how do i help my son get off drugs?

Amy - posted on 11/04/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )

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have a 20 year old son on drugs how do i help him. and he is also adhd

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Julie - posted on 09/21/2013

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I am at my wits end my son my bright clever talented son is taking cocaine every time he can, he has stolen from us, and all our family, friends and now to top it off he has put my car window through to get money from my bag and in front of 40/50 people and vowed to break the "scoats neck" that had done this to his mum, we now find out that he did it and then spent the money - which wasnt mine but have to replace - and spent the money on cocain. Today he has stolen 40 pounds from my purse and denies any of it. I have just this week managed to get back his Dads ipod and speakers that he pawned, I really dont know what to do anymore, his Dad has said in the morning thats it he goes and leave our home - what do I do please help I can not cope anymore with the lies, stealing, drug use. He was such a loving caring intelligent boy I want my Matthew back!!!!!!!!1

Jenny - posted on 11/24/2012

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I need help...my son is addicted to herion. Been through everything. Nothing works okay I will admit......I even tryed to take my own life. Im desperate.. Anyone have any ideas on what I can do to help him. He wants help his body cant do it. He is my life without him I have nothing...

Melissa - posted on 12/31/2013

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My son is 23 years old and I feel like I have failed as a mom.He don't want to come home at nights. I feel like I have lost him and this breaks my heart .I know I can't help him until he is ready for it but I don't want to bury my son at the age of 23 but I fell like my hands are tied behind my back right now. I know he is snorting pain pills because I found the stuff in his room. Now he Stealing and pawnng suff that don't belong to him. I have made him a appointment with a drug rehab but not sure I will get him there. How do I help him.

Dave - posted on 08/27/2013

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I am 28 years old and have been clean for 2.5 years. I´ve decided to create a website that will offer Family Members of and the individuals looking to get clean with some free resources and sharing through the experience, strength and hope of others that have been in that situation. I struggled with addiction for over 10 years and am now doing whatever I can to give back. The website is www.RealTalkAddiction.com !! There is no cost and low cost solutions to help getting your loved one back on track!

Thanks!!! Best of luck! Dave RealTalkAddiciton@gmail.com

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Barbara - posted on 11/17/2009

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My son is now 27 and he has been clean for almost a year. He started in Jr. High and hid it very well until I found out in High School. My son has mental health issues and he figured that the abuse would help him cope. Only to realize that it made his symptoms worse. He is now diagnosed with psychosis because he hears voices. The drugs would help numb him until they wore off so he would use more and more. He finally understood that the drugs were making him worse and agreed to a drug rehab. He now realized that he feels better without them. He is also on medication. One thing that helps with the ADHD is nutrition. I found a wonderful company called Reliv, a food science company, and has helped so much I became a distributor so I can help others. Please visit my website at https://miracleshappen.reliv.com for product information.
There is a light at the end of the rainbow, it just sometimes feels like it will never get there. Help him to understand that the drugs make his symptoms worse. If you want to talk, please call me at 847-321-0556.
Barb

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Katie - posted on 03/07/2014

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alanon is a free organization. check it out in your local phone directory. They are in almost every city. They can help family of those in addiction.

Narantuya - posted on 02/25/2014

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Dear Katelyn.
I have 20 years old son using asid( ldc) and some kind of pills. He was very talanted smart boy, now didnt go college and doesnt work at all. He sleeps all day, wake all nignt. In and out all nignt . I really couldn't sleep.so did my 13 year old,and my husband. Everyone is telling me kick him out ur home, but i still have hope for him , i try to talk with him but he says leave me alone.some says asid(ldc)isnt addicted, his atitude changed a lot. My family , we dont have alot money, i checked few places he could go rehab for free to low cost. But he telling me he is ok, im over reacting. Please give me any advise.

Katelyn - posted on 02/18/2014

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Hi Everyone. I have been clean and sober for 7 years. ill tell you, the path to get clean and stay clean was not easy but it has its rewards as long as you stick with it one day at a time, in fact its a path you don't ever get off of, every day I still have to do work to keep my self clean and never loose sight of where I used to be, its good to have a support system, friends, family or even meetings. I was fortunate I was able to obtain insurance to help me pay for my program but please, don't give up, even if you don't have the money for a program, do some research and there is free help almost everywhere. you just have to look....good luck

Esther - posted on 11/18/2013

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my son is 34 years old and on that stuff you smoke and taking drink hes started to take drink from the house that was a gift to my oldest daughter from work bottle champain as a premotion he works when he comes back hes straight into his room and lights up hes on it all day every day and night he dosent sleep that well ive told him he wasent to smoke that stuff in or out of the house but he said its ok its just a smoke not doing him any harm im trying to get him of and straight but he thinks im just an idiot he moved back to me a couple months ago as he couldent pay his rent and said he was not taking anything i believed him as mums do please help me im to old for this rubbish im 65 years old and can do without this just buried my mum 1st oct dont need this hassle so please help me xx

