Advice Please Before I Spazz out on someone and catch a case!?!?!? LOL

Jaimee - posted on 11/20/2009 ( 51 moms have responded )

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I am the mother of a BEAUTIFUL bi-racial daughter. I am 100% black, although in the black community I am considered a "light skinned girl". My daughter is white and black but she is 10000000% white in color. She has facial features that resemble me, but I'm coffee and she is cream (i have a sense) of humor. When out on the town recently I had an older white woman come up and tell me that she was "darling" I found that sweet UNTIL she asked me if i were the nanny or maid. Now its 2009 and I am a real life positive polly but it took everything I had not to cock back and send this lady to her maker. It's sad to say that with all that has changed, people still look at bi-racial relationships as a slap in the face. WTF is with ignorant people. geez

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Stephanie - posted on 12/16/2009

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I'm just now reading this but my fiance (who is black) and I were shopping. I was in a different aisle and he was sitting by the cart with our son (who looks just like him but is about 100000% white too). & he definitely got this same reaction. Except the old lady had never seen a male nanny before. Seriously?!?

Jaimee - posted on 12/15/2009

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Quoting Dionne:


Then I had a nanny at the park that was of Jamaican descent ask me how long have I been taking care of my the little girl. I told her that I was her mother and she was shocked. I started to nurse her because it was feeding time and the nanny started to announce to everyonethat entered into the park(and I am so telling the truth) that," it's okay that is her baby so she can breastfeed her."



Girl this is too funny to me. I would've died laughing had i been at that park.....i mean really........did they think you would breast feed a child that wasn't yours??? People are a trip

Jaimee - posted on 12/15/2009

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Quoting courtney:

th the barrettes at the end black girls especially the young one's just look at me all funny and it's really annoying. i know it's not because it looks bad, because i've learned from my boyfriends cousins how to do it and i do a good job and it looks cute but they look at me like " look at that white girl, thinking she can do her kids hair" it's very aggravating.


Awww Courtney I see black women giving women who are with black men dirty looks all the time. It's class less because they have no reason to do it. I'm very vocal and can't help but say something when I see it. There is no such thing as a "black or white" hairstyle so IDK why people would be worried about it. Screw them girl, Jada (my mini me) has curly hair and Lord help me, doing her hair on the daily basis is a struggle (i've never been able to do hair) so I applaud you on those twists girlie bc I wish i could do em. keep up the good work and let the dummies be dumb. xo

Jaimee - posted on 12/15/2009

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Quoting Missy:

  but we have to stand up and be proud of our lifestyle and forget the ignorance.


I totally agree with you on the above statement. Bi-racial everything has been around since long before it became "acceptable" I've learned to just laugh and occasionally play with them because as we all should know, color doesn't mean anything. We all face the same hardships at some point in time. It's actually very funny to me now. I mean really there are lil bi-racial children all over the place now a days 8-)

Jaimee - posted on 12/15/2009

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Quoting Kirsten:

your post did not give many details to indicate why this was percieved as racist


My post was quick, more of a rant. I could've gone into details about how the old bird argued me down about how my daughter couldn't possibly be mine and that CLEARLY that my daughter has not one ounce of "negro" in her, but why spend all that time typing when my entry was based on what I was feeling. If a person generally is confused about what role I play in my daughters life, and is polite, then I am the first to correct them and not make them feel like an idiot. I am only 23 and if my daughter is calling me MOMMY in a persons face, I don't see how anyone could assume that I am anything BUT her mother. I wrote this to blow off some steam and gets similar stories, hopefully that was more than enough information to appease you.

Jaimee - posted on 12/15/2009

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hershey huggs.......that is adorable. I think I'm gonna call my baby that (sorry i had to use it)

Jaimee - posted on 12/15/2009

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Quoting Angel:



We still get dirty looks and whisper especially now because the town we live in is a step away from rejoining the KKK it seems like. /shrug In all honesty, it just makes me smile. I love that people have no idea what to do or say when it comes to my family and my kids. I'm proud of my husband and myself for being able to laugh at their stupidity.



