Child doesn't want to live at home anymore.

Lynn - posted on 09/19/2011

I have a 16 year old an a 13 year old that say the same thing.An when they dont get there way they tell me that they hate me an cant wait untill there old enough to move out.Both of them have ADHD to.

Nathalie - posted on 09/15/2011

I completely understand what you are going trough. I went trough the same thing with my son. The hospital psychiatist told me that it's a form of getting the attention that he wants. If he is depressed all that goes trough his head his negative toughts. My son even went has far has starting to hurt himself and treatening to kill himself. At that point I brought him to the ER at the childrens hospital here and told them that he wants to kill himself and they helped me out alot. It's so hard as a parent to go trough this, I felt so bad and did not sleep at night all the time. I would sit down with him and ask him to talk to you about it or get him an appointment with a psychiatrist. Wishing you luck with everything.

Heather - posted on 09/14/2011

One more thing...Is has nothing to do with being the 'right' mother, you are his only mother. Being a mother is SO HARD sometimes, Lord knows my kids have put me through the ringer! But, at the end of the day, I love them and will do whatever I need to to help them grow into productive, stable human beings. My kids are so smart, which is definitely a double-edged sword, and can be so manipulative. We just got over a rough patch with my 16yo DD, and when she said that she wanted to stay with a friend for "a little while", I told her that wasn't an option. It sounds rough, but I told her it was home of foster care, and she could take her chances!

Rochell - posted on 09/14/2011

I think we have all been here at some point in time, my son has ADHD combined type on top of several other issues, and he can be very impulsive and angry at times. He even went to the extent to tell his therapist how he wanted to kill me. Little freaky, but at the end of the day... they are snug in their beds.. where they feel safe. At 9 years old (my son is 8) it seems odd that he would be able to be depressed about too much unless you have recently gone through any major changes in life, it could even be that school started back up... my son very much dislikes any changes.. and every change is a month or more of our family being abused by him emotionally and sometimes even physically. I'm loving this site, not for what is going on, but just to know that we are not all alone! I wish you the very best with your son, and I would just tell him.. if you want to live somewhere else... then we will go to the police station and let them give you a bed there... your choice.. here or there... Just don't let him play with your feelings because these children are very smart.. and maybe he's just trying to get a reaction out of you??

Heather - posted on 09/14/2011

Have you thought about taking him to a child psychologist or therapist? I have two kids with ADHD, one also has depression. The depression, though, was not diagnosed for years because we attributed everything to the ADHD. If nothing else I would talk with his ped.