Dave - posted on 08/27/2013

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Plese visit my website for free resources for Family Members of Loved ones struggling with addiction at www.RealTalkAddiction.com Personally struggling with addiction for 10 years and making my mother beg, cry and plea for me to get help now at 28 years old with over 2 years clean I´ve made a vowel to help as many people as I can.... Please visit or email now at RealTalkAddiction.com and email me (Dave) at RealTalkAddiction@gmail.com

Ana - posted on 06/30/2013

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Call Coastal at 866.981.2622 ext 0 Its owned and the CEO is a recovering addict. They will take payments. place your son and follow him for up to a year. they have intervention services. judicial services and recovery coaches and wow what a service they even take payments. Its not like these 30k places we are talking about apprx 1-3000,00
they saved Kyles Life

Linda - posted on 06/10/2013

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hi JENNY,I FEEL YOUR PAIN,MY 26 yr old son also on herioin,its horrible,he has to help himself,we cant do it for them,yes its a long hard rd,support groups are helpful,

User - posted on 01/27/2013

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Hello Thrissie, I am a mother of a son who is a addict and living on the street with his wife who is also a addict. I have been raising their daughter for 3 yrs now. My son is fixing to be 30 yrs old soon in a couple of months and it has been a long ride and still ridding. My son and his wife has been in and out of jail and I am sure there are more warrants out for them. All both sides of the families are drained mental and money wise. My sons father passed away almost 2 yrs ago and he was their provider keeping them up. I know God has been with them this far with all they have done and gotten by with. I want so bad for them to get right with their self and God. At this time with their attitude's in other words, blaming everyone else tells me they are not ready. At times when one is in jail the other may say, I am sick of living this way. But when back together the same old, same old stuff ! How does a mother understand why and how they could give up a little sweet girl?

Barb - posted on 04/24/2011

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my name is Barb and i have a son he's 32 and on drugs, he has no insurance and i can't get him into rehab can anybody help me i am desperate. he wants help but i don't have the money. rehabs are so expensive it sounds good when you read it on the net, but when you call it's a big let down they just want to talk or give you another phone number to call i have told my story so many times i am sick of telling it because all they say is i'll give you another number to call when they find out you have no money to pay. where is the goodness that people are suspose to have in their hearts i don't think they have any.

Meg - posted on 12/15/2009

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Get yourself to ALANON! It is the best thing for you and him. There are NA and AA meetings world wide and the bigger cities have meetings all day and into the night. The journey won't always be easy but together it wil be easier!

I'm on here everyday atleast once so please write if you need a reminder that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.I pray you both find the support you need for the road ahead.

meg

Renee - posted on 12/15/2009

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Hi my name is Renee and my 14 year old son recently came home from rehab for marijuana and alcohol abuse. Doesn't sound bad too a lot of ppl but it really changed him when he was an addict. I love him with every part of my being but not real sure what it is that I am supposed to do to help with his recovery process????

Meg - posted on 11/22/2009

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I have been sober for 3 1/2 years. It took me a long time to stay sober. Every one around me wanted it for me more then I wanted it for myself. It wasn't until I was ready that I was able to make any progress at all. No amount of pushing frm anybody did any good. Untill your son is ready to do this for himself the best thing you can do is get your self to AL-ANON OR ANOTHER SUPPORT GROUP. I hope you are not enabling him. It is hard not to do when you see your child struggling but the longer you do this the longer he will stay sick. We all hit our bottoms at differnt places only your son knows what his will be. It is a long road he has to travel but until HE is ready there is nothing you can do for him. At this point the best thing for you is to get yourself some support, he will need you to be able to be there when he is ready to get clean!

Thrissie - posted on 11/20/2009

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Quoting maria:

i live in the uk i spoke to my mum and she says my brother cant stand the pain he is in when he trys to stop.



Your mum is right. Heroin addicts normally need to be medically detoxed. In other words, in a hospital setting. They have detox, which is what he needs, in treatment centers. IF he is willing to go to treatment then your next step is to find a treatment center. You can do this by looking in the business section of your phone book or online. Try those two places first. If you can't find one there then let me know and we will try a different avenue. But here is the important question: Is he willing to go into treatment for help?

Maria - posted on 11/20/2009

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i live in the uk i spoke to my mum and she says my brother cant stand the pain he is in when he trys to stop.

