Alicia - posted on 08/02/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )
My son has ADHD & a temper problem he is on medicine for both of these issues but my ex husband uses these conditions as an excuse for my sons behavior. Let me explain my ex told his new wife & me that we needed to be more understanding & not as hard on him because of his issues. For example my daughter came home & told me that her brother can hit her & his other siblings at thier dads house & she gets questioned what did you do to make him mad, you know not to bother him. My problem is I don't want my son to use these conditions as a crutch cause at my house he has to answer for his behavior. Yes I a certain way I deal with him but that is becasue of his personality he doesn't get away with throwing things cause he is mad,hitting,getting into stuff he isnt suppose to cause he was bored or picking on his sister to amuse himself. How do I teach my son that his issues are not a crutch when his father lets him use them as a crutch at his house????? Please any suggestions are welcome.