Help! My son is driving me crazy

Susan - posted on 01/20/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi, I am new to this site but I have been looking for any help available to help me. My son just turned 4 years old and he can't do any activity for more than 5 minutes.. I can turn on a movie he asked for and 10 minutes in he is up doing something else. I need help and I don't think his doctor will prescribe anything for a child so young. Does anyone have any suggestions.. I will take any help!



Susan

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Kim - posted on 01/21/2009

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my nephew is almost four is the same way. his father had adhd as a child and still has it as an adult. my daughter was offically diagnosed in july. from what i have read you can't really diagnose a child until they are at least 5-6 years old. you could try omega 3 fish oil. i buy mine from vitacost.com. i give my daughter her vyvanse in the morning and fish oil when she gets home from school. there has been a lot of research on fish oil.

Carolyn - posted on 01/23/2009

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Susan,



First, step back and take 3 deep breaths.  Feel any better.  My 4 year old is the same way.  My 14 year old has ADD and I think I just figured out he has ODD.  Now, I can tell you from experience a good pediatrician is not going to put a 4 year old on medication if he doesn't have to.  They really like to wait to see if the behavior is going to continue and disrupt school or social functions.  Boys are totally different animals from us.  I completely understand.  There are days when I just want to scream but I have to remember that Andrew is just wired differently than I am.  Very hard when I had my daughter before the boys.  It is very possible that your son will grow out of this phase too. 



My best suggestion is to get him moving.  The more physically active he is the more reasonable he may be.  I chase my son around the house.  My husband wrestles with the boys.  You may also want to read the book "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge.  It explains a lot about raising boys.  Things I never would have thought about not having any brothers. 



I hope this helps.  If you have any more questions just let me know.



Carolyn

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Amy - posted on 01/23/2009

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My 6 1/2 year old has been on Concerta for ADHD for two years.  It was very hard to find a doctor willing to medicate a 4 year-old, but we'd tried everything and were exhausted after deteriorating behavior since the age of 18 months.  (He was adopted at 9 months old.)  The Concerta has been GREAT and we've had to hardly tinker at all with the dosage the past two years.  Has he had a recent psychological/educational exam?  The Vanderbilt scales are complete by both caregiver and teachers (preschool teachers, too!) to determine ADHD, ODD, Conduct Disorder, Bi-Polar and Depression/Anxiety.  You may want to try a pediatric psychiatrist or pediatric neurologist, and they can both prescribe meds for your child.

Carolyn - posted on 01/23/2009

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i am so glad that helped Katherina.  I would recommend getting some books on ADD ADHD and diet.  It is amazing the number of foods that really affect those kids. 



You are not crazy. 



Carolyn

Katherina - posted on 01/23/2009

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Have just read Carolyn's comment, my son got dignosed with ADHD 2yrs ago when he was 7, i have never heard before that dairy products can affect children with ADD and ADHD, my son is dairy intolorent because his behaviour is terrible after to much dairy products, he is fine on most other types of food, but i do have to watch how much milk cheese etc he has... thankyou for making me relise im not completly mad at thinking dariy products could cause this problem lol
kate

Carolyn - posted on 01/23/2009

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Susan,



I forgot one more thing.  Try cutting out milk products if you can.  Cheese milk etc.  The fats in dairy products can really mess with an add child.  There are all kinds of book on diets for ADD kids.



Hope that helps.

Hayley - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hi, does your son actually have an adhd diagnosis? most doctors are only too happy to prescribe once diagnosed.  Try fish oils though you should stick with them a while to see any results. Karate & other clubs like this are a great help & have helped my son alot. Also I found time on computor consoles (in moderation) like playstations & ds are great for concentration. Trampolines are good too! Hes only 4 and I think hes concentration will improve abit, an adhd child doent have good concentration but you may find as he gets older he will be able to watch films etc just not sit still through them! (my son will watch while rolling over the floor, then sitting upside down or jumping on the chair or running run the room!

Renae - posted on 01/22/2009

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Try getting him involved in physical activity so he can release some energy. Martial arts works really well for kids with ADHD. I have heard of other kids using a trampoline or an old mattress to jump on. My son used to be in gymnastics which was great and is now in Karate. I would get hooked up with a good pediatrician and child psychologist that specialize in ADHD and other childhood mental illnesses. They can give you a wealth of information and resources. Good luck.

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