Thrissie - posted on 11/19/2009

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Quoting maria:



Quoting Thrissie:

Hello! My name is Thrissie and I am a recovering addict. After 15 years of being addicted to pot, meth, and cocaine I now have two years sober. I am the chair of Partners in Prevention and I help other addicts. The first, absolutely necessary thing is that your son has to want to get sober. That is the hard part about what I do because if someone is not ready, they just are not ready. What makes us ready? Pain, negative consequences. Pain is our greatest motivator. BUT everyone has there own threshhold ofpain. In other words, "John" could go to jail one time and decide that is enough for him but "Sally" could go to jail a few times, lose her kids,home, and husband, become homeless etc and then decide she's had enough. What kind of consequences has your son had so far? My mom ended up having to practice "tough love" and stop bailing me out, giving me money, even accepting my phone calls after so long. She had to do this not just for me but for herself and her own sanity. I strongly suggest and am a huge supporter of Al-ANON. It has helped millions of moms like yourself. My mom used to have a website for parents whose kids were on drugs. It helps to know you are not alone. I talk to groups of parents at our schools and in our community at a program called "Parent to Parent". It is here that my mom gives her permission to contact her as a support person from someone who has been there. I will be more than glad to give you her phone number or email address. I am also adhd so it is possible to recover. As long as he is breathing, there is still hope. God bless you and your family. If you would like to continue to communicate with me, I would be more than glad.






my brother is on heroin am very worried about him he saize hes tryed to get off it  but i dont beleive him he also has medicated stuff not sure what that is the doctor give it to him i would like to help him  but dont no how im sure  he would cooperate if i could get some help for him.any ideas thankyou






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Maria - posted on 11/19/2009

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Quoting Thrissie:

Hello! My name is Thrissie and I am a recovering addict. After 15 years of being addicted to pot, meth, and cocaine I now have two years sober. I am the chair of Partners in Prevention and I help other addicts. The first, absolutely necessary thing is that your son has to want to get sober. That is the hard part about what I do because if someone is not ready, they just are not ready. What makes us ready? Pain, negative consequences. Pain is our greatest motivator. BUT everyone has there own threshhold ofpain. In other words, "John" could go to jail one time and decide that is enough for him but "Sally" could go to jail a few times, lose her kids,home, and husband, become homeless etc and then decide she's had enough. What kind of consequences has your son had so far? My mom ended up having to practice "tough love" and stop bailing me out, giving me money, even accepting my phone calls after so long. She had to do this not just for me but for herself and her own sanity. I strongly suggest and am a huge supporter of Al-ANON. It has helped millions of moms like yourself. My mom used to have a website for parents whose kids were on drugs. It helps to know you are not alone. I talk to groups of parents at our schools and in our community at a program called "Parent to Parent". It is here that my mom gives her permission to contact her as a support person from someone who has been there. I will be more than glad to give you her phone number or email address. I am also adhd so it is possible to recover. As long as he is breathing, there is still hope. God bless you and your family. If you would like to continue to communicate with me, I would be more than glad.



my brother is on heroin am very worried about him he saize hes tryed to get off it  but i dont beleive him he also has medicated stuff not sure what that is the doctor give it to him i would like to help him  but dont no how im sure  he would cooperate if i could get some help for him.any ideas thankyou

Thrissie - posted on 11/06/2009

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Hello! My name is Thrissie and I am a recovering addict. After 15 years of being addicted to pot, meth, and cocaine I now have two years sober. I am the chair of Partners in Prevention and I help other addicts. The first, absolutely necessary thing is that your son has to want to get sober. That is the hard part about what I do because if someone is not ready, they just are not ready. What makes us ready? Pain, negative consequences. Pain is our greatest motivator. BUT everyone has there own threshhold ofpain. In other words, "John" could go to jail one time and decide that is enough for him but "Sally" could go to jail a few times, lose her kids,home, and husband, become homeless etc and then decide she's had enough. What kind of consequences has your son had so far? My mom ended up having to practice "tough love" and stop bailing me out, giving me money, even accepting my phone calls after so long. She had to do this not just for me but for herself and her own sanity. I strongly suggest and am a huge supporter of Al-ANON. It has helped millions of moms like yourself. My mom used to have a website for parents whose kids were on drugs. It helps to know you are not alone. I talk to groups of parents at our schools and in our community at a program called "Parent to Parent". It is here that my mom gives her permission to contact her as a support person from someone who has been there. I will be more than glad to give you her phone number or email address. I am also adhd so it is possible to recover. As long as he is breathing, there is still hope. God bless you and your family. If you would like to continue to communicate with me, I would be more than glad.

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