Misie - posted on 02/09/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
My 6 1/2 yr old son was diagnosis with ADD right before Thanksgiving, prior to this we had always just thought of his behavior as being a typical boy. He is always on the go, talks alot and has a hard time sitting still sometimes, his hands constantly have to be doing something. In kindergarten the teacher was very frustrated with the fact that he couldn't sit still on the carpet and like to pick at the fuzz but if she would ask he a question that was about what she just said he could answer it perfectly so it wasn't that he wasn't listening or didn't hear her but that he just had to keep himself stimulated. Then this year in 1st grade some of the same problems have continued but the teacher is much easier to work with, she is who suggested that we talk to his doctor, we have and we tried Adderall but did not like the personality changes, so he was changed to Focalin XR and he seems to be doing better with this. Now though I seem to pick up on the issues much more than I ever thought much about them before and I feel like I am spending all my time with him wondering is this normal behavior for someone his age, is this part of his ADD, should I be doing things different. I just don't know what to do, somedays I feel like I have to ask him to do things 50 times before I get a response. Somedays it seems like he can't sit still to save his life and he just has to talk non stop.
I know that I can't constantly tell him don't do this and don't do that because I don't want him to feel like he is in trouble because of his diagnosis but what can I do to make things easier for all of us. His fathers answer is always well take this away or take that away but he can't constantly be punished for something that he has no better understanding of than I do. Also his little brother seems to instagate him and try to see if he can get him worked up and I don't know what to do. My son is, and has always been a tender heart, so it doesn't take much to get his feelings hurt. Is this part on his ADD, for example if he has built something with his lego's and his brother breaks it he will cry and scream when he could just put it back together.
We have made an appointment with a child psychatrist but could not get in with one who is on our insurance until March and I just need some advice now as to try and help calm things down here at home until then.
Also, how likely is it that my younger son will end up with the same diagnosis, the more I listen to then the more it seems that he is like his big brother. Am I just being paranoid or could this be a family trend.