What do you do when..

Rae - posted on 02/18/2012

You arent alone in this, please dont think you are. We have all felt this as our spirited children grow. My 5yr has adhd and odd, and is medicated, my 3yr is worse than my 5yr at his age. He drives me insane, and yes some days i wish i could leave him at home, going out with him and his little sister who has just turned 2, who copies everything he does. (which is a pain when im at the shops! My big boy i think set the pace and things that would annoy me and make me upset with him dont bother me as much with 2nd son. My 2nd son can not ever be medicated due to having a failing kidney (will need to be on dialysis in the near future)

When i was at breaking point, i can remember this night so clearly (1st son had set a fire (stolen lighter) under his bunk bed after all was said and done, i ask him to put his pj's on and found him peeing over the carpet on purpose...i cried alot that night. I found community cousellors, from a clinic for speech therapy and other child services (this is free advice from proper child pyhscologists) number who helped me learn ways to cope with his behaviours and helped me to calm down (mine is breathing slowly and trying to positive trust me, its hard to be positive when you have to replace the landlords carpet and a mattress but you can do it and things wont be so depressing. There will be something simliar in your area, check peadritrians offices or with childhood nurse centres. Why try to go out and have fun? Forcing to have fun isnt going to work, maybe try to find a big field, park or woods and take lunch with you, im in Australia so its good weather for me at the moment, if its not good weather take him to an activity centre for kids, just let him run riot and get all his energy out. You havent said what his behaviours are? Excuse the laziness i should find your other post but its 4:18am.

Congrats for the bub, who will looking after your son while you are in hospital? Why dont you ask the father or another family relative to take your son for a hour or two. Or enrol your son in day care if you are like me and dont have them options. Maybe you have to much on your plate at the moment, maybe do the studying when both children have grown up a bit.

Most of all please relax, please find sanity in the smallest of things...having a bath, pulling the weeds out, sitting on the sofa with your beautiful son who is a challenge now, or have me time when you cant sleep and end up on the computer at stupid time in the morning :) I hope i havent offended you but i wrote this as i know how you feel to some degree and just want to let you know that you are a good parent we all have days where our children send us potty. For help you have to keep looking, get the phone book and check out anything for children health or therapies, I wish you lived near me because i could give you some phone numbers that would help. Instead all i can say is good luck if you need to tell me off for my post, so be it or if you want to compare notes/ friendly chat just message me. hugs