him in his room. Later after settling down and realizing what he did he got VERY upset he hurt me and could have hurt the baby (God bless he didn't). But these things just come out so sudden like we will be having a wonderful time and at one second it totally switches. He has never hurt the other kids though.

Lisa - posted on 07/15/2012

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omg yes big time i use to get hit daily and my son is 87lbs! we just started addrell saturday for his hyperness hope it helps his anger as well.

Danette - posted on 04/27/2012

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My son is 6. He has been diagnosed with ADHD since 4. All of a sudden over the last few months he has gotten so mean (over nothing, at times). He yells he hates us, he is going to kill us, hits the kids I babysit, is now hitting kids at school, kicks and punches the walls, and so on. I don't know what to do anymore. I took him for the assessment at our local mental health, and it's over a month before his psychiatrist. He is being a holy terror at school, and now his teacher just called and they are going to have to refer him to the office because it's happening so much. I don't know what to do anymore, he is out of control most days.

Laura - posted on 04/21/2012

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I have two boys with ADHD and dyslexia. My elest son has anger issues and sometimes he breaks things in my house. He also does not take well to discipline if he has done something wrong and I am at my wits end.

I dont know what to do and how to handle it

Sylvia - posted on 04/19/2012

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OMGoodness I SOOOO am, are you pulling your hair out? LOL Though my son is ADHD/ODD. It is very hard, He is 10 and acts like a mouthy teen. Almost like he has a chip on his shoulder at times. Alot of my son's pissyness comes from things at school like class work all day then alot of home work after school his little brother being in his bubble all the time lol. I also found that if he doesnt eat enough at school he will be pissy, so I have the school give him snacks. I found that time out works with my son, I was always a sucker before letting him get out of time out to soon, but once I stuck to the time out time it works good. So now the moment he gets mouthy I ask "would you like to sit in time out because it sure sounds it, his reply is always no mom sorry". then he is good but if he does it again there isnt a warning straight to time out. It's hard and all kids are differant. i wish you luck :)

Loretta - posted on 04/18/2012

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I have a 13 year old daughter that has severe jealousy issues and she has to have my attention 24/7 or she threatens me to tell the teacher im abusing her...then i have a 10 year old daughter that is bi/polar and ADHD and anxiety disorder...she has severe tantrums that destroys things and cussing at hits her 6 year old brother...when both kids are in their moods they gang up on me and verbally attack me...they have threatened me numerous times and my 10 year old even went as far as telling the teacher lies about me just to get removed from the home cus she wasnt getting her way....my 6 year old does very well...no behaviors at all....i have had my 10 year old in therapy and it did not work at all...This momma needs advice....

Nicola - posted on 09/18/2011

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Can anyone help i am pretty sure my 9 year old daughter has got the mild form of ADHD as she is very hyper and gets very angry and hits whoever is in her way i have had a black eye,a bruise on my arm and cheek and my oldest gets hit too i am not getting any help from school or the doctors as they did a questionera and it came back fine for school and hyper for home so they blame myself. Got her end of the year school report and it says she is not giving 100 percent to her work and helping another children with there work instead of doing her own please can someone help need to talk to someone as fell as i am on my own thanks.

Becky - posted on 03/06/2011

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I am an adult with ADHD who is not on meds and I am losing my family and husband. I get so angry that I say things to hurt and want to hurt my husband.
We don't believe in divorce so I feel trapped because my husband doesn't treat me like an adult.
I don't want to explode any more and especially in front of my 3 boys so I go to my room so my mouth doesn't go off .
I am a Christian and this makes everything worse because I feel like I am failing God by giving in to the anger I have.
I don't discipline my boys for bad behavior because I don't trust myself..I need Help!

Becky - posted on 03/06/2011

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I am an adult with ADHD who is not on meds and I am losing my family and husband. I get so angry that I say things to hurt and want to hurt my husband.
We don't believe in divorce so I feel trapped because my husband doesn't treat me like an adult.
I don't want to explode any more and especially in front of my 3 boys so I go to my room so my mouth doesn't go off .
I am a Christian and this makes everything worse because I feel like I am failing God by giving in to the anger I have.
I don't discipline my boys for bad behavior because I don't trust myself..I need Help!

