Elena - posted on 08/15/2009 ( 45 moms have responded )
I am very fair-skinned white and my husband is very dark skinned black. Both my babies appear to be "white". My son's skin is tan/white, blond and hazel eyes. My daughter is slightly darker with dark brown hair and grey eyes (so far, she's 4mos old). My husband says they are going to have a difficult time "belonging" because they look white but aren't. They are half black, but don't look it and they don't look typically mixed either. I know they are going to have some trials, but I think if they are taught to be proud of their heritage and to be strong they will be ok. I know we see it differently because of our own experiences. I am pure 'white bread" (lol) and don't have the experiences with racism like my husband has as a black man. And I'm well aware they will have experiences way different than the both of us.
What has been your experience, as moms of biracial children, of your children belonging and/or identifying with a particular group and their being accepted? Especially those that don't look biracial. For the moms out there who are biracial themselves, I would appreciate your input as you have experienced what my children will and what I can not.
Thanks to everyone! ~~Elena