Tricia - posted on 01/30/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )
My son has ADHD and other learning challenges. He has had an IEP since kindergarten and receives many services at school. He has made a tremendous amount of progress with all of the extra help. We also put him on medication , which was a difficult decision in itself. We have had tutors for him since kindergarten and he has also had summer school for the past two years. Although he works very very hard, it is still an endless pit of unfinished and incomplete work, misunderstood math concepts, and so on. He is very aware that he needs a lot of help to keep up and I know it bothers him. An aid in the classroom assists him with much of his work. I know that third grade is a challenging year, and we are considering holding him back and having him repeat second grade. Although he tries so very hard, our fear is that he will never be able to fully catch up if we have him go forward. He is behind in both math and reading. He is also a young second grader with a mid July birthday. I know that the school district does not believe in holding kids back, especially if they are giving him the support he needs to succeed. We know that this is the last year that we would consider doing this and a decision has to be made soon. We are so fearful that he will spend the rest of his academic life trying to play catch up. What is worse, having him feel inadequate because he can't keep up and is in a grade that he is ill-equipped to handle, or risk destroying his self esteem by holding him back now? This is such a difficult decision and we want to make the right one. He is such an amazing kid and I know that this decision is so important. Has anyone else been in this situation?