Girl Me and A'Ric (jada's dad) went xmas shopping for her today and I find it odd that we get the most bizarre stares from everybody. White women because I guess they can't understand why he is shopping w a striking black woman such as myself (lol i'm joking). I found that people in the stores act like we aren't shopping for our kid, or that we're even together. Me and him aren't together but when we go out in public i tend to act as if we are, just to piss off the nosey onlookers. We live in the Dallas Fort Worth area, so it's still funny to me that we get the looks that we do. But I can say (as of today) I have yet to catch a case.........thanks guys 8-)

Michelle - posted on 12/15/2009

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Girl, you hang your head up proud for your beautiful child. Treat her as an equal as well as your self. Your daughter in will do the same thing and all will accept her. Im latina and my boys are black (their father was black (he has passed)). People thought my boys were from India (LOL). Until I told them and they responded with, "Oh!" and I walked on. A lot of times it is just ignorance and I just say a little prayer for them and walk on. All children are children of God, and all are beautiful! you go girl! :0)

Ashley - posted on 12/15/2009

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Quoting Angel:

They did not want to give me my baby in the hospital because they said it was an asian baby. After my friend stopped laughing she explained to them the baby was really mine and they checked the bracelets to make sure.



I had a similar experience at my hospital. My husband and I were sitting there staring at our daughters who were incubated so we could only touch them through the holes and the nurse came over and began talking to us then said " Well how is mom doing" and once she knew that I was actually mom she gave me the dirtiest look and walked away.



From that day on she was so rude to us, not letting us hold our daughters and telling us we couldn't touch them through the holes. So, I got pissed and told them either they need to give us a new nurse or I will be taking my girls home myself! -- 4 days later they were able to come home.



 



We still get dirty looks and whisper especially now because the town we live in is a step away from rejoining the KKK it seems like. /shrug In all honesty, it just makes me smile. I love that people have no idea what to do or say when it comes to my family and my kids. I'm proud of my husband and myself for being able to laugh at their stupidity.



 



&& yes, please don't catch a case over stupid old ladies. They are are the worst.

Tawnya - posted on 12/15/2009

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Hold your head high in the air the next time this happens and with so much pride say, "No ma'am, she is mine"! I have a son and a daughter who are both black and white and I used to get it all the time....the funny thing is, my Grandmother, who still uses the word "colored" was ALWAYS the first person to step in and correct someone......she to this day calls them her little "hershey hugs"......white chocolate and chocolate wrapped all up in one!

Starece - posted on 12/14/2009

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You have a great point Kristen. people cannot believe that I am 27. old ladies ask me all the time if my son is mine. You just have to smile politely and say "yes". it's just a part of having bi-racial kids that you have to deal with. your attention should be on your child

Kirsten - posted on 12/13/2009

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Awww don't spaz....old ladies sometimes get stuck in the time they grew up in ! And sometimes their curiosity causes them to misspeak....but i am wondering if the problem was that maybe you just looked young to her and that is why she assumed you were the nanny! I was a young mom (and still look to young to have my son) and everyone always assumed i was babysitting or his big sister.... your post did not give many details to indicate why this was percieved as racist

Shannon - posted on 12/11/2009

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Also, if I had to find a partner that was the same race as me where I live, I'd still be single! I can't believe people are still so narrow minded this day in age!

Shannon - posted on 12/11/2009

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Wow, I can't believe that kind of thing still goes on! Almost everyone I know with children are bi-racial, it's so normal that no one asks those kind of silly questions. I am white and the father of my first child is Samoan. I always thought my son was fair in complexion until I tried to look the white kid in the crowd at sports day and realised that there wasn't one there! Obviously my perception of what my son looked like was totally of the mark, yet I've never had a sideways glance because my kids are way darker than me. Maybe I'm just lucky that where I live people are more accepting and laid back?

