Best cities for interracial couples

Donnita - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 133 moms have responded )

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Hi Moms,

My husband and I are thinking about moving within 5-6 years and wondered where are some good communities for interracial couples. I'm black, hubby's white and we have one son. We currently live in the DC area which is fine but a little fast-paced for family life. Any suggestions on the best cities for interracial couples?

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Sonia Patel - posted on 05/06/2013

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Atlanta, GA is very diverse. I'm Indian and my husband is white. Most of our friends are interracial. San Francisco is another great place for diversity, as is NYC.

Erica - posted on 05/01/2013

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Cary North Carolina. I m interracial child n whenever I m in Weldon or northeast NC I feel so at home because everyone looks just like me half n half.

Debra - posted on 04/12/2013

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Not all of Alabama. I live in Alabama. Huntsville is a wonderful place for anybody. It's a big city with a small town feel. Lots of professional. Friendly and accepting people. I'm an older black female engaged to a wonderful white man who lives in Columbia, Tn. I love visiting him because the people in Columbia don't make a big deal of interracial couples.

Debra - posted on 04/12/2013

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Huntsville, AL
Columbia, Tn (small town but lots of interracial couples)
Atlanta,GA

Dan - posted on 04/04/2013

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Hi All, not sure if this helps but either link below or google USA rate of interracial marriage on USA today and there is chart that shows the states and percentage of interracial marriages among different ethnicity groups. It's not broke down by city but its a good indicator of which state to research in...for example one would not move their interracial family to Mississippi at 0.1% interracial marriages totaling 100,00 couples however one might be more comfortable in place like California with 7.4 % with over 600,000. I never see people as interracial just a bunch of people called to evolve the human species and expand the gene pool...which creates healthier humans... :)

http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/heal...

Ebony - posted on 02/17/2013

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Hi Moms,

My husband and I are thinking about moving to Florida in two years and wondered where are some good communities for interracial couples. I'm black, and hubby's mexican and we have four children. We currently live in Detroit MI area which is cool because we live in a Hispanic area of Detroit. My husband is almost finished with his degree's and we are looking for a place where he can fine jobs with his law enforcement and criminal justice degree. We don't want to live in any major cites we are looking for places out side of the major cities. Any suggestions on the best cities in Florida?

Crystal - posted on 01/31/2013

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3 years later and i am in the exact same boat you were in :) My husband is white and i am black with 3 beautiful babies and need some good interracial cities to live in where my children do not feel like outcasts!!

Hercules1970 - posted on 01/29/2013

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Hi,
I'm a 43yr old professional male bodybuilder/model. Nationality: Jamaican/Dominican. Born & raised in Brooklyn NY. I've always been very attracted to white woman only and I'm now that I'm relocating to a warm climate, can someone tell me which warm city/state is more suitable for interracial couples

Shannon - posted on 01/10/2013

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i'm black and my husband is white and we live in dothan al there ain't much to do here but we have never had any problems with anyone its a small quiet town

Angela - posted on 12/20/2012

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Hi my husband and I are looking to meet up with interracial couples in the Dothan AL area if your out there let us know. :)

Tolnisia - posted on 10/28/2012

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I think Minneapolis, Mn would be one of the best and nicer places for you and your family to live Minnesota is alos a woman and kid state. Man, Minnesota got more biracial kids that live there then they do one race kids. That's why I like it there I'm moving back to Minneapolis from Chicago because Chicago is too segregated. I love the cultural diversity Minnesota has to offer. I also love the resources they have too move to Minnesota. Good luck

Beata - posted on 09/15/2012

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Far from "families"

far from "brothers and "sisters"

far from "friends"

far from advices of strangers

Sam - posted on 09/13/2012

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Hello All,



Albuquerque NM, is a great place for interracial couples. I am a Black man from the south and my wife is white and mexican. Here I have never felt more comfortable as a person, not treated as a race or color. My sons are still young but they are very comfortable in their skin and have not encountered any problems yet. Its a slow town but lots of outdoor things to do for families. The weather is outstanding. Decent size airforce base in town. Very few Black people but lots of Hispanics and Natives that give the town a diverse feeling. I have meet many great people of all races. Throw old fashion out of the window here. I actually forget the way the rest of america is until I take a trip. I have been here +6 years but can not think of a place I would even want to take a family as diverse as mine. I feel for all the families out there who have to deal with the added annoyance of intollerance. Come visit us during the ballon fiesta in October you wont wanna leave.

