Moms of kids with ADHD

Sheree - posted on 09/25/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I would like to make some suggestions to some of the moms. Some symptomatic characteristics that induce symptoms are foods that have red die, chocolate and many others. We can help our children with limiting these ingredients that are in our foods, also when you have a baby and when your child reaches the toddler state do not put your child in front of the television either.

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Deborah - posted on 10/06/2010

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We were very good about not giving our son anything like red dyes, chocolate, etc when he was little. When he was diagnosed, we tried even harder to keep those things out of his diet but he was still bouncing off the walls all the time. Yes, it may help some kids but it didn't for mine. It didn't make any difference at all or he may have been worse if he had those things. Who knows, All I know is that we tried to keep it away from him. As far as tv goes, I so don't agree that them sitting and watching tv for a long period of time is a huge cause of it. My son was just under 4 when he was diagnosed and I never recalled him sitting in front of the tv for more than 10 min at a time. As soon as a commercial came on, he was up running around or if something was on that he didn't want to watch, he was up running around. There's no way that tv could have caused it. A good part of it is having a parent or parents that had it. My nephew had it because both my sister and her husband had it, although they were never diagnosed. My son was adopted and I found out his birthfather had it and he was never really diagnosed but his mom saw the signs. All kids are different but I just feel like it was more of a hereditary thing than anything else with my son.

Stacy - posted on 10/05/2010

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I have known since Trey was an infant that he may be ADHD. Required very little sleep...still doesn't. Very strong willed, smart, busy, impulsive, knew right from wrong, but his own words at 4 when I asked him why he did the things he did, "I just can't help myself." I was almost daily getting calls from school to "talk to him" or "come get him" at 4 and 5. I believed what everyone thinks, " He is just a boy and needs his butt spanked. Then he will learn. And parents who put their kids on meds, call it ADHD are just too lazy to discipline their children. I goggled all I could, read all kinds of information, advice from other moms, etc. I met with my doctor on 09/15. I talked for 30 minutes going over everything I could think of that was relevant for him to know regarding Trey's behavior. My thoughts and desires for my son to be able to sit threw a day of school and "listen" to his teachers and not disrupt others, not to feel like I was constantly getting on to him. Also, after working all day and "dealing with" Trey, I was so tired emotionally, mentally and physically: I was always telling Kayleigh, not right now, can we do this later and later never came. My daughter was now suffering too. PLEASE HELP ME! I begged him. Someone finally agreed with me it was ADHD. I believe my brother and dad are both ADD and never diagnosed. And know with all my heart, that my ex, Trey's dad is bi-polar. Together 16 years, my family and friends that have been around him agree too. My doctor told me ADHD is genetic, hereditary! Diet, HFCS, food colorings, dairy, etc do not GIVE a child ADHD, it is in his genes! Sure sugars can make him more active, hyper even, but once worn off, he should crash...not my Trey.
It is an imbalance in his little body and meds help get him level. HE says the only sure way to control ADHD, is meds and behavior modification. Children with ADHD needs special ways of handling their "discipline" or good behavior rewards. I have more information, but do not have time to discuss it all right now. IF interested, feel free to send me a private message and I will be happy to share.
Just to let you know, my son's school jumped right on board, we are working together. After 4 days on his meds and working on rewarding good behavior and setting clear expectations and what consequences would be if not met or what to expect for making good choices...and FOLLOWING THROUGH! On Friday, Trey's teacher wrote" GREAT DAY!" on his folder and another teacher called him a "perfect angel"! Said a couple of times he looked as though he wanted to melt down, but calmed himself!
I did not want to medicate my son, but if he was diabetic, would I deny him the meds he needs, NO! Here was my doctor’s selling point.
If I am constantly "getting on to" Trey, telling him he is being bad, he will eventually feel as though he can not do anything right, that he is a "bad" child. So he will look to other "bad" children to hang out with, because they will "accept" him the way he is. Remember he told me, "Mom, I just can't help myself". SO it was my responsibility as his "mom" to help him help himself. He is still the same sweet, smart, playful Trey he was before. He just doesn't throw tantrums when not listened to right away, get what he wants, right now!, interrupt, listens more talks less and doesn't just on impulse, go hit his sister. GOD BLESS YOU DR. MARQUARDT!
And please do not get me wrong... the proper diet is ALWAYS a good thing, ADHD, Diabetic, Asthma, or a perfectly healthy child. I do believe that all the fast foods, drive thrus or prepackaged foods are not good for adults or children. We should all sit down to a good home cooked meal with our families every chance we get. Our parents and grand parents did not have the problems we do today. They made most of the food from scratch, all natural, from the earth, the way God intended! He didn't give us all the additives or preservatives, pesticides, etc. Just good wholesome food and it sustained life for many years. Anything in excess is bad for you. That is just my two cents.
My Doctor also told me minimal TV and to keep them engaged. Play games and toys that stimulate their minds. We only started his meds last Tuesday. On school days, one @ 7:30 and nurse gives one at lunch 11:30, lowest dose they make. We just started soccer and after practice last night, I will give him one before our game on Saturday. He had a melt down or two because, someone took his ball, and one time because his legs were tired, wanted to quit. Not fair to other kids
My doctor gave me a booklet that referenced several good websites. You can get overwhelmed with opinions and information on the web. These are all based on scientific research and studies PROVEN over the years. It is genetic. It can only be with medication (along with Behavior Modification). And yes, finding the RIGHT med can take a while. But, as far as diet, I agree all the food additives and preservatives are bad for our children and for all of us. Anything is bad in excess. The sun is good for you, but too much can give you cancer. A glass of wine is ok from time to time and can be good for you, but too much is harmful. Red meat can be god for you, but again too much is bad. Sweeteners, artificial or natural can be bad for you. So many products have these dyes and additives that our kids are getting too much, but do not CAUSE ADHD. As moms, we do what we think is best for our kids. So, the proper diet can only benefit our children regardless of ADHD. But my son is typical 5 year old boy with the help of meds.

