Holly - posted on 06/14/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )
I am having so many issues with my daughter, I'm not even sure where to begin.
First of all, my soon to be ex husband's girlfriend seems to keep upsetting my daughter, by saying she can't handle her, she's tired of my daughter lying and making up stories(not even sure about that). My daughter loved his girlfriend at first but now my daughter feels like this woman is sticking her nose in business where it doesn't belong. This woman last night told my son she can't handle my daughter, and doesn't understand why I can't see she's a lyer!
My daughter was diagnosed ADHD in February (we have not disclosed her diagnosis to her)
She has always been a strong willed kid, and has always given us a difficult time, but ADHD? Now that we are going thru a divorce, it seems she has taken that and just ran with it. I know she has got to be hurting, is upset and confused.
Today my boyfriend told me his son (who is 10) doesn't ever want to come over again as long as my daughter is here. He says she tries to beat him all the time. I am constantly on her about hitting and respecting personal space.
My son (15 y/o) refuses to watch her anymore, because she gets upset over the smallest of things, yells and screams, calls him names, dis-respects him.
Her teacher constantly complained about her, she was in 3 fights at school this year, boys and girls club was always calling me telling me how she broke the rules or wasn't respecting someone.
She is currently in counceling, she is on concerta.
I don't know exactly what kind of help I am asking for here. I guess it would be educational to know if other ADHD kids behave the way my daughter does, if so what have you found works for them so as to not hurt your social life as well as your childs? Maybe this isn't ADHD, maybe this is just her already stubborn personality feeding off of our divorce, but I still don't know what to do about it.
After my boyfriend explained how his son feels about my daughter and my son's recent decision to not babysit her while I'm work, and her recent problems with the new girlfriend; I'm so tempted to just pull away from everyone with her until I figure out what I "can" do to help her.
When I try to explain to my daughter that standing too close to someone is disrespectful, or hitting them just because they said something hurtful isn't acceptable behavior...she just yells, cries and screams at me, and won't listen to reason. I'm so frustrated and confused. I love my daughter, she's beautiful, and can be so fun to be around. But lately, I am at my wits end.
Any advice or suggestions? I will seriously take them....