Gloria - posted on 12/13/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have three boys. My oldest is 22 years old and he was always able to keep video games and outside playing balanced. I didn't have to make him. My two younger son's 11 yrs and 8 yrs are completely different. They do not play sports. We tried, we forced them and it was a nightmare so we stopped. Not only will they not play on a team they won't go out in the yard and play either.
All my kids care about is video games and computer games. It is a daily constant battle to keep it in check and I am so sick of it! Now please don't reply if your children are athletic and play sports or have other similar activities because that is not the personality of my children. And don't think for one second I haven't tried like hell to get them to do anything other than video games. I have climbed trees with them, built forts, played hide and seek, taken them on hikes. All the things I want them to do and that I did as a child. They just aren't interested.
I would like to hear from other parents that are struggling with these problems or have struggled with them in the past and found a solution. I am NOT interested in anyone telling me what a terrible mother I am because I can't get my kids to play sports or put my foot down and take away the games. It's just not that simple. You just can't understand unless you have children like mine who are not athletic in the least.
Also my middle son has severe (I mean severe!) social anxiety which he now takes medication for and it has dramatically improved. His therapist said children with social anxiety like this (which he was born with, trust me it's always been an issues since birth ;we couldn't even go to restaraunts when he was an infant) are easily drawn to video games because they can make friends online and not have to deal with them in real life. He is now much more social, has friends and will play outside sometimes if they come over, but again the main priority in his life his video games and computer.
Our youngest son is slightly more balanced in that he will go outside more and has a huge imagination and can entertain himself without games, but he is still somewhat addicted to them.
If anyone out there is struggling with these issues and would like to share please do so. I feel like I am going out of my mind. I would like to take a hammer to our PS3 and computer and just move out to a desert island somewhere! I am sooo sick of dealing with the constant complaining and begging to play games all the time.
Please tell me there is a realistic solution out there!