Beth - posted on 02/16/2012

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Shelly , is he in therapy ?

And talk to the DR that prescribed the med, aggression can be a side effect of some medications.

Beth - posted on 11/28/2011

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These things do not CAUSE ADHD , ADHD is hereditary.

These things you list can make the symptoms worse if eaten but will not totally solve the issues. TV does not cause ADHD and does not make it worse.



Increasing protein and reducing carbs can help because carbs only turn to sugar. But it still does not "cure " ADHD.

Patrizia - posted on 11/23/2011

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I removed my 9-year old from private school last year because he was struggling & his teacher wanted me to medicate. Now, 14 months later I have a new child. Turns out he just didn't fit into the "system" and needed to move to learn. After changing teaching methods to THE WAY HE LEARNS, he is now making huge progress and has caught up most of his backlog. He's much more relaxed & no longer whining all the time. The "ADHD symptoms" were merely stress & frustration caused by an environment in which he couldn't adapt because his physical need to move wasn't met. This bookwas an absolute eye opener and in my opinion an absolute MUST read to all parents & educators, especially those with "labelled" kids The Fine Line between ADHD and Kinesthetic Learners: 197 Kinesthetic Activities to Quickly Improve Reading, Memory, and Learning in Just 10 Weeks: The ... for ADHD, ADD, and Kinesthetic Learners It's amazing to see what difference the environment can make. These books have helped me understand my child & enabled me to help him excel without medication.

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Debbie - posted on 10/08/2013

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I agree with Sheree. I know from experience that food dyes, caffeine, some artificial sweeteners also cause major havoc with behavior. We went through all our foods & cereals & read the labels. Anything that started with sugar, we got rid of. We found that the ingredients list the most pervasive ingredient first by law. We then did research to find that fructose, a natural fruit sugar, stops the pancreas from producing insulin which is what can create hyperactivity. We started using fructose, and cereals like cheerios, rice krispies, shredded wheat, and I started cooking more so I could control what was in the foods. Starchy foods like macaroni, corn on the cob, & breads turn to sugar instantly once they get into the body, so they create hyperactivity as well. It was a lot of sacrifice and effort on the rest of the family to eat like this child did, but, the result was well worth it. The behavior change was like night and day. I also read a book called, Low Blood Sugar and You. It helped me figure out how to move forward. Another book that really changed how I managed my home and children's attitudes, hyped up or just challenging me, was a book called From Combat Zone to Love at Home: The Happy Face Token System. The ideas in this great Christian parenting book helped me to find ways to encourage good eating habits, helpful attitudes and sibling happiness. It was so simple I had a hard time believing it could work. It seemed to have the consistency factor built in for me and gave me the ability to mean what I said the first time. It changed the whole dynamic of our family's ability to bond and love one another. Keep at it, change is required of all.

Juliett - posted on 02/27/2012

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I have a daughter (Caroline) that is almost 6. She was diagnosed with SEVERE Adhd at 3 and just now got a new diagnosis to go along with it called Conduct Disorder. Needless to say our family has been flipped upside down since she was born. (she was "different" from birth). She has been on Methylphenadate since the age of 4 because I refused to give it to her at the age of 3 when it was first prescribed. I knew there had to be another way....but after a whole year of searching...I surrendered to the mercy of giving my daughter meds. The doctor prescribed Intuniv (non-stimulant) last week to go along with the methylphenadate. I noticed "some" change but her aggression seemed to worsen. After reading some forums about Intuitiv and seeing how successful others were being at just taking that drug alone, I have had the pleasure of taking her off the stimulant and only giving her the Intuniv. To my surprise and shock, she is a totally different child. Perfect? No, however the hard look and edge that the "ritalin" gave her is gone. She is more calm, eats EVERYTHING, is loving, not aggressive, and has this warmth about her and seeing her smile has melted my heart because I have NEVER seen such warmth from her. I am praying and crossing my fingers that this is the answer. She has complained of some diziness and tiredness (some of the side effects) but other than that, she has been the first to get dressed in the morning (BY HERSELF) and the first to jump in the bed at night. Like I said, A TOTALLY DIFFERENT CHILD!!