Becky - posted on 03/06/2011

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my 9yr old has constant outbursts and throws things all the time. He is one of three boys and is the youngest.
He also says words he hears that we don't allow in the house.
My oldest son was diagnosed with ADHD when he was in 3rd grade so we put him on medication and he has never been the same. He has been meds-free from 5th grade til present (8th grade). His attitude and disrespect has rubbed off on my 9yr old I think.
I won't put my 9yr old on meds after what it did to my oldest..

Christina - posted on 05/19/2009

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My 9 year old son has ADHD he can get very angry sometimes usally the is a underlining reason but often can just be "can you move you coat please" and thats it he gets into a fit of rage shouting swearing hitting himself and whatever is around him it can sometimes take up to 30mins to calm him but once he is calm it is sometimes like it never happened for him while everyone else in the house is upset and down it is so hard to try and understand what these children are going though inside there head my son has low self esteem which is a real problem for him he thinks every thing he does is "crap rubbish" when in fact he is bright in many ways and just cant seem to see it i have done all the charts and reward scheme i can think of and they all can work for a little bit but then it goes down hill . If he doesn't get something he wants it is the end of the world and he feels everyone around him hates him and so in turn when he is angry he says he hates us all wants to kill us and even threatens to kill his siter while she sleeps when social service said this they said he is not bad enough for them to help he is currently going to special school but high school is not that far away and myself and my husband are so unsure what to do for that he has his good days and they are fantastic under all his problem i know ther is a sweet caring child if only he could show it more often instead of hate i am sorry i have rambled on for many words but once i get going there is so much going on i my mind i just wish i could take away his pain when he is angry he is my speacial boy and even though he thinks we love his little sister more he couldn't be more wrong

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My son is 8 and has ADHD. He also has a lot of anger issues. He fights with his 7 year old sister constantly, and like to say "you are mean" and "I hate you." One of his other favorite sayings is "this is the worst day ever." I hear that just about every day. When he is not angry, he is a very sweet and loving child. It's so frustrating.

Karmen - posted on 05/16/2009

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I have an 11 year old who is dealing w/anger issues. He is aggressive. Now that he is in middle school it has gotten worse. We have had to increase his meds & now I am even on anxiety meds since I was not able to handle it on my own.

Traci - posted on 05/15/2009

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Seriously, Its the meds its the meds its the meds! I just posted another topic on trouble this year at school it tells our whole story with Scottys medications. He has been off meds since Easter weekend that was my breaking point. He is a tottally different kid. Try reading the online book Three Steps to Conquering ADD/ADHD it really opened my eyes. I had already taken him off his meds when I found this online, but I totally believe it. The medications do not cure this I don't even think they help most of these meds cause serious depression or anxiety. How else would a child express that feeling than through anger. I had no idea why he was so angry and asking us if he just wanted him to die? at seven where would he ever get that idea? then I tested my theory taking him off his meds for a week or two at a time then re medicating him and I couldn't believe it it was the meds. We tried Srattera the final med it took way longer to notice the anger creeping up but it did and I just snapped and said NO MORE. I am done. I also have an adult friend who was able to tell me how awful his meds made him feel when he waas young. Get the book and read it if you cant afford it ill give you access to my copy!

Traci - posted on 05/15/2009

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When we took my son off his meds he mostly stopped these behaviors hes really hyper now but he doesnt hit his sister or himself now. And he is much easier to reason with. we tried four medications after a while I had forgotten that hyper Scotty was better than crazy depressed Scotty he is happy again and smiles alot and is crazy hyper but its so much better.

Justine - posted on 05/15/2009

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I have a five year old that goes into rages. These go beyond the normal tantrums everyone says they are. We get the standard, I don't love you, I hate you, you make me sad etc. He is set off by the word "no" and starts to meltdown no matter where we are including public. He will throw things, hit his sister and kick doors. We've had to resort to sending him to his room to calm down if he's in a crisis. He's even done it at school and scared the bejeepers out of his teachers.

Advice I was given was to detach from the situation and stay calm...yeah right. There are times when nothing works with him and I will tell him to go to his room and come out when he feels better. He has a chair at school he can use if he needs a break from the class. I don't know if that's a good thing but it can break the anger cycle with him.

