Leaving

Kristin - posted on 01/24/2010

I have a 19-yr old and have been trying to encourage him to move. He does have a job and has found a place. I thought he was moving last week - he almost never sleeps at our place anymore. He's been having a LOT of problems with the company he works for not sending his paychecks to the right address, so my husband has been giving him money.

The place he found is not far away and he doesn't drive yet, so I wonder how independent he will actually be when he does "move out". I tend to be the strict one and my husband tends to be the "softie" so we'll see what finally happens.

Terri - posted on 01/19/2010

I know what my father did to help me out the door - once I turned 18, I started paying rent...we signed a contract.
It started out as 10% of anything I made... 6 mos. later it went up to 20% of my pay.... every six months the rate would continue to increase - it didn't take long for me to realize I'd better get a move on, or I'd have no money at all - and still be living w/ my parents rules.... I saved, I moved out w/ 8 months. I had to do w/ out some comfort items for a while - but I learned a lot.
Two of our 5 have moved out... have a 20, a 19, and a 13 yr old to go - and they are working on it. :)
Good luck to you - get the upper hand... and shove if you must!

CORSALIA - posted on 11/15/2009

And I forgot to say----I loved the peace and quietness of my home after all the kids left. Instead of cooking and cleaning for 6-----When I cleaned---the house stayed clean and I found I had somuch time on my hand----Wouldn't trade it for the world.

CORSALIA - posted on 11/15/2009

When my oldest left---I cried---the 2nd one brought a house but continued to live with me-I put him out---packed his stuff with love---he was mad at me for a long time----but he got over it----my 3rd---quickly found herself an apt after seeing what I did to her brother-----But as I told all my kids---how can you put someone out when they have a 3br-2bath house---I pushed him out of the nest because I realized he would never leave on his own----My son matured a lot afterwards----I believe I did the right thing.