ADHD or not ADHD

Krista - posted on 01/18/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have an 8 year old who has been diagnosed by one doctor with ADHD, placed him on Concerta, only to make his outbursts worse. There was little questioning by this doctor and he spent only 15 minutes with us but I was desperate for some relief. Then took him to another doctor who spent more time asking questions and did not think he had ADHD but thought he suffered from anxiety so he was put on Paxil. I saw great changes immediately but after 2 weeks, we were back to his tantrums and un-controllable behavior.



In my research, it appears that kids with ADHD normally show signs in the very beginning. In my case, he was a wonderful baby but by age one, I noticed his tantrums were un satisfiable. What had worked for my daughter, would not work for him and no matter what I did, things would get worse. After my marriage broke up when he was 2, my ex placed all the blame on me and my bad parenting skills so until recently, I accepted responsibility. Finally I started trying to find answers for although I'm not perfect, I don't see what I do any differently than a lot of parents. In fact, I've sacrificed all of who I am for this child and still find everyday to be a challenge.



An example, just last night we were at a 50th wedding anniversary. There were so many people I had not seen in years and I was having the time of my life. I thought it would be fun to take my kids with and besides, I didn't have anyone to leave them with. I had a little girl that kept coming to me telling me my son was being very mean to her so I tried to take him aside and talk to him. Still the little girl came up to me crying. Then someone from the crowd came to me to tell me she had reprimanded him for hitting his sister and that there was an outburst now that I should tend to quickly. In front of all these people, he was yelling the F word and finally had to be removed. I have secluded myself from so many activities because of this behavior and it is taking a toll on me emotionally.



Any advice from someone would be helpful. He is a smart kid, does OK in school grade wise but I have been called from work many times to have him removed from school. I am very desperate for guidance and where to go for a good proper diagnosis.

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Hayley - posted on 01/24/2009

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Diagnosing after 15mins does sound strange! It took months of deep questioning & observations for my son to get his, you need to get a second opinion from a different doctor because you need help. And also not  every child with adhd shows signs from a baby. I know most will say theirs did but my son didnt either! He was the easiest of my 3 sons! Although he was later diagnosed with autism also, he was quiet & calm, the only thing he did do was not sleep! He changed around 2 years and didnt I know it! good luck hun, hope you find the help you need!

Sara - posted on 01/19/2009

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Your son should be evaluated by somebody in the mental health field...and for longer than 15 minutes.  My son went through almost a week of evaluations and I had his teachers input on his behavior problems as well.  His diagnosis was not immediate.  You can start with a licensed counselor or psychologist.  Talk to his teacher or someone at the school.  They might be able to get you in contact with a school counselor or other resources in your area.  And--ITS NOT YOUR FAULT.  Kids who struggle with behavior problems often have trouble expressing themselves to begin with, and it sometimes manifests as "bad" behavior.  Hang in there.  There is help out there.  Don't wait...Be proactive and don't settle until you get the help you (and him) need.

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Angel is right.  go to your doctor or get another consult from a different physician to see a psychologist with your child.  there are test specifically designed to recognize the patterns of ADHD.  it sounds as if you may have an extreme case that needs attention quickly.  do not feel bad by taking him to see another doctor, the changes that you wuill see once you get to the bottom of all this will be great. 

Angel - posted on 01/18/2009

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First of all ADHD is not something that is diagnosed in 15 minutes or even an hour... My son went through serious tests from doctors and psycologists for a couple of months before getting his diagnosis.

I would suggest that you speak with your pediatrician and have him/her help you with where to turn.... (This since the Swedish health system and other countries are not the same...)

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