Kim - posted on 02/29/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
i have an amazingly talented 9 year old boy named cassen that i love to pieces BUT...... he is a handful. now i can go on and rant about how hard it is for me as a single mom to raise him but ill save that for another day :)...... what i am seeking for advice here is ideas on how to help him.
he is currently on medadate 30mg, i have had him change all different types of medicines that help control adhd. this has the least "zombie" side effect and he can have a social life. cassen wears his feelings on his sleeve. he is in 3rd grade and on a iep thru his school. yes he has special educational needs that are looked at, but not met. cassen reads at a end of k, to beginner 1st grade level... again he is in 3rd grade! i have spent countless hours fighting with the school and trying to get accross to them that whatever his special educational teachers are doing isnt working. let alone they do not communicate with me. yes, i have gone over the schools heads to the district and all the answers are the same "state cut back and lack of funding" . i have also had him get one on one tutoring and NOTHING is helping! i am out of ideas, i hate having to do homework with cassen every night and him crying because he doesnt want to do it. its not because he "doesnt want to" its because he struggles soooooo much that it is exhausting and depressing to him. on many occassions do i cry at night because i cant help him, and me as his mother, and provider i should be able to and it feels like a let down to him when i cant make life easier. cassens emotions are on his sleeve, having problems at school because children make fun of him that he cannot read so what does he do..... what he can do just fine... be mean. dont get me wrong he is gifted in areas that u and i probably isnt and lovable and kind, but when he is in a situation he cannot adapt to (especially school) he becomes this child no one wants to be around. the school will not hold him back due to his height and age so every year is tramendous for him.
Are there any mom's that can relate in the same way, different ways but some of the same instances, and what moms have done to help their kiddos. doctors are great and wonderful but sometimes support groups like this are just a tad bit more helpful :) looking forward to the responses! and thank you..... !