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Help with finding a school that is more helpful and understanding of ADHD. At my wits END!

Shanna - posted on 11/30/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son is in his second year with a private school and this year is completely different then last year. His 4th grade teacher ending up being the Principals wife who seems tired and irritable all of the time. She offers no assistance, not much feedback and doesnt feel its her responsibility to make sure my child has everything he needs for homework at the end of the day. My son is extremely forgetful and no matter how much I give consequences for his forgetfulness, its a part of who he is. I depend heavily on the teacher for support and I am always there for the teacher. But this year I find the principal involved WAY too much, he even went so far as to shout in front of the class to another classmate who is a friend of my sons, That he is not welcomed back to school unless he has his medication. Yes, the principal shouted this to the parent. Not once but twice. Well, his parents removed him from the school. I just do not want to allow this to go on and then get so frustrated that I remove my child from school and the school isn't held accountable. I've spoken to a board member who assured me things would change, But they haven't and I am unsure as to what the laws are and what my options are. I really am at the end of my rope. Seeking advice that is helpful.

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Dawna - posted on 12/08/2010

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my son was just kicked out of school due to anger and violent rages due to meds for ADHD, the principal wouldnt listen to me or him when we told her he was being picked on and when teachers wouldnt help him, yes he took matters into his own hands. I am a single mom so cant homeschool and have stuggled myself with this same situation, I wish you all the luck in the world

Sandy - posted on 12/07/2010

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Leave the school. Your son's education is the important issue. You cannot fight arrogance and stupidity and be there for his educational needs at the same time. Write a letter to the Board and leave.

Theresa - posted on 12/07/2010

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Because he is in a private school, you have little you can do. Private schools are not required to do anything to help your son, like a public school would be. Public schools must provide free and appropriate education, but private schools have the right to deny anything they want. I would like at a different school. It doesn't sound like you are going to get much help unless that board member is strong enough to make things happen. A public school may no be your choice, but there have to be other options, public or private.

Laurie - posted on 12/01/2010

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My son went through the same thing. The school he was at pretty much swept him under the rug...no help and no understanding. I would print articles of ADHD out for the teacher for some understanding and I would go to the school to help with him but nothing seemed to help. I pulled him out of that school and he has been attending his present school for 3 years and is doing wonderful! My son has an IEP which is an individualized education program that works on personalizing his education for better learning for him. If your son does not have one talk to someone asap to set one up for your son. I know in Michigan there is an education law that helps(sorry I can't remember the name of it) but do some research for your state and I'm sure you will find something. I wish you luck but don't give up.

Jennifer - posted on 11/30/2010

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I don't live anywhere near you, but the school I have my child in is wonderful. My son is in Kindergarten and is wasn't till recently that we got the proper diagnosis and medications for him. I just started with Kindergarten round up visiting with the teacher and letting her know things about my son that I felt she needed to know to understand any behaviors or lack of learning he may have. Since he has been in school I have been kept in daily contact with the school nurse and his teacher. I occasionally speak with the guidance counselor. My son sees the guidance counselor once a week to talk and she works with him on anger management and why it is important to learn.
I would just look for resources out there...ask the school for any resources such as AEA and ask for an IEP to be put in place.

I don't know what resources are available to you in Florida, but this is what I have to offer.

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