Biracial black/white baby, looks white?

Naomi - posted on 06/10/2012 ( 25 moms have responded )

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My son is 2 weeks old, his daddy is very dark skinned with a white paternal grandfather, and I am very pale white. little man is still just as white as me,and although we love him regardless of what colour he is, comments from other people that see my hubby with him are quite hurtful as they assume he is white...as you can see in my pics he does look very fair so I can slightly understand but I wondered if anyone else had biracial black/white babys that were born looking white? his nail beds are darker and I've heard this is likely the colour he will end up..?

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Monica - posted on 02/04/2014

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I'm white my husband is dark Dominican. Our two children were both born whiter than me blonde hair and blue eyes! As my daughter had her fathers nose and shape of eyes plus she tanned a little by the age of 1 my son is the opposite! He's white white nothing tan slightly tan just pale blonde hair blue eyes looks just like me! It matters who's genes are stronger! In which case is mines

Angel - posted on 06/24/2012

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I'm right there with you! All of our kids are light skinned. When I had my first child it would really bother me when people would ask where her mother was or if I was the babysitter/nanny. Now - I find it amusing when people do double takes or ask silly questions. My first child from my ex husband (white) - most people see her and assume she is hispanic. Now my current husband - his mother is white and his father is Native American. He has dark features - tan skin, dark eyes and hair. Well - our son - is light skinned with light brown/blonde black textured hair and light brown eyes. Our daughter - she is light skinned (albeit a bit darker than her brother) with dark white textured hair and dark brown eyes. I'm pregnant right now with my fourth child and my imagination runs wild with the possibilities of what he or she will look like! To see pics of my family - check out my profile!

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Tia - posted on 01/27/2014

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My son is 16 days old and he's biracial I'm black and his dad is white and he looks white his nail beds are the same color as he is. All my other children are biracial as well but their mail beds were brown. Of course we love him. Like you when people see me and my son the faces they make some just come out and ask..

Julia - posted on 04/22/2013

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My son was born so fair that no one would ever expect him to be biracial. When filling out paper work or getting asked questions, people would ask, "And his father is caucasian, correct?" I would tell them no, African American & then we would get into a long conversation. My son will be 2 years old in 2 months. Still as white (if not whiter) than me with very curly red, almost orange hair! Don't worry about what other people say. Unfotunately it will continue cuz someone always needs to be rude. My husband gets asked, "Whose baby do you have with you?"

Marian - posted on 07/14/2012

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I have a chocolate brown complexion and my ex husband is very fair skinned (Irish/welsh decent). When our son was born he was very, very white. To the point that many people thought I was the nanny. I didn't much care, cause I knew that he would get some color eventually. He kind of got brown around 2 years old. He is still quite fair for having me as his Mom, he looks like he is Spanish. But he's my cutie! You baby will get a little color, don't worry. To what degree? Only time will tell.

Teola Van - posted on 07/12/2012

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People have been rude and judgmental towards me. I have two children who are mixed with White,Latin, and black. I have a 7yr old boy and a 11 month old daughter. My daughter takes after me more with her complexion. My son has my husband's complexion. He was very fair as a baby, with blue eyes and straight hair. My son's hair changed, he is a little darker but his eye's are still blue. Its takes time to see what the child's actual complexion will be.

Jen - posted on 07/09/2012

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Stop trying to guess and stop worrying about the color of his skin. Love him as he is. He will change over the years. My son looks like he has a perfect tan. My friends sons both look white as ghosts. There is NO way to figure out how they will grow up.

Sam - posted on 07/06/2012

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When a friend of mine had her daughter you couldn't tell that she was mixed at all. She's a year old now, she has gotten darker and darker. Pictures of myself as a baby also show that mixed babies seem to darken up. I was pretty pale as a baby and now I'm very dark.

LaShawnda - posted on 07/02/2012

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that happens sometimes. dont stress out about it. he will be the color he will be, which is often influenced by sun exposure over the years.

Carol - posted on 07/02/2012

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When my kids were 3 & 1 people always used to ask me if my daughters dad was black...I guess because she has more of the "black" features. My youngest has more of my features as far as hair type & skin tone. I would just say yes, & they have the same dad. While I am thinking of it. My sister in law is very light skinned & her youngest son's dad is biracial. My nephew has light brown/blonde hair and blue/green eyes. People are constantly thinking he is my son when we are out together. lol. He is the cutest thing though.

