Best place to raise bi-racial kids

Terri - posted on 11/05/2008 ( 100 moms have responded )

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Hi, we live in Arizona with our 3 kids (10, 8, and 3) and we will be moving somewhere in the next 9 months to a year. I was wondering what it's like where you live and if you have suggestions on the best place to live for our beautiful children to be strong, happy and healthy ;)

Thanks- Terri

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Robert - posted on 05/03/2013

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Stay away from Massachusetts biracial people here are hated by both blacks and whites.

Monique - posted on 11/14/2008

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DO NOT move to ALABAMA. My children are ages 14 and 12 and I still hear people making smart comments about them. Thier are many biracial children here, but the acceptance is non exsistence. When my children were born they looked more white than black, so alot of people often thought I was the maid or sitter for the kids. They have been called everything from zebras to those children. We are still behind the times here in Alabama, but I teach my kids to love themselves and forgive those that talk about them they just don't understand you

Colleen - posted on 05/16/2013

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Maria...Maria,, are you lost? why are you even responding to a post that has NOTHING to do with you. On top of that your lack of sensitivity, bragging and snottyness about your (Were just Spanish culture) shows how dumb you are. Please tell me again why are you even on here? The question origionally asked here was very valid, and theres nothing wrong with askin an intelligent question to find knowledge that could help a mother and her children;s lives. I myself, am curious to know the same thing. Ignorant Bitch.

Marsha - posted on 12/12/2012

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I live in south jersey and I have to say Delran and cinnaminson nj are the best places to raise a biracial child. It seems everyone is so comfortable that my children dont stand out, everyone is mixed in and delrans school district is awesome.great community great people.

Rabaab - posted on 05/13/2009

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I think every place has its good and bad points.. i live in switzerland which is great.. I think that places like Michigan, Chicago are great.

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Gabrielle - posted on 07/16/2014

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NO! Nc is not! I am moving as soon as my lease is up & I'm on the coast (it's suppose to be better over here! I'm hit with racial slurs all the time here & have been told several times my daughter will grow up confused on is she white or is she black & that she will never amount to anything because of her skin color. It is just straight ignorance here! I am moving as soon as my lease is up!

Candace - posted on 06/12/2014

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never go to tennessee. i live here. i'm leaving to keep my children from becoming shattered by the racism. stay out of the Deep South.

Diane - posted on 05/26/2014

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I am an educated black woman and my husband is an educated white man. We live in Tennessee (Murfreesboro), when my kids were young and my husband and I had outstanding community jobs, everything seemed to be somewhat great. My husband who doesn't want to leave Tennessee because of his family, doesn't want to admit that Tennessee is still a racist place (I am from Tennessee, so I can say that!). My husband is in a position where he had to put people on the spot. He left his job and as soon as my son got into the college here, the police department came after him with force...I never thought this would happen to us and my son. He couldn't go to any gatherings with his friends, because if there was trouble, they pulled him out of the crowd....please do not move your family here, even if they say it has a black president at the University, they don't care about their students...being a 4.0 student, he is ready to give it up..It's a sad place and I am getting my son to safety...before it's too late.

Vanessa - posted on 02/01/2014

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I would think yeah! Most southern states are still racist! My father was from North Carolina and was White. My mother was Hispanic so I experienced racism from even familia members and the blacks as well as the whites still have a shady attitude when it comes to Bi-Racial Couple and Children. The only place honestly where I lived for a short time that I actually felt @ home was Florida! I feel it has to do with the multi-cultural people who live there is astounding! I've never visited Tennessee but I could only imagine how they still are! It is still the South! People only change their ways of hiding their feelings better!

Kim - posted on 09/24/2013

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My husbands family lives in Louisville Georgia his dad ,grandma, and many more he said we can never go to visit cause we will get murdered is think true they have the podium that they used to sell slaves as there town memorabilia

Debbie - posted on 09/06/2013

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I want this to come out the right way so if it doesn't please let me try again, looking for some advice and some support. My babies daddy passed in December just so u know it was an abusive relationship and we weren't together. My daughter starts pre-k Monday. At open house the women were all very *itchy, snip pity, just kept to themselves. Now I'm seeing posts on FB about kids getting teased, made me think more about it. So I googled it. The books that r out there on raising a biracial child r any of them good? I want to give her what she needs now, build her self esteem. Her dads family and friends have all disappeared I'm white so I know I need to support her. Does anyone have any suggestions? Am I in right place?

