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pregnant again and lonely!!

Charlotte - posted on 07/25/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Im 20 and pregnant for the 3rd time. during my 2nd preg's my partner worked 6 days n usually didn't finish till 11pm. i bought up our 1st child and delt with terrible morning sickness and an 18 month old. unfortunately we lost our daughter (2nd) due to a car crash. Now im pregnant again and im terrifed he goes to work and come home about 10. Im so lonely and scared in case something happens again and he's not here. i no he has to work for our income but chefing jobs are not very family friendly due to the hours. I wish they were more understanding. I love my partner so much but i hate his job. he misses out on so much and he knows it, but its the only thing he says he's good at. Who else is lonely due to their partners job??

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Tana - posted on 08/01/2009

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My husband is also a chef and I'm a cook, pregnant with our second child (our first is almost 3). I feel what you're going through. Right now I'm on light duty (due Sept. 9th) and I'm not working that much, so it's really helping. I understand that it's really hard to do family things and to have your husband around when the hours for this job are so demanding and wearing. Please make sure that you have his cell number (that he also keeps it with him 24/7), and a few back-up numbers to reach him at work. This way, if something were to happen, or in case of an emergency (you puking so hard you black out and need help when you come to) you can get ahold of someone, anyone to get help to you ASAP.

I really haven't had much help from any friends of mine, accept on rare occasions people will watch our son, so that about every 4 months my husband and I can have a night out, even if we have to get up at the butt crack of dawn and work till the cows come home, it's better than not spending any time together at all.

I wish I were more encouraging, but there's not much I can say, but you must be a super tough woman and wife to be with someone in the industry, and that must mean your just as super of a mom, so keep your chin up (or out of the toilet as much as possible) and I'm sure you and your family will get through this.

I also wanted to say that I'm sorry you lost your daughter. I can not imagine that feeling, nor do I want to, but my heart goes out to you. To endure and live shows amazing strength and courage. It also shows what you're capable of.

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