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Beth - posted on 07/18/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone, my name is Beth and I have a five year old son Logan who has been diagonsed with AD/HD. It's been five months and we are soo lost and confused on what to do. I've read a lot on the internet and a couple of books. But my son is violent gets mad very easily and over silly things and has been in two preschools that he got kicked out of and a preschool that was in an elementary school (for the last month of the school year) and he got "wrote up" twice in there and in the after school program R Club. He's gotten "wrote up" in there too and was suspened twice for a day. He's meds for AD/HD is working just fine, he's better on paying attention and coloring and drawing and all that. But he's just so violent and like I said easily frustrated. Anyone have any advice for me? Me and my husband are at our wits end. With kindergarten starting I'm scared to death! Thanks for reading my conversation!!

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Beth - posted on 07/25/2010

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Thank you everyone for your post! I don't feel so alone now! He is seeing a therapist. Yesterday was he's first appt. and the man is super nice and he is starting meds for his anger as well. Actually we're starting it today! Thanks everyone!!!

Nikki - posted on 07/23/2010

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My 6yr old was/is the same way... I did however have to address his violet behavior & for the most part he has gotten better. Fortunately his second preschool (a special needs preschool) worked w/ him and myself & we learned new techniques. Right before Kindergarten (in a regular class but help w/ special needs aides) started we started him on meds & well we had some rocky days (especially in the first few months of school) But we have come a long way! with lots of help from teachers, aides, & following through at home!
I understand how frustrating all this is, trust me :) Even though we have improved in areas there is so much to work on & I feel like running away most days (specially since it's summer break) but hang in there cuz the more you work w/ him & tech him the techniques he needs to know to succeed (yes even if your repeating yourself 50 times a day) than you WILL make a huge difference in who he grows up to be! Keep your head up OK? there are lots of us that do understand! :)

Michelle - posted on 07/22/2010

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I would go back to whomever diagnosed him and talk to them about the violent behavior. Did the behavior start before or after the meds as it could possibly be a side effect of the meds or he could be like my son and have a combined type of ADHD. My son has ADHD and ODD with aggresive tendencies so he has to take two meds one for the attention and one for the anger.

Francesca - posted on 07/21/2010

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My 5 yr old son was the same way. With him having ADHD my son goes to a mental health facility, where he sees the doctor for his med and they have started him seeing a lady for his behavior. She's a therapist and is wonderful !! I was scared about my son going into Kindergarten, he was also kicked out of a preschool and daycare. I don't know if that's an option but for mine it has helped alot...
I don't go into the appts with him but she tells me briefly what they do. She reads books on how to act, like hands are not for hitting. she talks to him about how he needs to express his anger and feelings and things like that. I hope that this helps and hope that it's an option for you. Without the lady that sees my son, I don't know what I would have done at all.. She's a true blessing...

Phyllis - posted on 07/18/2010

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I can relate to your situation very well. My son was kicked out of every daycare, babysitter and preschool he ever attended. ADHD rarely presents by itself. There are usually other problems, such as learning disabilities or other disorders that are a factor as well. These are tough to pin point when kids are so young. My son is ADHD/ODD. My nephew is ADHD with a General Anxiety Disorder. Until you have all the information and evaluations settled, its a bit of a guessing game. It sounds to me like your son would benefit from some counseling and anger management lessons. My son actually enjoyed the anger management as they played board games that dealt with everyday situations where he would need to control his temper. If he was not angry or violent prior to the meds, he may need to have them changed or adjusted. My son had a very tough time the first month of kindergarten, but once he got used to being so structured, he began to thrive. Very few of the things I worried about actually came to pass. Hopefully some counselling will help him emotionally.

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