Keli - posted on 08/16/2013

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I am Puerto Rican as well, but brown skin. I totally disagree with Maria and feel that it is probably because she personally has not had to deal with it. It's is so ironic that our culture is part African, yet we try so hard to assimilate and disassociate with that part of our heritage. It is discouraging that the condition of race relations is deep rooted in a past that has affected multiple ethnicities.

Colleen - posted on 05/16/2013

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I lived in NY my whole life, and New York, is very diverse, and most of the time, people there are accepting of diversity. Of course you have your different pockets of divided neighborhoods in some some areas, but for the most part, NY is a very busy, crowded, diverse place. The only down fall is the cold weather in the winter, and the city feel.

Valencia - posted on 02/20/2013

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I just received an alert that someone had posted on this thread which I found hilarious since I posted to it all the way back in 2009! It was kind of fun to see what I had written. I really need to start coming on here again - it kind of brings back memories to see it again :) So anyway, I wanted to say that since my original post, we did move from where we lived. We used to live in an area that was anything but diverse and I really didn't like it. I felt very hopeless of finding somewhere in the Metro Detroit area that was diverse and boy was I in for a shock. We have been living in Belleville, Michigan for the past 3.5 years and it is a VERY diverse community. I have never seen so many biracial kids in one place in my life. lol I absolutely love it and would recommend it to anyone looking to go somewhere that is multi-racial friendly. Don't get me wrong - there will always be SOMEone giving you the stink eye no matter where you go. Our neighbors across the street are racist from what I hear, but the community as a whole is very diverse & friendly, and my kids are just two of MANY biracial children in their school.

Maria - posted on 02/15/2013

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It just so sad I really didnt know what was racism until I start reading about it Im from puerto rico so we didnt have the same story thatn the usa we didnt have segregation so we are just puerto rican is so sad blacks have to go through it over and over and other minorities that go to live in the usa.I lived in denver co and apart from a guy that told me a racial slur I never had any problems but is sad that you guys have to worry about something so insignificant

Tolnisia - posted on 10/28/2012

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I think Minneapolis, Mn would be one of the best and nicer places for you and your family to live Minnesota is alos a woman and kid state. Man, Minnesota got more biracial kids that live there then they do one race kids. That's why I like it there I'm moving back to Minneapolis from Chicago because Chicago is too segregated. I love the cultural diversity Minnesota has to offer. I also love the resources they have too move to Minnesota. Good luck

Belinda - posted on 08/28/2012

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hi, we live in Kansas city, moving to airzona in about 4 months with our two kids 18, 7, just wondering what we should start looking.

Nichole - posted on 04/05/2012

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My husband and I are a bi-racial couple. We live in Seattle which is very racialy diverse. Bi-racial couples are very common here and we've never had an issues with racism. In fact more often than not we get possitive comments from people.



We love it in Seattle however I have a good opportunity to relocate to Nashville for my job. Does anyone have any insite as to what it's like to be a bi-racial couple/family in Nashville?

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Me, I live in L.A. and personally I love it! I mean you see a lot of different people out here and it makes you feel good inside to have people who look just like you, so personally I would say L.A.!

Anne - posted on 10/04/2011

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I just came across this thread and for us it's really helpful. After having been abroad for a couple of years now, we are planning our move back to the US and have asked ourselves exactly this question.
Having lived in a lot of places in the US, I have to say the one place that is absolutely non-discriminatory is Puerto Rico! For our kids - race wise - it was the best place we ever lived. Unfortunately though, the island has other problems (crime especially) that we couldn't stay there.
Another place we lived that was great for our bi-racial daughter was Florida.
We currently live in Eastern Europe, where black or biracial people are very few and racism an issue.

Lisa - posted on 04/25/2010

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Thank you allso much for your input. I am lookjing for an east coast town, preferably not in a city, for my 17 yr old daughter who is half black, half white. She will belivign with me, a white mom. She has felt out of place her entire life in our small up state NY town of mostly white. I would like a good school (She has one year left of high school) and an environment which fosters high achievment and college education.
So far, it's looking like the most votes are for northern Virginia, around the DC area.

Desiree - posted on 05/31/2009

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seattle...is a very good place to be biracial, but if you dont want to live in the city, snohomish county which is only half an hour from seattle. we have all sorts of races. the schools have everything. asians, hispanics, blacks, whites... everything.. its all pretty even.

