Suzanne - posted on 02/19/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
My oldest son just turned 11 (and is taking Strattera). He was diagnosed with ADD (inattentive type only) a year ago after several years of very bad times at school. We went to counseling to figure out exactly what was going on and how to handle things. t didn't really help on how to handle things but did help us to understand ADD and what he is going through. Through the process of discovering his ADD, I realized that I have it also. I have many of the same problems my son does so I can truly relate to him.
Here's my problem and I'm wondering if others of you face the same challenges and how you deal with them...
My husband works evening shift so he isn't here to help with the kids. We have 3, ages 1, 8 & 3. I feel like I spend the entire night chasing my tail! My husband is at work so I don't have anyone to help me keep up with their needs. I have to constantly prompt my oldest to get his homework done. He really won't get it done unless I"m right beside him. He usually doesn't seem to need my help, just my presence. He has a very hard time with his handwriting also so that compounds the problem. If I can manage to sit with him and help with the writing things tend to at least get completed that night. But that leaves my other 2 ignored. He can't stand any level of noise what so ever and that just isn't possible. He's always fussing at someone about something.
My middle child needs my attention too and the 3 year old also. I seem to spend all night helping or I should say managing the oldest and the other 2 get left out. They are all demanding me at the same time all the time and meanwhile I"m trying to cook supper and manage the things I need to accomplish also. I seem to spend the entire night running from one child to the next with everyone out of control. There is no way I can go anywhere on a school night or no homework will get done at all. I have ADD too and have trouble staying focused too which only compounds the problem. We seem to get absolutely no down time in the evenings to just relax. The night is filled with trying to get homework complete (sometimes it is, sometimes not), eat supper, get baths and HOPE to get them to bed by 9.
My husband is no help either. I try to get him to help me figure out how to handle things but he blames me for mot being able t manage them and says "I'm not there, I"m at work, YOU figure it out" It makes me want to scream sometimes out of frustration! I can not seem to get any type or routine or schedule going at all. How do you all manage it all?