Krista - posted on 01/18/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have an 8 year old who has been diagnosed by one doctor with ADHD, placed him on Concerta, only to make his outbursts worse. There was little questioning by this doctor and he spent only 15 minutes with us but I was desperate for some relief. Then took him to another doctor who spent more time asking questions and did not think he had ADHD but thought he suffered from anxiety so he was put on Paxil. I saw great changes immediately but after 2 weeks, we were back to his tantrums and un-controllable behavior.
In my research, it appears that kids with ADHD normally show signs in the very beginning. In my case, he was a wonderful baby but by age one, I noticed his tantrums were un satisfiable. What had worked for my daughter, would not work for him and no matter what I did, things would get worse. After my marriage broke up when he was 2, my ex placed all the blame on me and my bad parenting skills so until recently, I accepted responsibility. Finally I started trying to find answers for although I'm not perfect, I don't see what I do any differently than a lot of parents. In fact, I've sacrificed all of who I am for this child and still find everyday to be a challenge.
An example, just last night we were at a 50th wedding anniversary. There were so many people I had not seen in years and I was having the time of my life. I thought it would be fun to take my kids with and besides, I didn't have anyone to leave them with. I had a little girl that kept coming to me telling me my son was being very mean to her so I tried to take him aside and talk to him. Still the little girl came up to me crying. Then someone from the crowd came to me to tell me she had reprimanded him for hitting his sister and that there was an outburst now that I should tend to quickly. In front of all these people, he was yelling the F word and finally had to be removed. I have secluded myself from so many activities because of this behavior and it is taking a toll on me emotionally.
Any advice from someone would be helpful. He is a smart kid, does OK in school grade wise but I have been called from work many times to have him removed from school. I am very desperate for guidance and where to go for a good proper diagnosis.