Cherice - posted on 05/29/2009

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Hey mama,

Well this what I have to say... My husband is from Alabama and Im from Hawaii... So my daughter is Mixed.. LOL... Here in Hawaii we would call her a "Mixed Plate"... LOL.. But yeah my husband said we would be able to move to Alabama because she would be picked on...

I was born and raised in Hawaii... And there's so much culture here... Its ridiculous... So yeah Hawaii I think would be the perfect place to raise your children... Because who can really say they were raised in Hawaii.... There are so much ethnicity here in Hawaii that its okay to hold hands in public with the one you love... Yeah people do talk but that's their opinion...

But the only thing is that since its in the middle of the Pacific Ocean.... things here are very expensive.... So that's one thing to think about!!!

Lee-Ann - posted on 05/27/2009

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I live in Alberta, Canada.. and while Alberta is not the most diverse province, we have never had a problem here being an interracial couple with two children. We are originally from Manitoba where there are allot of different races, and allot of mixed couples with children, so many in fact it's not something "noticeable".

Jennifer - posted on 05/23/2009

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I have lived in Norfolk Va outside of Virginia beach.We did have some problems there. But not with the kids. My husband is black and I white and we would get comments alot from black woman. Now we live in rural Nc about an hour and a half from charlotte and it is horrible!! Make sure you don't move here. My kids do not ride the public school bus from hideous racial comments and as of recent my two youngest that attend school had racial comments and sun flower seeds spit at them. I am currently putting my land up for sale and moving out of this area. Now I am from Roanoke Va and never ever had a racial problem there.

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Adrienne - posted on 05/19/2009

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COME TO IRELAND!!!!! think it will take bout 30 years or so to catch up on America, on the racist front ONLY. by then it should be extinct!!! I,ve lived in Belfast, Northern Ireland all my life. married to Ugandan. three beautiful daughters. i have NEVER had racist comments. housing, schools, transport ect... second to none!!!in fact i would even venture to say EDUCATION system would be right up there with best in the world!!!

Heather - posted on 05/13/2009

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We live in Elgin, IL, which is a suburb of Chicago and we love it. We don't have a lot of bi- racial families here, but everyone is very nice. We had more of a problem in Mckinney, TX. That was tough but fortunately we moved from there 3 years ago and the kids, who are now 5 and 7 have great friends here.

Bonita - posted on 05/11/2009

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I was born in Va. and raised in Md. just outside of D.C. THe area surrounding our Nation's Capital is by far one of the best places to try to raise a multicultural family. My high school I graduated from was only about 15 min. from D.C., Rockville and Gaithersburg Md. Because in the surrounding area just "plain" white people are the minority there, all biracials get along with ease there. THe schools are some of the best in the country there as well, many well known people graduated there with me, like Dominque Dawes (Gymnast), Chris Carmack (actor/model best known from The O.C., C.S.I. and Bring It on 2), and all of my friends went on to Fortune 500 companies. . . .from PUBLIC schools there. Its just a wonderful melting pot of all cultures there which just helps to promote further knowledge into all the other "foreign" cultures that most are never exposed to. I had friends from Palestine, Turkey, Ivory Coast, all of Central and South America, Uruguay, Russia. . .and so on and so.

Anyways I know this is pretty lenghty but I've lived in ALOT of differnt states and areas. Of all of them I would by far recommend the Metro D.C. area either Md. or Northwest Va. Its a really positive place to live!!

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Hi, I have lived in many different parts of the country through out my life.

CA is one of the best places but it is on the high side for living expences.

Chicago, IL is a good place as are other more country areas in IL.

TX for the most part can be bad but there are a few okay places and those are bigger cities.

Southern AL sucks. I don't know about the more northern parts but there are still cities down there that if you're not the right color you can't live in certain neighbrohoods.



Where I live now is Caroline County, VA. VA is not that bad on the whole. Where I live actually is where the first (legal) interracial marriage was allowed by the Supreme Court

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story...

There are lots of bi-racial kids here and cost of living is low. We're about 45 minutes from Richmond, VA and an hour from D.C.

Keisha - posted on 05/07/2009

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I live in the Maryland in the DC metro area and I've never had a problem. However, racism is everywhere, in some places it's just more prevalent than others.