Missy - posted on 12/10/2009

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I knw what you mean. I have two white children and my last child is biracial. When people would see me out, they would ask was I babysitting?!! I would get really mad and politely say No, she is mine. I do not know how to deal with people like this sometimes because it takes all I have to not clock out! I think you have to ignore people like this because some people cannot deal with interracial dating or children, but we have to stand up and be proud of our lifestyle and forget the ignorance.

Alyssa - posted on 12/10/2009

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You have to just ignore it! It is sad that people are still prejiduce and rude! People have stared at our family all our lives...I am used to it. I hate that my daughter has to deal with it..but there is nothing we can do. Since my husband and I are both mixed...she will have us to relate to. Just kill people with kindness! I know it is hard! Plus, your daughter will start to realize it when she gets older if you get upset.

Toni - posted on 12/09/2009

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I know exactly what you mean because my husband is white and everywhere we go we get the "look of shame" as I call it and it's sad and rude....We just had our little girl back in October and even some of the looks we got from nurses at the hospital didn't surprise me at all because some people are just ignorant...and little do they know their looks only make our relationship stronger and the bond unbreakable!!!

Vicki - posted on 12/07/2009

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some people are so ignorant trust me i have heard everything both from black and white people with my son i am white his dad is black he looks more black and most people dont think he is mine but he knows exactly who he is he knows all about his family wher all the different branches of the tree are,but as for loosing it I dont blame you I was once getting on a train and a black girl told me to move my half breed child out of the way well lets just say I have a mouth and I know how to use it!!!!!

Stephanie - posted on 12/06/2009

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Quoting jaimee:




thats exactly how it is when Aric (jada's dad) me and Jada go out. Aric is white and looooooooooooovvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeeeeeessssssssssss black women. When people stare at us, we usually go above and beyond to get under their skin. I start saying stuff like "geez we make pretty babies" or "come to mommy jada" so as to get the point out there that YES SHE IS MY DAMN KID. i mean it's not like bi-racial children is something new. People have been mixing races since Lord knows when. It's hella sad that people still look at it like its wrong. Stupid people make the world go round. lol. Keep in touch love.








You are so right!!  Stupid people do make the world go round AND people have been mixing races since the Bible days!!  I even go so far sometimes when people are staring at us real hard...I'll say "wow, I guess the've never seen an interracial couple before."  Its straight and to the point and they def get the pic when I say that!! LOL!!



 





 

Belinda - posted on 12/06/2009

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I go through the same thing but I am biracial and look white and my kids are coffee color as u would say Jaimee. I know what you got through because ppl look at me and say...are you their mother, whith a look of discust on their faces. I totally agree that ppl look at biracial relationships as a slap in the face. I wonder what Prez Obamas parents had to go through because if things are this bad now can you imagine how bad it was when they had him.. I know my parents had problems.

Beth - posted on 12/06/2009

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It really does depend on where you live... Where I live every place we go people stop and adore our daughter.... All that they can do is comment on her and she knows it... But you can't let people get to you it's really pointless... You have more to life now just make sure that they come first... :D

Stephanie - posted on 12/06/2009

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It is crazy with so many bi-racial relationships and children these days that people can still be so rude.I have never had anyone say anything but have had plenty of stares.I guess all we can do is teach our children how beautiful they are and some peole may not see it that way but it is those people's problems,not our babies.

Courtney - posted on 12/05/2009

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Well i am a white girl and my daughter's father is mixed ( black and white) and i always get weird looks, not just from white people, but from black people also. my daughter's skin tone is light but not white and not caramel colored so people are always asking " what is she" like she's a breed of dog or something. her hair is just unruly she has a fro but it's not as course as black people's hair and when i do like the little twists that hang down with the barrettes at the end black girls especially the young one's just look at me all funny and it's really annoying. i know it's not because it looks bad, because i've learned from my boyfriends cousins how to do it and i do a good job and it looks cute but they look at me like " look at that white girl, thinking she can do her kids hair" it's very aggravating. and then when me and my boyfriend and little girl go out we have people stop and talk to Cadance ( my little girl) because she's friendly and tell everyone hi and they think she's cute, but then we have some older white and black people look at us with like a disgust face. I don't know what to tell you but screw them ignorant type of people and don't pay them no mind because it's their ignorance.

