Ilene - posted on 09/28/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
My adhd son has had an iep for 1 1/2 years now. We learned last year from the assistant principal that she did not agree with his iep and that the IEP was incorrect. The original iep was based off of incorrect information from a kindergarten teacher who disliked my son when he had an undiagnosed hearing condition. This first teacher wanted him diagnosed with autism because he wasn't being social in class. Hmm, he couldn't hear anyone. He was transferred to another K class with a much better teacher after that first meeting.
Last year, he had a very rough teacher who yelled all the time. He doesn't like yelling people and disliked her a lot so he didn't try very hard in that class. The teacher abused his IEP and used it a punishment for whenever he didn't do something in class the way she wanted. At the end of the year, I specifically told the assistant principal I did not want a specific second grade teacher who this teacher was best friends with...and we were first placed with her but then moved to a much better teacher.
Move forward to this year....my son now with this really good teacher who is very positive and he is doing well in her class. The assistant principal called me during the summer to tell me that they would redo his IEP this year and re-assess him on the correct diagnosis of his vision problems.
I think I may have overemphasized behaving in class with him because he is shy and hasn't made many friends this year (it's three weeks into school). I know a lot of it is that he isn't into sports which a lot of kids his age are, and he is into the computer which a lot of kids his age aren't. Today, we got a very disturbing phone call from the school psychologist who hasn't even met with my son that "due to the notes from the last few years on his IEP that he MUST be autistic". I know for a fact that my son isn't. I know that it is a broad range spectrum disorder, but this kid is NOT autistic. I have seen him be very sociable with other kids during the summer. He is very capable of being social able when he wants to be...He is currently very upset that the computer lab hasn't' opened up at school which is his favorite thing, so yeah, he has moped a bit at recess. SO He Must be Autistic! Um, no. I think the schools are way too quick to jump to this conclusion. Vision problems, main focus not open yet, not an athletic kid...not autistic. Grumble