Exhausted mommy

Justine - posted on 06/10/2009

My son is five also. His sister who is three and he will have me so tired some days I look at their dad when he gets home and say, "Tag, you're it." My son is a constant battle. One suggestion that was made by a doc is to give him omega 3 chewy vitamins. They may help take some of the edge off his behaviour and outbursts. They won't change him into a new kid overnight. If you find that pill please, please let us know. :) I do agree with having him assessed. We got help with Quill before he was going to start school. He was in preschool at the time and his teachers had problems controlling him. Some school systems have preschool outreach programs. That might be a resource to look at. The case worker had to literally show my son how to play with his peers. He also sees his own therapist and is on medication.

His behaviour caused problems between his father and I at times. We had to learn how to parent him the best way possible. It's not easy work at all. I armed myself by reading everything I can about ADHD kids.

Good luck.

Pam - posted on 06/10/2009

Hello there,My name is Pamela Iam a mom of a 12 year old boy who is severly ADHD,and also has ODD,i also have a 8 year old daughter who is ADHD,there is light at the end of the tunnel ...as the old saying goes,As iam sitting here reading your story iam thinking wow sounds alot like me when my son was 5,it did not matter what i said to him it was a battle,and like you i felt completley helpless,everyday was a new adventure with him,and knowing that he has these conditions made it harder for me because my mommy side kicked in full force and i felt bad for him i felt it wasnt his fault...but thats were i was wrong,very wrong,children who have this type of disorder are very often mistaken for having learning disabilities,and behavioural issues,and so on,but in all actuall reality they are very aware of what they are doing it just kicks in alittle later than normal thats all,my son is now 12 and still on meds but it has been a very rough couple of years with this boy,i have had to stop feeling bad and bring on the discipline,by this i mean,consequences,for every action there was a reaction weather it be a good one or a not so good one there were rewards and there was also losing out on things that he really enjoyed doing,i guess its fair to say i had to choose my battles with him,it was very hard for me at first to take away things like ice cream and treats and things that were given to the other children for good behaviour,i felt bad,but in the end it seemed to all pay off there was many times i would just go to be bymyself and cry because i felt i wasnt being fair,but i knew that it was the only way to gain respect from him and to show him that i was't playing around,when i would ask him to do something i would give him a certain amount of time to complie,if he refused i would than remind him that he would be losing out on something later if he didnt do as i ask him to do,that was his first and only warning,i always gave one warning before taking something away,it went on like that for a while but he eventually got to the point that he knew i meant business he knew that he was gunna loss out on something and eventually i dint have to give him a warning ,dont get me wrong we still have our issues but they are down to a minimum an i dont expect him to be perfect but i do expect him to respect me as i do him and i do remind him of that,now with my daughter i feel like i got it down pat and i have more patience and more structure with her,i guess you learn from everything that you do...and i learn something new everyday with these guys but its always a pleasure to watch them grow into young adults that will go on there own one day and make us as moms and dads proud to say that they are our beauties,hope this helps a little good luck....

Philippa - posted on 06/06/2009

Hi there....you really do sound exhausted. Have you thought to get him properly assessed by a psychologist? This may help to identify what his needs are so that they can be met and result in a happier child (and mommy)