Stephanie - posted on 12/05/2009

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I can relate to I'm Mexican and my husbend is White and our three year old son has the white look lol blue eyes light brown hair and white skin. while i'm a light skin mexican you can tell my son looks nothing like me.When he was younger I got it all the looks and the rude comments I really would tick me off how people could be so close minded being that it was 2007 .I had never had to deal with anything like that before so it really hurt to the point that like you I was ready to knock them in to there next life, but after telling my husbend he told me just play along with them tell them make them feel stupid .So one day while at the mall some lady said oh wow he looks nothing like you but he must be the father I said no I don't even know who that is the lady felt do stupid that she just walked away it was the funniest thing ever . It was great instead of making me feel bad I made her feel bad lol. No that we are having our second son I ready for it I dont let what people say get to me any longer I just want my kids to be proud to be Bi racial and not to be judge mental of others . After all I feel that we have the must beaitiful kids . In a couple of years this country will be so mixed that I hope never to here any more comments of race made .

Dionne - posted on 12/05/2009

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I UNDERSTAND!! My multiracial children reflect me and my husband and our ancestory. However, people only see their light skin and hair texture (our five year old duaghter had blond hair and our 3 month old's hair is looking red) and assume that they can't be yours! I had so many encounters but their are a few that are so memorable:



I had one lady at my duaghter's saturday ballet class asked if I was her permanent care giver because I was always there bringing her to class. I told her yes i am her permanent care giver because I am her mother. She then blurted out loudly but, "she is so white!!"



Then I had a nanny at the park that was of Jamaican descent ask me how long have I been taking care of my the little girl. I told her that I was her mother and she was shocked. I started to nurse her because it was feeding time and the nanny started to announce to everyonethat entered into the park(and I am so telling the truth) that," it's okay that is her baby so she can breastfeed her."



At the same park different day there was a man that came up to me and asked who was my daughter's mother because she looks so familiar. I told himthat he would never guess who her mother is. LOL!! when I told him he was amazed and also very apologetic.



I figure that this will go on forever because of our society's hang-ups on race!

Jaimee - posted on 12/02/2009

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Maybe say, "yes, in a way I'm her maid/nanny b/c I take care of her and my home, but technically, I'm her mom." If they can say something stupid, why can't you? lol



you are sooooooooooo right because as a mother we all where many hats. lol





 

Jaimee - posted on 12/02/2009

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Quoting Stephanie:

Hi Jaimee. I feel like I'm talking to my twin, lol. I'm not mixed, but I'm very light and have green eyes (which I got from my father, who got them from his grandmother). My boys are mixed (my husband is white) and they are also 100% white in color. People stare at us, but I've never had anyone directly make a comment. My oldest son looks just like me (except for our color) but my youngest looks just like his dad. I've often wondered if anyone is gonna question what I'm doing with this little white boy one day, lol. I don't let it get me down though. If people are that ignorant, then its their own loss. It shows how STUPID and close minded people are. I think its funny that people like that get mad when they see my husband and I together. I'll usually grab his hand or put my arm around him to make them even madder...lol. Maybe not the nicest thing to do, but as you said its 2009, there's a bi-racial president in office. People of color have come a long way and we have to keep fighting to show people like that ignorant old woman that we're just as good as her...if not better since we don't let color interfer with our feelings : ) Hope this helps. Keep in touch...it sounds like we have a lot in common!!


thats exactly how it is when Aric (jada's dad) me and Jada go out. Aric is white and looooooooooooovvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeeeeeessssssssssss black women. When people stare at us, we usually go above and beyond to get under their skin. I start saying stuff like "geez we make pretty babies" or "come to mommy jada" so as to get the point out there that YES SHE IS MY DAMN KID. i mean it's not like bi-racial children is something new. People have been mixing races since Lord knows when. It's hella sad that people still look at it like its wrong. Stupid people make the world go round. lol. Keep in touch love.