Shelly - posted on 02/17/2012

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he was in therpy but she has recently passed away looking for new one that specializes in attachment disorders

Shelly - posted on 02/16/2012

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I need some advice I have a 10 year old boy we adopted at the age of 3 who has adhd takes his medicine but he was kicked off the school bus for fighting 2 days ago today was his 1st day back on the bus and goes to school today and threatens another little boy to go beat up another kid for him so he would not get in trouble then when that kid refused to do what timmy asked him he then held him up against the locker and doubled up his fist and hit him he is now kicked out of school for 2 days I am not sure how to handle this we have taken things away.grounded him,no tv hes had to writes sentences,do extra chores and nothing seems to be working anyone have some ideals on this

Christa - posted on 10/05/2010

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I think every child with ADHD is different...just like every child is different. Not all cases are the same. That is why there are more than one medication to treat this one disease. I agree with the mom that talked about treating with medication. It can be a positive experience....it may take awhile to find the right drug and the right dosage for your child. But when you find it....you are amazed at the positive results. We have to be here to support eachother and share what has worked for us. It may not work for some but if sharing can help one family...it is worth it to share. I also agree that there is something with Red Dye in our foods. It does not "cause" ADHD but it certainly does provoke the symptoms. That is proven science and when I find the link I will post it for you. Just like toxins in our home from household products are stimulants for ADHD symptoms. Will the ADHD go away if you get rid of the toxins...no...but do they make life tolerable....DEFINATELY. We need eachother to share with.....not everything will work for everyone; but one family at a time we can help eachother. Just remember to be the advocate for your child....no one else is going to do it!!

Shannon - posted on 10/04/2010

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I have 5 boys and 2 of them have difficulties one is ADHD and ODD and the other is ODD and they fight and argue constantly and I think it is very difficult when family members don't agree or or won't admit when there is a problem and I know that the dad/hubby's work a lot but they also miss a lot and don't see what a mother can go through in a day especily with a child or children with ADHD and I think it makes it harder on us as mothers and on the kids them selves. I don't know if meds are right or wrong or weather taking away foods helps or not but we have to do something to help them and we have to try what ever we can to see what works best for each individual child or adult. I only wish my mother would even admit that it is something real she told me she doesn't believe in ADHD. But as a mother we want the best for our kids and so we keep trying new things and see what works.

Sandy - posted on 09/30/2010

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Many children have food allergies and different reactions to them. May or may not have anything to do with ADHD or ASD.

Sheree - posted on 09/30/2010

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I know that some people would disagree with my statement I just know what helps my child who has ADHD and the reason my daughter is not on Medication is because her father is in a lot of denial and refuses to work with me, so I have tried different things for extensive periods of time and I know what works for her and it may work for other parents who have children with ADHD as well.

Sandy - posted on 09/29/2010

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I have also been asked by my Dr if when my older son drinking caffinated beverages if his attention span changes for the better. Both of my boys are on stimulants for their ADHD and food does not make a difference in those two or my two boys with Autism and PDD-NOS. ALL of these Diagnosis (ADHD, ASD, Anxeity, dyslexia & other learning disabilities) of which 4 of my boys have, can be inherited. Their fathers side of the family has these dx also. My sons with ASD also inherited tics. My favorite is when people say they can Cure Autism. Yeah right. They learn coping techniques, ask any adult with ASD.

Maryka - posted on 09/29/2010

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My child has been on meds for ADHD since he was 5. It only shows a difference in 5% of children when you change their diet. Food does not "create" ADHD, and neither will changing their diet "take it away". I have been advised to give my son chocolate, but to limit sweets (jelly's, ext). Please, do not give people information like that, because it's not accurate. My son can eat chocolate, any food, drink coke, coffee, any other fizzy drinks, and it makes absolutely no difference in his behavior. I have also been told by the doctors at the ADHD clinic that my son attends, that about 1 hour of TV a day is enough for them.

Brenda - posted on 09/29/2010

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I agree that some of the foods are definitely something to look at. Foods effect children differently. I"m beginning to wonder if dairy is an issue for my daughter and am now experimenting with rice milk and almond milks. As for the TV, let me just say that anything can be too much but the TV is an opportunity for her to relax after being taxed all day being with people after a school day. It can have pluses as well as too much having a minus. All the research that says no to TV is now being questioned. it mostly creates a problem with their hyper focusing as opposed to hindering focus.

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