Betty - posted on 09/10/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have a question about genetic personalities. My daughter is 11 years old, does not live with her dad, but has a somewhat close relationship with him despite of not seeing him often enough. My question is, they both have this horrible "power struggle" character trait and I am wondering if it is seriously genetic. My daughter has been this way for the last feew years but it is only getting worse now and if I don't do something soon, I forsee it getting out of control eventually. He works better alone, which is why he loves to drive for a living. He does NOT like to work "under someone" as in have a boss over him telling him what to do. This scares me for my daughter's future for jobs, relationships, etc because she is the same exact way...a control freak. She brought home a paper from school recently that asked the kids what kind of things make them mad and asked all different questions like to number 1-5 with one not making you mad at all or 5 making you so mad your ready to explode. Just about everything she answered was something about her needing to be in control. When she said on it "No one rules me" and how she hates when teachers tell her what to do, I decided I REALLY need to do something. She is actually a very good student who gets pretty good grades despite of her saying this. I am at my wits end with her little "power struggle" and I need to break this now. She is always super argumentive and another thing she listed on the paper is how she hates to br proven wrong because "she is always right"! Anyone else have this problem and if so, what do you do about it? Could it be genetic like her dad, does she need (professional) help or what? Please help!