Reagan - posted on 05/04/2009

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Hi Terri- beautiful family! I am caucasion and my husband is Ethiopian. I have to say, living in Seattle, there is never a shortage of mixed and adopted families. I meet families with all different racial and cultural infusions everyday and people are usually comfortable asking about the mix which makes life real and comfortable. The other day I took my girls to the playground and there was only one child there that was not mixed- I had to laugh. It's so not an issue here- good luck!

Tara - posted on 04/30/2009

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Greenville, SC is not terribly bad. I've been married almost 10yrs, and at first things were very difficult here. Over the years I have seen a trend of more diverse families, and things are slowly but surely getting better. I'm sure there are better places to live, and hopefully one day I'll be living in one of those, but till then, Greenville is not that bad of a place as long as u stick to the city.

Amy - posted on 04/29/2009

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We're a military family and live in the suburbs of Houston, and it's "alright" here, in general I do not suggest Texas. I had an ex co-worker call my husband a "colored boy". We're both from VA and interacial couples of all races are just the norm, my high school alone I would say had every race, prom king and queen were black and white. We're moving back as soon as possible. It's not even a black and white issue, it's the whole area is diverse with every nationality and accepting of everything, from interacial children and couples, to ethnic foods and cultures, religions and sexual orientations. I HIGHLY suggest the DC area for anyone looking for complete diversity.

Marlene - posted on 04/28/2009

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We live in Toronto, Canada and it's great for multi-racial families. On my block there are 6 families with children, of which 4 families are mixed including ours. My husband is mixed and when he first came here he right away felt at home since there were so many people of mixed cultures.

Jennifer - posted on 04/27/2009

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I live in fayettevile n.c. thats by ft. bragg and theres pleanty of mixed families in our city...

Monica - posted on 04/27/2009

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Please, please hook us up! :) no really, my husband is German I grew up all overseas. We are to the point where we want to move to Canada. I would love to live overseas again. Any suggestions. Is there a job site? How hard would it be for us to make England our home?

Monica - posted on 04/27/2009

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Please do not come her to Alabama!!! It is the very worse place to raise bi-racial children.

Maria - posted on 04/26/2009

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Do not move to the Central Valley, CA.We've lived here for the last 15 yrs., and we still get moronic comments and dirty looks now and then. It's more tolerable now, but I just ignore it. Bay Area (whether it's East Bay, South Bay, SF), CA is your better option, nice weather, too. Seattle and DC has a surmountable population of biracial people. You'll just blend in. Same over in the East Coast, there's also NJ, FL, MA, IL, NY.

Lisa - posted on 04/12/2009

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I live in Mount Clemens, MI , about 30 miles from Detroit, and there are more bi-racial families in our city then anywhere I've ever been! My daughter is in 7th grade, and I swear, her school is 40% bi-racial, 30% white and 30% black.  We've always felt very comfortable here, and don't get the funny looks and stuff like we do other places. Lets all hope that one day this won't even be an issue, and we can all  just live where wer'e comfortable!

Brooke - posted on 02/20/2009

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Quoting Monique:

DO NOT move to ALABAMA. My children are ages 14 and 12 and I still hear people making smart comments about them. Thier are many biracial children here, but the acceptance is non exsistence. When my children were born they looked more white than black, so alot of people often thought I was the maid or sitter for the kids. They have been called everything from zebras to those children. We are still behind the times here in Alabama, but I teach my kids to love themselves and forgive those that talk about them they just don't understand you



I agree with Monique. I lived  in the panhandle of Florida ( literally right on the border of Alabama ) when I was a teenager. My parents adopted my brother (who is black/white) while we lived there. Gosh, horrible and ignorant comments were made to us ALOT. He was called a mulatto more than anything else....give me a break, can we advance in time and knowledge please ! I currently live in Jacksonville, Florida and don't notice all that much said to me or my husband ( he's black ) Honestly it's not all that bad here. You get your occasional white biggots and your occasional black biggots.....oh yes, both sides can dish it out ! But,,,,,,,we all know the truth that bi-racial families are BEAUTIFUL !!!!!

Margo - posted on 02/19/2009

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My husband and I have 5  kids and we live in Warner Robins, Georgia..... I LOVE IT... it was also voted one of the best places to raise kids :)



There is ALOT of military here and lots of blended, biracial, and multiracial families.



We really are blessed!

Chrisa - posted on 02/18/2009

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We've lived in four states. We had great experiences in Chicago, and rural Georgia, believe it or not, and experienced the WORST racism in Los Angeles.