Alyeene - posted on 06/29/2012

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Don't let what others say get you. I am white and my husband is black. When our son was born, my mom looked at him and said, "Wow! He is even whiter than You EVER WAS!" He has darkened up. He gets a little lighter during the winter when his skin is covered but still has a "tanned" look. During the summer when he is out in shorts and tanks, his skin gets really dark and looks "more black" as I heard one person describe the colroing... Keep in mind almost everyone gets dark once exposed to the sun light. He has been in your tummy 9 months and has not had much sun. He will darken. How much is up to God. As far as the nail bed belief, I don't trust it. My son's was paper white until he was a year!

Tifany - posted on 06/28/2012

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I have 2 biracial babies one is by my ex who is log skinned the other is by my husband is is dark as ever I'm Italian and Irish and everyone calls me clear because I'm so light. My kids are 8 years apart and they are the same shade even tho sir daddies are 2 diff shades... But everyone thinks my kids are Spanish because they are tan dark curly hair and brown eyes I have blue. They were both born light And over a few months turned darker in the summer they are even darker .... Check the ears and fingertips they are usuall darker than the rest of the body and can show you how much more color the baby will get ..... I know I rambled but just trying t give you an idea.... And my husband and I always get dirty looks wether the kids are dak light or even with us were bi racial relationship lol...good luck

Jacob - posted on 06/28/2012

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(((Naomi))))
people that look at your family "that" way are not worth worrying about .. anyone that makes a comment is a bigot and nothing will change there minds about anything
as long as you and his daddy love him and he grows up knowing he is loved and will always have the both of you to go to when that horrible bigots of the world intrude he will know that he is amazing loved.
it 2012 FGS when will people stop being so hurtful .. I think your little man is gorgeous you both should be proud of him ♥

Shani - posted on 06/25/2012

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As the others said this is normal, I am "light-skinned black" as we say here and have 2 daughters, both very close in shade, a dark caramel. They have different dads, one same shade as they are, the other very dark so it just goes to show! They both were born very light, especially the older one who has the lighter father, she looked white except they were both born with black hair and eyes. As they got older their skin darkened (hair can also change at about 1 year or so, becoming coarser), it takes about 3 years before physical characteristics settle, sun exposure will also influence as darker tones tend to tan very easily, even in areas where the sun "don't shine".

I find it hugely fascinating the way genetics influences skin tone in blacks, and also just physical characteristics in general in any race, so I always love to here how kids "came out".

Amber - posted on 06/24/2012

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My sister is white and her husband is black and puerto rican. Their youngest child is white with blonde hair and blue eyes. Genes are do some strange things. All of the other kids were fairly light skinned and got darker as they got older. Regardless if your son gets darker or not don't let peoples comments get to you.

Linda - posted on 06/19/2012

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I have 3 mixed kids. My oldest dad is dark as can be and my son was born super white. I am white. However, he's 16 now and his skin in a beautiful carmel color. People always thought he was mexican as he was growing up because his hair wasnt very curly but it is really corse. He's pale during the winter and super dark in the summer. My twin girls father is dark as well and whats funny with them is they are twins and one was born white and one was born dark. They are 10 now and one is still lighter than the other. Kids who are mixed rarely stay the color they are born. Don't worry what people say. Most people are ignorant about these things.

Courtney - posted on 06/19/2012

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He probably will get darker. My oldest son who is also black/white came out just as white as could be. There was really nothing about him that looked black at all. As he has grew up he got more "tan". Many people thought he was Hispanic. Now as an 18yr old, he makes it very clear that he is biracial. I'll never forget when he was in kindergarten. He came home upset one day. When I asked him what was wrong he told me that a kid at school had called him a white boy. When I asked him how he replied he said and I quote " Mommy, I told him im not white. That my mommy is white, my daddy is black and I'm all mixed up!" we still get a kick it of that comment!
Regardless of how light or dark they are, they are what god intended them to be. Teach them to be proud of both parts of thier heratige. That's what I did with my son and that is what my husband and I both intend to do with our new little one on the way.