Deborah - posted on 08/26/2012

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Hope it's ok for me to respond. I'm a mom of older kids and a gramma of two. My husband and I are an interracial couple (he's black, I'm white). We were married in Chicago, just a few years after it was finally legal to do so. We were miserable in Chicago in those days - we were either ignored or treated rudely. Moved to Oak Park because it was so "progressive." Ha. The city actually told us what streets we could live on (really) and our sons (and other black/mixed kids) were beat up and treated horribly. One of the kindergarten teachers was arrested for sending letters threatening to shoot all the black kids at the school. Finally got transferred to D.C. and couldn't believe the difference. So diverse that no one even noticed us.



Have lived in Illinois, Wisconsin, D.C., Maryland, Washington (state), Virginia, South and North Carolina and Arizona (where we are now). Relatives in Montana, California, Nebraska and Ohio, where we've spent a lot of time. Agree with many of the previous posts. Stick with the more educated areas. Stay the heck out of the South (a couple exceptions: Raleigh, Atlanta, Austin, Miami and maybe Tampa) and much of the Midwest (exceptions: Minneapolis area, Madison, central Chicago and near north suburbs, maybe Omaha). Out west, most of California is okay, definitely Portland area, Bend, OR, Seattle area, Spokane and Missoula, MT. I see you'd like to stay on the East Coast. Probably a good idea. You're actually already in one of the best places for an interracial family - Washington, D.C. What about some of the suburbs a little farther out from D.C.? Slower pace, but still educated and lots of amenities. Reston, Springfield in VA and Columbia, Ellicott City (a great place). Even northern Silver Spring/Colesville, up near Randolph Rd and New Hampshire - feels country-ish and has great schools. Just don't go too far out away from D.C. (like Manassas, Shenandoah Valley, etc.) Backwards. Have two interracial family friends who live in Delaware and are happy. What about Portland, Maine? A great place.



Good luck! Post again someday to say where you finally settled.

Angel - posted on 06/24/2012

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I'm definitely not an expert on the subject but I'm military and have moved to several states and visited countless others. Here's my take as a black woman married to a white/native american man with three "light skinned kids":

SC - (Charleston) I was not comfortable there at all. Seemed to get a lot of looks, laughs, and grief from mostly young black men. I went out to eat one time with a friend who was a gay white man. I actually had a black man approach me and question why I was with him and if my eyes were open to what he looked like.

TN - (Chattanooga) The worst experience for me! My parents moved there and I stayed with them for a few months while my husband was overseas. Even a simple trip to the grocery store or Wal-Mart left me cringing. It seemed like a spotlight was on me and that people were so angry and disapproving of my kids.

NE - (Omaha and Lincoln) Really no issues there whatsoever! We lived there for a little over four years and felt very comfortable. People were very nice to us. Now what they said behind our backs or closed doors - who knows. But we felt fine going out as a family!

GA - (Atlanta and outlying areas) Stayed right outside of Atlanta for a few months. No real issues there that I ever encountered.

NC - (Franklin) My husband's dad lived in the mountains of western NC and even there it was fine. I was so scared that we would encounter racists since it was such a small town but there was nothing.

NJ - (Central) No real issues encountered there other than the occasional rude person - but it had nothing to do with race that I could detect.

FL - (Orlando and Tampa) Lived in central Florida for about two years and was okay. Stories were that there were KKK members and leaders that lived there but it wasn't a KKK rally on the streets or anything like that.

TX - (Houston) We went down to Houston for my husband's friend's wedding and there were no major issues at all. Just TOO HOT!

CO - (Colorado Springs) Husband and I got married here! It was so beautiful and everyone was so friendly and inviting. We went to eat at Olive Garden the night we got married and as we were waiting for our table - a nice couple saw us dressed in our wedding clothes and bought us a bottle of wine. I would live there in a heartbeat!

We are in Germany now awaiting orders to our new base. We really hope to not be stationed in small town Sumter, SC or Shreveport, LA where there are bases. I've heard stories about both places and would really be worried about raising our kids in a bigoted environment.

My perception is that I would not want to live in a southeastern US city after the experiences in Charleston and Chattanooga.

Angela - posted on 04/23/2012

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Phoenix area is where we live and I think it is good for an interracial family. It is big enough to have diversity but if you live in one of the suburbs small enough to enjoy family life. And it's always sunny!

Claire - posted on 04/23/2012

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Hi Moms,

I am Caribbean and my husband is Canadian. We lived in Calgary, Alberta for almost two years. My husband is Canadian. I left before my baby was born (returned to America) because I knew Canada was not an environment where I wanted to raised a "multicultural child." Canada is a highly prejudiced and backward country. Stay away from Southern states - Alabama, the Carolinas, Mississippi, Texas, etc. Washington state is a great place for mixed couples. Parts of Maryland, NJ, CT is also good. The more educated the state, the better off you will be. Good luck.

