Looking for other ideas that I havnt tried yet

Rebecca - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My son is ADHD, OCD and ODD, however, initially several years ago when he was first evaluated and diagnosed they said he was Cyclothymic (lowest end of the bi-polar disorder). He is 10, and its really hard to determine wether it could be bi-polar or just the ODD. Anyway, he is currently on Concerta, Abilify, Clonidine and Celexa. We also go to OT every other week to work on his sensory sensitivites, as well as counseling. Some of it helps sometimes, but other times its useless. My son blames everyone else for him losing things, or him getting in trouble. Nothing and I mean nothing is ever his fault. However, he is smart enough that he knows it really is. Its like he knows but doesnt care. His IQ is above average, almost in the gifted region. But my biggest problem with him is that he is very aggressive and angry. When he gets told no at home, he will argue and argue to get the last word, and likes to argue. But when we are consistent and he doesnt get what he wants, he screams and will get physical with us. He hits, kicks, bites, throws things. I have called the police on him a few times, but because he isnt 12, they dont do anything. He caused a fight the other night, because we told him to be quiet till we got where we were going, his response was that he didnt have to he was allowed to talk. We went back home, and had to drag him out of the car. He ended up causing my boyfirend to have to go to the hospital for an Asthma attack. He cared that night after it all happened, but he just went right back to the same crap the very next day. He argues about everything, then expects to get things he wants, and us to do things for him. We have a behavior/chore chart, that sometimes works, but that is mainly to get him through his daily routines, or showering and brushing teeth, that kind of stuff. I havnt started a dairy free diet yet, but trying to figure out which one will work best to see if that will help any. Havnt had luck in finding a supplemental milk to use once I take the dairy away. I also only allow him to have one soda per day if that. And it has to be diet caffiene free. Just kinda wondering if anyone knew of a good diet that worked for their child or any other ideas. We have done just about everything we have been told to try and are consistent. I can deal with the ADHD cause his meds help with that, its his anger and aggressiveness of how he handles situations that I am at my wits end with. Any ideas? Thanks

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Tessa - posted on 08/18/2009

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Hi Rebecca, the only other thing that i could suggest is giving him seperate consequences for the bad behaviour. My son is 9 with ADHD, Tourettes and oppositional defiant behaviour. He has the star chart for good behaviour, but when me misbehaves he loses something from his room for 24 hours, starting with his favouite thing, which for him is his paper drawer. I understand how hard it is when you get physical attacked for punishing them. He has punched me, slapped me, sent my glasses flying, thrown things at me and even sworn at me. But as hard as it was i persevered through it, would go to my room and cry afterwards so he didn't see he had got to me. Now if he misbehaves and i tell him he will lose a possession he stops straight away. Believe me it is not a quick result it does take time and a few bruises. Another tip that i picked up for car journeys is to give them a treat that they can earn at the end of the journey. I tried this with my kids as all 4 of them normally fight in the car. we went to a theme park and they were told that if they behaved they could have an ice-cream when they got there, it was the most peaceful car journey we have ever had. It can be anything you like, even earning a small amount of money for each segment of time that they are good.

Good luck and all the best Tess.