Correctional Officer Wife Blues

Stacey - posted on 05/07/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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After 12 years of marriage and half of it to a complete stranger I often find myself wondering why am I treated like the inmate rather than a soul-mate? Are there any seasoned wives out there that can help me out? I can only understand so much of what life is like for them behind those walls but can not fathom why it can't be turned off and left at work.

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Nicolee - posted on 06/30/2009

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It is not that easy to turn off and off for some officers. I grew up with an officer for a father and I have been married to an officer for almost 10 years. I also worked at the department for three years. My husband and most officers need some down time when they first get off work. If I hit him up the second he walks in the door it doesn't give him time to decompress and go from job mode to husband and daddy mode. Another big thing is that if he tells you a story about something that happened at work, be sure to support how he handled the situation. When we aren't there it is very easy to second guess what they did and how they may have been too harsh. We weren't there and should always trust and support that they did the absolute best they could. If we second guess them it puts them on the defensive and once again it is us vs them and they stay wound up. I will try not to go on too much more but if you haven't already, try talking to him about how you feel. Not about how he acts but how you feel. My husband and I have a deal that if he starts to treat me like a suspect, or someone else he encounters at work, I just smile and say, "I am not an RP (reporting party)". Usually this makes him smile and he realizes what he is doing. I am just always very careful to say things with a smile and without attacking. They deal with confrontation all day long and don't want any more once they get home.

CINDY M - posted on 03/13/2013

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I feel the same way that my hubby thinks of me a a imate as well and its driving us apart

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