Michelle - posted on 06/19/2012

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I am going to comment on this, I don't have a baby whom is white and black combined..byracial or whatever. I believe that all babies are God given children, no matter what colors or color they are. I don't care if the mom is black and father is white and vice versa. In my opinion those who want to criticize others for having a baby that is different than theirs is totally ridiculous. God gave you the baby to love and give affection to. Besides...you could be white..both parents and then have a black baby...for the simple reason there could be a black person that was in your generations from centuries ago. What is someone going to say about that? It didn't come from mom being white and father is black, because both parents are white. It comes from genes down the line. I would love my baby, no matter what color it is. Hell with what others think. Maybe they are jellous. Besides what is the big deal, when some children are a different color and are being adopted with different colored parents. I guess that is wrong to.. I don't think so. As long as the baby is happy and parents are happy...that is what matters. Tell those people if they don't like it...look the other way. You are not here in this world to make others happy about your situation. You are here to make yourself and your family happy. If they don't like it...the hell with them. Every child is a blessing and a miracle, no matter how you look at it. I would take a black baby or white baby or a byracial baby or even a green baby any day. It doesn't matter with me. Every baby is a blessing and needs to be treated with respect and with love. There are too much criticism and judgemental people in this world. One day those people will be showed what they do. Everything you do and how you treat others will come back on you sooner or later. How you deal out to others , it will be dealt to you. That is why one should treat another the same way they would want to be treated. That one of the problems in this world. There are not enough people who don't have dignity or respect or even love in their hearts. They want to just criticize, judge and bully others. I guess it is because they aren't truely happy and unsecure...so they want others to feel the way they feel.

Tiffanie - posted on 06/17/2012

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I'm African American and my boyfriend is white. Our son was born with blue eyes, fair skin and black straight hair. He is still light skin but now he has blond hai and hazel eyes. He is five now and our skin colors do not match but a lot of people say we look alike but different colors. Also,my son did not have darker nail beds or ears ( which is an indication that the skin will get darker). My child's color did not start to come in until weeks later. In general, African Americans (wheather they are mixed or no) obtain more color as we get older.

Audrey - posted on 06/17/2012

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My daughters were very, very fair when born. Over the years they have darkened to deeper tones.
I am a very fair skinned and dad is pretty dark. The kids are more an olive skin tone. I had one friend who was a deep chocolate tone and so was her husband but their baby looked white when he was born. It takes time for the skin to show it's full depth just as eyes do. My oldest was born with eyes that were silvery gray, then deepened to blue, then settled on a very dark brown, almost black..honestly time it what really tells.

Although I will ask....who the hell cares what complete strangers assume. Only assholes ask impertinent questions about your son's heritage, which honestly is none of their god damned business. In this day and age it only shows how ignorant, backwards and stupid people can still act.

It seems especially silly when there are so many people with multi-ethnic backgrounds that the mail, a British newspaper has posted several stories about twins (one 'black', the other 'white') born to couples with mixed heritage. Just shows you don't know what genetics will combine when you create new life. =)

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biracial babies are usually born looking white. my son was born looking white and looked pretty much all white until about 1. as he's gotten older, he's gotten darker, but he is still pretty light. people are rude. we have both had many people ask if he is really the father. people just don't think before they speak. your son could stay light or he could end up pretty dark, there's really no way to know for sure.

User - posted on 06/12/2012

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Naomi, I hope this helps- you said that your baby's daddy is very dark skinned with a white grandfather. DNA is a strange thing, you never know what you are going to get. However, since the father is black, please note that most black people in America are a mixed raced people. So even if you get a dark skinned man, somewhere in his Gene Pool are other things.

Example Halle Berry and Vanessa Williams. Halle has a white mother and black father. Vanessa has two black parents. Vanessa looks mixed while Halle looks black. Go figure.

ElisaBeth - posted on 06/12/2012

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My son was the opposite, when he was born he had black hair and dark skin and very dark brown eyes, now he has lighter olive skin, my brown hair and lighter brown eyes.



Newborns rarely stay the same as they are born; while it's true that most babies are born resembling their father, it would seem that your genes are just more dominate, plus the daddy has the lighter skinned genes from his grandfather that he passed on.



Don't worry about it so much, those who make nasty comments about a baby are truly terrible people and don't even deserve a response.



Plus once your baby is older and gets out into the sun more and more I'll bet he will end up with a wicked beautiful tan :D

Julie - posted on 06/11/2012

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He's still just a newborn so it may take awhile for his color to come in. Alot of mixed (blk/wht) babies and even some all black babies are born very fair or white looking. Things I've heard you can go by to get an idea of what complextion they will be is like you said the nail beds, or ears and since he's a boy you can get a good idea if he has dark testicles. It can take a few months or up to a couple years for all their color to come in, so it's really hard to say but my guess would be you will see him darken up within the next few months.

Alesha - posted on 06/10/2012

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i always get looks from people cuz my baby is more dark. when she was around her dads family friends that never met me they always asked what the mom was and were floored when they said white. it bugs me somewhat cuz she doesnt look like me but not cuz of her color, more her features, although she is my little twin from my baby pics lol just not while im an adult. anyone who hates on me or my baby can kiss it in my book cuz shes my #1 for life :) plus everyone is different colors no matter how light or dark their parents are

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