Jasmine - posted on 04/03/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )
In reading a lot of the posts on here I realize that my son may possibly have ADHD or something else. I am going to describe him and some of his behaviors in hopes that someone could give me suggestions and what to do as I want him to do any sort of developmental intervention now so that by the time he starts school he is better adjusted. The reason I am looking for some answers is because he was recently kicked out of pre-school because of his severe anxiety and lack of being able to self calm.
Upon birth I noticed he was a little too intuitive. He use to squint his little eyebrows while studying things as a newborn which I just figured he was inquisitive but after he turned two I knew that something was a little different. He is very intelligent, has a high tolerance for paint, no fear, severe separation anxiety, ridiculous amount of energy, spirited and is very bossy. He walks around sucking a pacifier and holding a security blanket like they were attached at birth.
He started walking (eight months), talking (by a year old he could put three words together) and hit all his milestones early. I started to think something was going on when at the age of 16 months. We were at the library and he started pointing out all the letters and their sounds. At first I thought well maybe he knows one or two and dismissed it, but I realized that a few days later that he knew all his alphabet on site as well as numbers (I have never been able to sit down and get him to focus on anything much less learning letters and numbers at 16 months). Again I just thought to myself maybe he is really smart but upon talking to friends whose children were older I realized their children did not come close or even have the same vocabulary or knowledge of things around him.
He also has a very high tolerance for pain and no fear. When learning to walk he split his lip open in the same place twice but that never stopped him from walking. He also has banged his head on the tile floors before while upset so hard that he busted some capillaries. He seems to have some what outgrown the head banging now (I hope). The fact that he has no fear really scares me. He has jumped into our pool sunk to the bottom and looked up (while holding his breath) like so now what without a hint of fear. There have been several times where he should have panicked and did not.
My biggest problem though is his inability to listen and focus. I could be yelling his name right next to him at times and if he is distracted with something he will not even look (almost like he does not hear me). He has a hard time sitting still and has a constant need for movement. The only time he sits still is when watching TV. Other than that he has a very hard time sitting. He is working with an occupational therapist but even she has a hard time getting him to sit and focus.
I hope I do not sound like I am pointing out faults because to me my son is perfect. He is very intelligent, funny, sweet and charming. I know that although he is a tough cookie he will be a great leader if I channel his energy correctly, however I do not even know where to start. Sorry if I have rambled but I wanted to give you a few examples of some of the things he does that may be similar to your children. Any advice/suggestions???