Jaimee - posted on 12/02/2009

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hahahahahahahaha girl that had me on the floor laughing my behind off. I was nervous when I had my daughter because my mom's family is very vocal about their distaste for "white" people. But once my daughter was here all that went out the window THANK THE LORD. God does has a sense of humor. I've been laughing people off left and right. Jada has started yelling at people "this is my mommy" gotta love kids honesty. i guess she's tired of it too. lol

Lisa - posted on 12/02/2009

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I hate that! I'm asked if im their step-mom when the kids call me "mommy". It hurts me but my son is four now and he sets people straight for me.! :)

Mandy - posted on 12/02/2009

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None of these people are worth catching a case over! Man, these people are stupid as F****!!!! Im sick of giving them the excuse of oh they just ignorant and dont no better! they grown, and they dont care about knowing better, so they aint worth any of ur time and its not our responsibility to teach them!! Im sooo sikk to death!!

Stephanie - posted on 11/30/2009

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Hi Jaimee. I feel like I'm talking to my twin, lol. I'm not mixed, but I'm very light and have green eyes (which I got from my father, who got them from his grandmother). My boys are mixed (my husband is white) and they are also 100% white in color. People stare at us, but I've never had anyone directly make a comment. My oldest son looks just like me (except for our color) but my youngest looks just like his dad. I've often wondered if anyone is gonna question what I'm doing with this little white boy one day, lol. I don't let it get me down though. If people are that ignorant, then its their own loss. It shows how STUPID and close minded people are. I think its funny that people like that get mad when they see my husband and I together. I'll usually grab his hand or put my arm around him to make them even madder...lol. Maybe not the nicest thing to do, but as you said its 2009, there's a bi-racial president in office. People of color have come a long way and we have to keep fighting to show people like that ignorant old woman that we're just as good as her...if not better since we don't let color interfer with our feelings : ) Hope this helps. Keep in touch...it sounds like we have a lot in common!!

Shawnale - posted on 11/30/2009

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Hey Jaimee,

I know the feeling, even though my son isn't much darker than me, I still get comments and reactions. I just make it known that I'm his mommy by saying something like "Give mommy a kiss" or "give mommy five" whenever we are out and about. Just remember that people are people and we have to understand that we can't change the way they think, and we can't go around punching old ladies, (or old men... sometimes their looks are worse than old lady comments!) Just continue to be the best mom you can be, and just let their comments be like water, let them roll off, Life is too short! Good Luck!

Maria - posted on 11/29/2009

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WTF exactly! I would have told her "No, I'm her mother, but we are looking for a maid, would you be interested?".lolJust kidding. I'm glad you found your strength-you did good!

Leah - posted on 11/26/2009

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WOW!!!! That is ridiculous. I would have just laughed and said, "nope, the mistress!" LOL!!! Seriously though, there is little that can be said. It goes back once again to the comments I made under "rude comments.... advice please. that the history of legacy has shaped the ignorance and mentality of so many and until that changes, the ignorance will continue to be perpetuated.

Cynthia - posted on 11/25/2009

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What an idiot! Girl dont pay them No mind!!!!!! I also have a birracial child that looks just like me hair and all, So when she's around her dads family that we havent met the dont acknowledge her until they see that she looks like him too! My thing is just because she looks more hispanic some people are still ignorant!