Good Luck.

Daphne - posted on 05/15/2009

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My son has ADHD and Asperger's. We were having some bad anger issues with him for awhile. We recently realized that his medicine was playing a big role in this. We had the doctor reduce the dosage. He still gets irritable at times, but not near as bad as before.

Shannon - posted on 05/15/2009

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My children are described in each one of these posts. I have 2 ADHD boys and possibly my little girl. I am overwhelmed with the anger. In my oldest son we have been dealing with this since first grade and he is in 4th. My middle son will start school in the fall and am fearful of the cylcle starting all over. I too have ADD, so the structure is difficult. I was very structured when I was growing up and once I was on my own, things fell apart. I need help with this. My husband works out of town and am doing this on my own and feel like I am failing. My two year old tells me I hate you mommy becuase she hears her older brother say it. Completely breaks your heart...my boys have done well with meds but the anger is getting out of control. Dr wants his tested...i think is the meds becuase on the weekends with no meds he doesnt act that way....am soo frustrated

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It is common for a child with ADHD to also have ODD. Oppostional Defiant Disorder. Many times when you treat the ADHD the ODD part will also improve. This is the case for my little girl. She is five and is now on Retalin and is doing wonderful. I have my baby back. I don't know what to do!

Steph - posted on 05/14/2009

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My daughter has this as well. I am a prime target most days. It's getting very tiring and I am running out of ideas as well. We have done so many things, but nothing is seeming to work! In fact, just a few hours ago, she had a major episode because he dad asked her to take her popsicle paper to the trash! She got very upset and it ended in her being escorted to her bedroom. We have 2yr old twins to be careful of as well. While she was up stairs, she broke her bedroom door, broke 2 blinds! We just got done ordering a new back storm door, and 3 window screens that she destroyed! I just don't know what else to do. The biggest issue we have is that we are renting the home we are living in and I am afraid that we will end up losing our home because of this behavior! Any thoughts on how to handle things? We are using charts, she has behavior therapy, therapeautic staff support aide in school...with emotional support classrooms, a mobile therapist, resource coordinator! We just seen the psych. dr and we are going to be adjusting her meds closer to the end of school! It doesn't seem like anyone can find any pattern to her behaviors...she is a very challenging child! Any suggestions?

I mostly want to say that it's nice to read these posts. It helps me feel that people understand what I am going through! I'm sure it helps you as well!



Wish the best for all the families in every circumstances!!

Take care!

Andrea - posted on 05/14/2009

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My younger son has picked up alot of his older brother's behavior as well. My oldest is at the age where it's ok to tell him that he has to be a good role model for his brother. I don't think my younger son has the emotional instability that my older one does. It's a monkey see monkey do type of thing.

Andrea - posted on 05/14/2009

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I had one other thought that I would like to share. We have made posters that state the rules of our home. We have also made one that states consequences for good choices and bad choices. One thing that I was taught in a parenting program was that if they know what to expect and we stay consistent, they eventually learn that this is how it is and that's the way it's going to stay. I'm not sure how old your child is, but you can adapt it to his/ her age. They also told me that I have to keep my emotions out of the discipline and to teach him that his feelings do not always justify his behavior.

Andrea - posted on 05/14/2009

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My 9 yr old son has ADHD and is also bipolar. His emotions are all over the place! He has a lot of anger and it has been a long, still continous road, trying to teach him how to deal with it. One thing I did learn is that when he can't slove a problem or is told the word "no", he flies off the handle. Children with ADHD don't usually handle change very well and a structured atmosphere, even at home, is best for them.

