Carmen - posted on 04/08/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )
Hi there. I've known since my son was about 18 months old that he wasn't like most other toddlers. He was exceptionally busy and would throw terrible tantrums when he didn't get his way. These tantrum would last anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour. During that time he would be inconsolable and hard to restrain (at 18 months!). My son was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 4 and the diagnoses was no surprise to me as I'd suspected it for quite some time. When he was in kindergarten we started him on Clonidine as he was constantly getting into trouble at school. His teached said he couldn't get him to focus, he was disrupting the class and when he lost his temper he would throw massive fits which would lead to kicking and hitting any adult that got in his way. He is 6 now and continues to have "melt downs". That is what we call them now. He can be just fine and then something will set him off and there is no reckoning with him. He will yell, scream, cry, and kick or hit the wall. We often have to carry or even drag him to his room because he is so hard to restrain. We've just moved into a new house and he has already kicked a hole in his door because we have to lock him in his room when he gets like that. We have a 3 month old baby to worry about now too. We don't think he'd hurt her because he doesn't hit children just adults, but he does upset her with his horrible tantrums. They are now getting to the point where they have lasted up to 4 hours! Does anyone else have these problems with their ADHD kid?? And if so, do you have any suggestions on how to deal with them? We've tried everything we can think of from ignoring him, to baragining with him, trying to diffuse the situation, locking him in his room, spanking him even (which just escalates it)! We're at our wits end and none of the professionals that we've spoke to seem to have any other ideas for us either! It's taking its toll on my relationship with my fiance (step-fater) who feels like a lousy parent because he can't handle the situation. Please Help!!!