Bridgette - posted on 11/24/2009

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Jamie,
I saved this one for a good laugh on the untimate pay back for the ppl we have to deal with.
I have brotehrs and sisters, we were raised by my mother as FULL BLOOD, we did not know half sister or anything in that manor.MY daddy adopted me and he died when I was 8.His family told my siblings, she is not ur sister, we dont have ppl like that in our family, she has that bad blood in her!
His family is/was very racist.I never was really attracted to men like me, they dis owned me due to my choice in men (other reasons) they are VERY RACIST! well, they spoke horrible things of my children, wouldnt allow my sister to bring them in their homes.....
my sister calls me , she is LAUGHING SO HARD.she tells me to sit down cause im gonna love this one.The family goes to a family reunion, they get there and they think they are at the wrong place.they are looking around to see many many Black ppl and mixed children, not to many white ppl.SO, they ask if this is the Cole Family Reunion, they said yes, it is welcome : )..so, then they said no, is this the cole family of (said name) htey said YES!!! IT IS!!! My sister said that My Aunt grabbed her things, and drove out of there as fast as she could...now, that is the ultimate pay back..all the names that family called me and my children...so, I sent them a letter..WELCOME TO THE FAMILY!!!!!!! YES!!! ther is a God, and he has a sense of humor..LOL..~Bri~

Bridgette - posted on 11/24/2009

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Keep your head up ma, children of color are the most beautiful children out there and we are blessed to have them! I say of color, I have a straigh up RAINBOW COROLITION going on, the gene pool was not in my favor at all!!! 2 look asian, i is bright white and looks hispanic and the other is blonde hair and blue eyes, yet still looking nothing like me at all! I am White, Irish and Indian to be exact and thier father is Black..we have found no asian in the fam tree.My story for you is.I was shopping at a H & J party store, I was geting formula , the woman said to me, you have beautiful asian child.I said thank you but, she is not asian.She looked at me with a mean face..she said.why you deny? I said I'm not, her father is Black..she got so angry, she argues with me for about 5 minutes and I kept telling her, NO ASIAN BLOOD LINE!!!!she then told me, if u lay down with asian man, you should have no shame, he should be the one shame.I started to laugh, I didnt know what else to do,other than catch a case and camera were all over the place..I was a lil ignorant back then.She yelled and told me to leave her store, would not sell me formula for my daughter! said if i am shame of asian baby, we dont need asian milk! alright, after that I had choice words for her but, im not going to post them here..ignorant ppl can and will bring the ingnorant out of you, dont lower yourself....this was 10 years ago for me..another thing i get a lot is, they are not sisters!!!! .you ppl always claim family when there is no blood at all!! GRRRRRR @ "YOU PEOPLE???" ~Bri~

Jennifer - posted on 11/23/2009

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Wow! That's sad to hear Jaimee. It's a shame you had to go through that. Your daughter is beautiful and so are you. People are just plain ignorant sometimes.. I guess I get the complete opposite... My children are bi-racial and look more black or hispanic than the majority of bi-racial kids I have seen. So I am Caucasian,and several times older causaian people have said to me. Wow your children are clean and look very nice. I say thank you,and in the back of mind I'm thinking are they suppose to look all dirty and nasty because they are bi-racial.... Sometimes you just have to laugh it off. I am 41 years old and have been through alot of these little incidents in my life...God bless and keep smiley...Jennifer

Chastity - posted on 11/22/2009

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I know exactly what your talking about! My kids are bi-racial I am white and their dad is black! I can remember going out to eat and the waitress asked me if those kids were mine, I said yes and she then told me they were beautiful I said thank you and got up to leave and she then stopped me and asked me if I was sure they were mine I said yes then proceeded to ask me if i was sure, asked what they were, if i was sure i didnt adopt them, it went on and on..I tried to be polite but then I snapped and said this is what happens when you mix black and white you figure the rest out...she jus stared! There has been so many more of those incidents! I ask myself are people really this blind and yes they are I could care less now i use to take it to heart but now i jus turn and laugh at how people act! Anyway jus thought i would share 1 of the many experiences i have had!

Danyella - posted on 11/22/2009

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Quoting jaimee:

I get it all the time but this particular instance the lady was beyond rude about it............i actually thought she wanted to take me home and put me to work lol. 


lmao @ this statement. I think next time you get that question, maybe turn it back around on them & ask if they're available b/c you currently have an opening for a nanny/maid.