Maria - posted on 04/13/2012

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I dont know about jacksonville florida people were not happy to see my family ,4 children husband is from Jamaica and I am white .both blacks and whites looked like they were pissed at us:( I grew up in clearwater florida which is better and there was a lot of mixed couples there but certain areas I did not feel very comfortable.

Twyla - posted on 01/11/2012

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I'd say most cities of Cali are diverse. I lived in the San Francisco area, as an interracial couple with my bf. It is not really looked at anymore there. We had no problems. Umm, though it's expensive. Also, Oakland, Sacramento, L.A. I'd say just about anywhere in the bay for sure though..

Helene - posted on 12/12/2011

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norton va tiny town and lots of mixed couples with kids we have not had a single issue. the pace is slower and city is only 50 miles away mountain views low property cost and a great sense of community are all found here.

Mimi - posted on 03/12/2011

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i am bi-racial, my husband is black. i'm a military brat and have discovered that cities with military bases are very diverse. i grew up in Norfolk, VA which is home to the world's largest navy base and interracial relationships and children are everywhere. i NEVER had a problem growing up. we now live in jacksonville, FL again a big navy city and it's the same here! hope tis helps!

Monica - posted on 03/08/2011

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I'm surprised at how many interracial families we've come to know and see out and about here in Phoenix, AZ and the metro area.

Ashley - posted on 03/07/2011

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I just moved from north carolina to massachusetts. I have to b honest... Nc is not ideal for mixed families... Up north is much more excepting. I had many people as me " what is he" or.call him white boy in nc... Its just not where I wanted him to grow up. Mass is soooo diverse that everyone is mixed up I love it

Donnita - posted on 03/04/2011

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Wow, I am really grateful for everyone's responses. I did a quick tally and it looks like we need to move to either Seattle, Colorado, or Minneapolis. Because my family lives and Tennessee and my husband's family lives in Maine, we will have to find a good place along the east coast. We really love our families and don't want to go too far away.

Katie - posted on 02/23/2011

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I live in Ravenna, Ohio. I really don't like the weather in Ohio, but I've never even gotten a look for being a mixed couple. Everywhere you look there's mixed couples which I love. I'm white and my hubby's black, so there's a lot of mixed couples around here. I think that half of Ravenna is probably mixed. lol

Marla - posted on 02/22/2011

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Hi Terra, I know the Zion area very well. My mother lives there. I grew up in Waukegan and now live in Chicago. How old are your kids? We live north and I love Evanston- very, very, very mixed area. Lots of black woman with white husbands. Great school system. lots of greenies and very progressive. Downside, there school system does "tracking" which I JUST learned about a week ago, so you really have to stay on your child's schooling (which is a good thing) and it's so close to lake that it takes to awhile to get to the expressway.

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I live in colorado springs, co and interracial couples is the norm here!! Im black with a mixed race daughter and my boyfriend is white and have no issues what so ever. economy is not that great but getting better. good luck!

Angela - posted on 10/25/2010

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Unfortunately My husband and I have experianced nothing but ignorance here in South Carolina. Worse in Lexington, Leesville and the country areas. Muc better in Columbia itself! Can't wait to get out of here. Im black british and my husband is white

Kendra - posted on 10/24/2010

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i feel like we get stared at wherever we go. Im not sure because he is black and i am arab. or because he is 6'2 and im like 5'3 lol! but we live in GA sometimes i feel ppl stare at us for the wrong reasons. but i think that would be anywhere.

we lived in tx for a few months and got stares, but the town we lived in was a lot of old ppl. so i figured thats why. also, there were no blk ppl. lol! my husband hated going out in public because he swore he was the only blk man in town. i just blended in the hispanic population.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 10/23/2010

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I live in Seattle, came from south Wisconsin.....(very diff there).im black, hubby is Korean...and I will say that it's very Diverse here in seattle...good place...

u would actually be considered the norm! If yall moved here

but good luck on wherever you go :-)

Vickie - posted on 10/20/2010

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Some of the best cities for interracial couples are Toronto, Ontario or Vancouver, British Columbia have my votes. Both are expensive, but interracial couples ARE the norm, not the exception. I love it here!