Jodi - posted on 05/13/2009

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Wow. . I see my son in many of these posts. My son will be 8 in June and was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6. Had a lot of behavior problems before starting school. . .to the point where my sitter finally told me she couldn't watch him any more. He was very destructive. . .drs thought he might have ODD but after seeing a therapist, they didn't feel that he had that. Last year came the ADHD diagnosis. He was on Ritalin and that seemed to help at first. Totally turned his 1st grade school year around. . .his teacher at the time was a godsend as she really exercised a lot of patience with him and worked with my husband and I weekly on my son's progress. He is now in 2nd grade and his teacher this year has no patience at all. I have explained his condition but it seems to go in one ear and out the other. We recently had his med switched to Concerta which seems to have helped a bit but it's only been about 2 weeks since the switch. He cries very easily and over the smallest things. Alternatively, he has an extremely bad temper and screams the typical YOU'RE MEAN comments, etc. He is still destructive when throwing a tantrum. . he's broke a window (with his head) and has slammed and kicked his bedroom door so much he's split it. It's exhausting, and sometimes I simply have to lock myself in my room and have a good cry until I calm down myself but it's something we deal with. . it's a learning process every day.

Jennifer - posted on 05/13/2009

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I am I have a little boy who seems to get angry easy and throws tamtrums.What do u do for it?I know I probally don't handle it properly.He doesn't get along with his little sister and the simple "NO" to something gets him going.I wish he just had a more possitive additude.What to do?

VALERIE - posted on 05/13/2009

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my son has been treated for ADHD since he was 6 years old but we knew something wasn't quit right by the time he was 4 years old. we started with Addrell XR but it did not help him with his behavior or on his school work. By the time we realize that the medicine wasn't do the right thing for him, he was in the 3rd grade. Since 3rd grade we have been going to a behavior specialist. she change his medicine to concerta and add a couple more to help with the anger and sleep issues. we thought at first he was acting out for attention but he has a brother 3 years younger. we hear ALOT of "I HATE YOU" and "I'M GOING TO KILL YOU". toward his brother. the thing we realized is that he gets very aggressive and protective over he things and friends.(and little brother know how to push his buttons). he does not like change. i have had to pull him out of after school care a couple of time but the staff did not understand him or anything about someone with ADHD. Luckily, he is now 11 year old and rides the bus home. There are alot of teacher and others who do not know how to work with these kids. I am very thankful that he is a at school where there are councilor and the teacher know how to work with him. But he will be starting Middle School in July and I know i am going to go though the hards again. He has some very close friends that over look his problems and see the true kid as we do. do not get me wrong...... everynight when the medicine is going out of his system, we play referee and councilor because there is a lot of yelling and "fits"but we learn to deal with it. we just hope one day he will grow out of it....at least that what they keep telling us........

Kellie-jo - posted on 05/12/2009

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both my hubbie and son who is 9 have adhd I've learned too let my son get out all of his physical energy whenever possible too help with his anger. A friend of mine also taught me too make sure he has a private place he can go too to escape everyone and have quiet time.I work nights so things can get a little hairy,but so far I'm staying sane. When he was on adderall it was really bad He would stay up for days and have very psychotic thoughts. I also try too make time for him and I too have a mommy and me day every once in a while even if it means keeping him home from school. He seems too respond very well too it. We'll go weeks without a complaint from his teacher. The temper tantrums are hard I know,but we all still know they love us. If anyone ever needs too talk feel free too look me up! Having another woman who understands really helps!

Stephanie - posted on 05/05/2009

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My son is 13 with adhd and yes he has anger problems. he is on meds he talks adderall 1 time a day. he will be happy one minute and so bad the next. he has alot of behavior problems. he has his highs and lows as you would say

Tracy - posted on 05/04/2009

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my son is 15 now and gets very frustrated at school,i agree that for the past 7 years he hasnt got on well at school because of this, its true they say he doesnt concentrate,pay attention and rush him to do something he hasnt understood. he hasnt been in full time education for nearly 6 months now because they keep putting him on a couple of hours a day or sending him to pru as they havnt got the patience or time that he needs to get on with his work.

Jami - posted on 05/04/2009

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Well, I shouldn't say no control. There is no hitting other than at times with his older brother but I expect that to a point. It is basically just the temper I notice. I have also noticed he is very sensitive to others and what they say to him.

Jami - posted on 05/04/2009

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I am currently dealing with my 7 yr old with anger control issues and I am noticing it with my 6 yr old. No patience, no control once angry.

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I have just found out that my son has ADHD . I am very new to this thing and meds . My son is very aggressive and has so much anger at times . He seems to be doing better in school but at home its hard . Does anyone know any tricks about calming and getting Homework done ?

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