hello!!

Susie - posted on 04/28/2011

So sorry for your losses. They are your children Finley and Miles are blessings. I lost my son Aaron at 18wks. due to a cord accident Feb. 9th 2011. My grief is really raw. I'm sad every day. My sister is pregnant around the same time as I and my son's 3rd grade teach is due around the same time too, So it's in my face alot. I miss him everyday. I cry for him everyday! This pain is no pain I have ever felt before. My heart has been shattered and I don't think it will ever mend. How can it the child I wanted will never be. No one should tell you when you should stop greiving everyone is different in their grief. Some people just don't understand especially the one's who have never felt a loss. I know for me I will greive for my son until I see him again, I'm his mom. You are not alone Tricia I will be here for you.

Shannon - posted on 07/25/2010

I lost my daughter Serenity during my 5th month of pregnancy in 2002, I am still grieving. I believe I always will. To me there really is no way of getting over the loss of a child. Although I have 5 healthy children, she is a part of my daily life and the other children still talk about their sister and the ones that came after her refer to her as their special angel.
I think my biggest problem is when I see pregnant women drinking or smoking because I know many women who all they wanted to be was a Mommy and it just didn't happen for them. It doesnt seem fair

Angela - posted on 07/02/2010

You will always be greigving. The Bible and pray helps me. I wish I know if I had a boy or girl. I wish I had a place to go to say good bye. But I don't. God did later bless me with two girls, but I'll never forget my first. I read the Bible every night and pray a lot. Another thing you can light a candle on the day they where bornen or there do date. Also what a friend told me go in a room lock the door if someone kicks don't answer it just let you self really cry until you can't cry anymore! God Bless/ Good Luck

Tammy - posted on 05/29/2010

I lost two babies, when they were born at 36 weeks, over the years i have talked to many women that have lost a child, loosing one, two , three or even ten, doesn't make a difference, loosing one child is all it takes to make us moms of angels...

I understand what you are saying about being around pregnant women, i too felt that way at one time, its part of the grieving ...you have to walk through this, come to terms, learn to cope all over again..

you are not the same person you were before you lost your son's, find out what makes you you now, learn to know who you are now and in that will help you deal with the death of your son's.

Nothing will bring them back, you have the memories from when they were here, and you can make more with them, even though they are not here now...

take care

Shannon - posted on 11/25/2009

How do you STOP greiving for a lost child? People say that because they don't understand what you are going thru. I lost my daughter in 2005 in a house fire, she was seven. I will never "get over" it or stop greiving her. But it will get better for you, when you are ready. There is no set amount of time. It would be a good idea for you to find someone to talk to, a professional. It also helps to vent. Do not keep your sorrow locked inside of you, it will eat at you if you do. I am so sorry for you, for your pain. It is normal for you to have resentment towards women who are pregnant but agin, find someone to talk to. It is something you need to start working thru because if you don't it will start to rule your life and you will stay miserable. If you need to vent I am willing to listen, I wish you the best.