I dunno, something about this topic brings the devious nature out of me! lol

Jaimee - posted on 11/22/2009

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I tell Jada that she is sooooooooooooooooooo awesome that God took a piece of everything and made her from scratch. I get it all the time but this particular instance the lady was beyond rude about it............i actually thought she wanted to take me home and put me to work lol. Gotta love how people refuse to accept change. But hey a good laugh they always provide so that i must thank em. I always (or usually) walk away laughing at how red their cheeks are turning.

Kristina - posted on 11/22/2009

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Girl you just keep focusing on the positive! Your family is beautiful! We live in a time where there are more and more bi racial childern being born everyday and making the world a very colorful place.Your daughter will def see that growing up. Just instill in her how wonderful she is in everyway and that will help prepare her to keep her head up in the future! A good response to ignorant people.... "Thank you but no this is my beautiful blessing from God"

Danyella - posted on 11/22/2009

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Jaimee! You crack me up! Girl stay outta the slammer, please! lol Find some crazy, outlandish, sarcastic remark just to illicit a crazy look from them. Maybe say, "yes, in a way I'm her maid/nanny b/c I take care of her and my home, but technically, I'm her mom." If they can say something stupid, why can't you? lol

Normally, I would say just ignore it, but I think in this case it's ok to embarrass them a bit! I don't care if they are old. Old people get out of pocket sometimes & try to use their age as a reason to say off the wall stuff.

Teicha - posted on 11/21/2009

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I give older people a break when they seem sincere because I think of the comments that my older relatives make...it was a different world that they were raised in. When our family lived in New Orleans, older white women would always say how beautiful the girls were and ask if I was the babysitter. I would smile and say, "No ma'am" and they would smile and say "Oh". There was no malice intended. Now that we live in Texas, people look at kids and begin speaking Spanish to us. As one man said, "The girls are Latinas" I smiled and said "No". He smiled and said "Oh". No malice intended.

Michelle - posted on 11/21/2009

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Lol, well I have to say I myself am mixed black and white and I call my kids smores, because my oldest son is darker then me and my daughter is a carmel caller, but my youngest son looks like a marshmellow. (Hahaha i have a sense of humor too) I cant say much because i still find myself looking at other kids that are bi-racial and I dont even know why I do it, being bi- racial myself and having mixed kids

Jaimee - posted on 11/21/2009

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I know times are different it just stings because it makes me question what kind of things my daughter will encounter. All of you ladies feedback has been both motivational and some down right hilarious. You guys have helped me stay outta the slammer. for that im eternally grateful lol. I will just continue to take a smile with me where ever i go. freakn old folks lmbo jk

Yvette - posted on 11/21/2009

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I am a mom of two boys. Both are biracial. I am white and they are pretty dark. The sad thing is that sometimes the thought that they are your children doesn't even occur to some ppl. Especially older ppl. They were raised in a different time and if they werent exposed to it then its not something that they would even think of. Its a case of ignorance. I have been asked a few times if i was babysitting and all i did was say no they are mine. I think its funny to see the look of "oh hell what did i just say" come across their face.

Tresha - posted on 11/21/2009

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Times have changed a bit. Me and my husband have been together over 16 years. And when we first started wow did the looks and stares and comments get to me!!! We found a way to laugh it off and simply got used to it. Now I use it to educate people. Most people just don't know wany better. they were raised very ignorant. It also depends on where you live.

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They did not want to give me my baby in the hospital because they said it was an asian baby. After my friend stopped laughing she explained to them the baby was really mine and they checked the bracelets to make sure.

Valencia - posted on 11/20/2009

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I remember when my oldest was a baby I was showing a friend of mine his 3 month old photos. Her boss came up and asked me whose baby it was and if he was Asian. He was an idiot - why would I be walking around showing off someone else's kid first of all. Yes, it is annoying and frustrating but it is what it is - no need in going to jail, hahahaha.

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