Claire - posted on 02/16/2009

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The Northern Beaches of Sydney Australia, We have great schools, many cultures, very little crime, huge opportunities for cultural experiance. Beautiful climate, compared to surrounding states! A great place to open your eyes up to the rest of the world & just a short trip across the atlantic.

Celeste - posted on 02/15/2009

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I have lived in four states: Hawaii, Illinois (southern), Colorado and Virginia. I have seen some incidents or racism in every one of these places. Yet, of these four, I would say for bi-racial children, Colorado Springs in Colorado or northern Virginia are best. It really depends on where you live in each of these states though. I know others have said Hawaii is best, but I remember the idiot comments people on Kauai made to me with regard to being with my ex who was white. One person he didnt know cussed him out just for being haole. One of his coworkers asked me what a local girl was doing going out with a haole and told me he had graduated from haole boy to f* haole at the boat cruise place he used to work at. There were a couple other incidents as well. This was back in 95 - 98 so the economy was bad... could have something to do with the mean spirit. Also, I have heard that Maui and Honolulu are not as bad and we had no bad experiences on the Big Island. I have since moved on from that relationship and current husband in black. I had mainly good experiences in Colorado Springs and there is quite a bit of diversity there. I did survive what my counselor called a violent racial hate crime in Widefield, but I believe I was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. I hear it is harder to find jobs there now than it is in northern Virginia though. Loudoun or Fairfax counties in Virginia are pretty good, I think, as there is some diversity (nothing like Hawaii or Colorado Springs, but much better than southern Illinois). I would say if you choose NoVA please be careful of what school you send your child to if you choose. We had a problem sending dd to a Christian school where she learned that General Robert E Lee was a great American Christian patriot and children recited a quote from another famous white patriot having to do with "educating the black children with us". I also had trouble with a lady in the Christian homeschooling group who talked about the book the Education of Little Tree and said that the boy was half "normal" and half Indian. I guess "normal" meant white. I was shocked that no one else took issue with the comment. I was the only Asian there and there were no black people at the meeting. The people in Southern Illinois were very nice to me personally, but I had culture shock because there were very few Asians there compared to Kauai anyway. It was my first experience of spending more than a month on the mainland. My main problem was lak of availability of good Asian food there. I recall going to a Chinese restaurant and not even a good one (Hunan) with a group of other Asian students and being stared at by a room full of mostly middle aged white people. I guess they had never seen about 6 Asian students going out to eat together before or something. The most ignorant thing that happened there was that a group of my friends wanted to go protest a KKK rally and could not understand why I was petrified. We were at a bar when they decided to go. I tried to walk home to a different town and they had to find me on the street because they did not understand how I felt being the only Asian in that particular circle of friends and not wanting to go to the protest. Once they found me, they drove me home though. We also had voice synthesized death threats placed on some of the African American students at my college campus. No violence materialized, but it was bad just to hear that this happened. We had a good turn out for people who signed up to escort any uncomfortable minority students around campus though no one seemed to need it in the end. Please avoid Roxborough in Colorado. It is near Highlands Ranch and is a very racist suburb of Denver. Sorry for rambling. This topic just touches my heart.

Lisset - posted on 02/12/2009

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I lived in Boston, MA all my life. Recently moved to Pennsylvania about a year ago, we live in Central, PA. I do not recommend it, there is a lot of racial tension here. Not everyone is like that, but some days are more than others. My son is half moroccan, half cuban, half dominican. Maybe one day we'd move to LA. We love the city, and since there are so many different opportunities, I think it'd be the best bet :)

Kate - posted on 02/12/2009

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I was just reading through this and read the comment about Alabama and her kids being called zebras. My husband said that he would feign ignorance-and say that he "can see the sense in that, and since you are 'plain' then you could be an elephant". HAHA! I thought that was so funny, but thought instead that I would love to say "Well, if I'm a zebra then you must be a donkey, cuz you're an ass!"  But that probably wouldn't be very nice, I guess and I know that I would never say it, even if I want to.



  And I agree, northern new jersey is nice, I really liked it when I lived there, although didn't have kids until we had moved to michigan

Chioma - posted on 02/11/2009

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Montclair NJ is the best place! I swear that 3 out of 5 kids in that town is biracial. Great shops, schools, and people. But very expensive. I live 5 mins away so I take my son there alot to mix up with other children

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