Alyson - posted on 10/19/2010

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I'm white and my boyfriend is black and we have one son together. We live a southern city in GA and we get stared at alot. So I would stay away from small towns in GA. And in the more southern part of GA there are still schools that have separate proms and things like that.. so you definitely have to be careful if looking to move to GA. My boyfriend and I lived in Atlanta for a short period of time and that was fine, but definitely not for a family. Good luck! :)

Nicole - posted on 10/07/2010

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ok. im mixed (black and white) my family and I grew up just fine in North Carolina. Theres only a problem if your looking for it. Me and my 3 kids live just fine on long island. (my husband is puerto rican) Some people just need to find something to stare at and since the most obvious is the skin color then thats what they will do. If you dressed differently from the rest of the neighborhood then they would stare at that. What you should be worried about is where you can find the best school district and not worried about whos gonna accept you. If you accept your relationship then who cares about everyone else. Out of all the places i lived (i moved alot..military life and my husband is a marine too) Long island is the best family environment. We live in a prodominently white neighborhood but i like it cause its the best school district around. As an interracial person myself i think we need to spread and not feel we have to be confined to a certain environment because we are scared of what others are going to say. Live your life for your self and do whats best for your family. I could talk for days about this subject cause i lived it from a birth. i get to experience it not only as a kid and teenager but also a mother and wife. It awesome and im very open about it so i talk to everyone that stares and if they are negative towards me then i tell them to keeo their comments to themselves. Sorry if it went off topic but im very passionate about this subject :) and im sorry if i come across rude or mean its not my intention.

Victorya - posted on 10/06/2010

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Anywhere in another country. jk I honestly do not believe that there are any real tolerant communities for interracial people. I guess it is just where you and your family feel more comfortable.

Laurie - posted on 10/04/2010

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Don't move to the Central Valley in California. The cost of living is NOT high,but, the intolerance and racist thinking is everywhere due to the many rural areas surrounded by farm land and the undereducated population. What appears to be tolerance is simply keeping to your own other than for business reasons.

Laurie - posted on 10/04/2010

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I visited Lake Charles, Louisiana with my three mixed raced children a few years back. Luckily, my brother warned me about the ignorant racists that fill the town. I was glared at, and looked at like I had just committed a crime. It was very unsettling and creepy. DO NOT move to Lake Charles.

Jenny - posted on 09/17/2010

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I dunno I live in reno and I find people used to have some nasty stuff about us. We'd get stares. But nowadays I don't. I don't think it was really directed towards his or my race tbh

Jodell - posted on 09/17/2010

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Yep its all in Minneapolis!!!!! its so very common I am white and my boy friend is from Kenya No problems

Pam - posted on 09/14/2010

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Hi I live in ST. Louis Mo. and I can say it is not a very good place to raise biracial children. It seems they are forced to pick a race to fit in. I am also looking to move soon to a more diverse area. I know that Valdosta Georgia is a big no no. Much Klan activity there. I have been to Portland OR. and California and am trying to decide which to move back to . Oregon is nice but little towns like Mcminnville and such are still racist. definately the schools are. I have heard Virginia is good and is cheaper to ive than Or. but St' Louis is still in the recession and there are no jobs and I hate to say this but rude people all the way around, very judgemental to all differences, race, religion, weight, you name it.

Robin - posted on 04/18/2010

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We live in Georgia, and people are very accepting here. My hubby is black and I am white. There are a lot of interracial couples all over Georgia.

Serree - posted on 04/17/2010

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I live in Colorado, and my husband is white, we love it and have never had any problems.

Christine - posted on 04/12/2010

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I was raised between Miami, FL & Savannah, GA & now currently live in Boston, MA & out of all places i've lived I'd have to say I think I've seen the most interracial couples in Massachusetts. There was also quite a few in Florida, but not the best place to raise kids in the areas I grew up in.

Helen - posted on 04/02/2010

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hi we live in oahu, hi. my hubby is white and i am filipino, hawaiian. i think here is also a great place to live. one thing is, this state is expensive.

Michelle - posted on 04/02/2010

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You will find that the same issues will occur where ever you live. if you really enjoy the DC area try the surrounding areas. Virginia is very multi ethnic. The lifestyle is enjoyable, great for kids, moms and dads. There is much culture, and diversity amongst the residence of VA. Many mixed race couples. I live in Upstate NY, and it is challenging. Very isolated, under-educated population. I love Southern and Central Florida also. Very warm and welcoming communities. Especially if you are very spiritual and open to meeting new people. Just be careful with the Hurricanes, and jobs are difficult to come by but overall it was a great experience for my daughter.

Lexus - posted on 04/01/2010

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Lia, I agree with you on NY. I just moved out of Rochester NY, which is quieter then NYC. I never had a problem with racism there. I now live in Las Vegas. Yes Las Vegas is diverse, but most people are not from here, or do not intend to stay, so I find that people here are disconnected from each other, and rude.

I plan to move back to Rochester after my baby is 4 or 5. Great place. A++ especially for interracial couples, or mixed children.

Vickie - posted on 10/20/2010

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Some of the best cities for interracial couples are Toronto, Ontario or Vancouver, British Columbia have my votes. Both are expensive, but interracial couples ARE the norm, not the exception. I love it here!

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Minneapolis, MN is the best city for interracial couples! It's diverse and has lots of interracial couples with children.

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