Donna - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )
I was sitting with some new friends, and mentioned my son has ADHD. Of course they start telling their stories about interactions with ADHD kids. Example, my friend had a son with ADHD, she homeschooled him, didn't medicate him- instead she had him run around the yard before answering each question to get his energy out.....now he is a track athlete....etc.
Second person says, 'we babysit an ADHD kid for 1 week, we broke his control issues by not allowing him to not do his school work, we wouldn't let him play until he did it. It was control issues, all he needed was someone to discipline him....etc.
Grr! I am so tired of people assuming I am firstly, an ineffective young parent and it is just discipline and control issues, secondly, they say it doesn't exist, so don't give them meds!
I try to explain they don't live with him, the good behavior they see today is just due to all my hard work to get him to that point. Meds are for at school for a system that doesn't accommodate him and he needs it in that stressful situation to focus.
They don't ever hear me out, I just feel overpowered and judged.
What to say to people in a nice way that their input isn't welcome becuase they haven't raised an ADHD kid themselves, and their assumptions are totally off?