Amy - posted on 01/05/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )
A brief background:
My son was diagnosed as ADHD in November of 2009. It was heartbreaking even though I always "knew" he'd be diagnosed. He's been on Concerta, Strattera, Adderall and Strattera, Adderall, and now Adderall and Intuniv.
He had so much trouble at school before he was diagnosed and medicated that we ended up switching schools. He had no friends. A nearby school converted to a science magnet, our son is a science lover, and it seemed like a good idea to give him a "clean slate."
I did not disclose his ADHD to his new school until parent teacher conferences. His teacher told me that he has a hard time focusing on his school work. My husband thought we should disclose... and it seemed like a good time.
Two weeks later, I get a call from the school counselor. The teacher told her about the ADHD (I should have thought to explicitly tell her she could not share that, blah blah, blah, HIPPA), and the counselor talked to my son twice.
Her advice was this: "He does NOT have ADHD. There are no signs of it. He has anxiety, and didn't you see how he's pulled out his hair and has a bald spot? You need to take him off the meds and send him to a therapist for his anxiety... he's just one axious guy. I know there's something he's scared of, he hasn't shared it with me yet, but we'll get there."
So because my son is medicated, you don't see signs of ADHD. I think this is a good thing. One side effect of stimulant medication is the increased tactile need, and we are working on the bald spot (which is quite traumatic for my son, and YES, I knew about it, you moron). He seems anxious because he's afraid of getting in trouble. He's had plenty of experience talking to principals and counselors over the years to be afraid of getting in trouble.
So my question is this: what on earth do I do about this? She's not licensed to make recommendations regarding medication, and she did not seek out additional perspectives from his teacher, his parents, or his pediatrician. Seems to me that she's woefully incompetent. Who do I start with? Can I prevent her from seeing my son? It seems that I should have rights under "informed consent", and it seems as if the school district has a duty to provide competent counselors...
Part of me really just wants this chick to be fired and her license stripped. Perhaps I'm overreacting... and I'm sorry this is so so long... but what on earth can I do? Where do I start?