Black/White Interracial Relationships: Why Are People SO RACIST?

Autumn - posted on 02/09/2012 ( 127 moms have responded )

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I'm so upset! Why are people so RACIST?



I’m Black and every time my white boyfriend and I go out we get the same attitude from white women! White women just give me the dirtiest looks. I am 5 months pregnant with our biracial child, that’s probably why. Sometimes I just feel like turning around and saying “that’s why he chose a Black woman because of nasty attitudes like THAT. I’m going to have his baby whether YOU like it or not.” My chicken and rice is mean and he loves it, so is my pure chocolate skin…and he LOVES that too. I’m not really sure why they act like this seeing as my boyfriend has dated all Black girls. I wasn’t the first. I know it’s just their insecurities kicking in, but really. Next time, I’m just gonna say “u r right, I did get with one of your good white men, lucky me. Jealous?”



I try not to let it get to me, I just pull him close or kiss! My boyfriend hates when this happens too, he says I should turn around and say “Excuse me, but if you saw this man walking down the street alone you would probably walk past him assuming he was just another broke azz white guy or a coke head and wouldn’t give him the time of day!! So don’t hate me because I show NO racism to WHITE men when I walk past them and notice him, NOT his color!!...



Now if you don’t want to be treated like you're less because you’re white (even though I don’t notice color) then don’t treat me like I am not worthy because I am Black! You can’t have it both ways!



Why Are people so RACIST?! What should i do?

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Kim - posted on 07/12/2013

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I would have to disagree. In fact it is your statement that is racist. It seems that everyone of every color except white women are allowed to do what ever it is they like, with no reprocussions, and then play that "racist" card when they are caught with their pants down. White women are not the monsters everyone seems to think. We make just as good partners as any other race! We work hard, raise great children and can love a man just as good if not better. But there is one difference, we don't NEED a man because we are smart enough and strong enough to do it all ourselves. So back the hell off and don't play that stupid racism shit 'cause no one is buying it!

Peter - posted on 02/09/2013

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White women are probably the most racist of all the female gender as they are the ultimate slave to the white man. They resent any happiness being recieved from any man especially if the woman recieving it aint white or the man isnt and the woman is.

LanaMelia - posted on 12/09/2013

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LOL! Ok, so I entered this thread because I am a white woman dating a black man and am experiencing all kinds of racist comments and behaviors from other people. I did not think that I'd come on this page and find people being racist to racists! For God's sake, color has nothing to do with it.

I had an unfortunate incident at a pub a couple weeks ago where a couple black women cornered me and told me to 'find a man who looks like you'. At NO point did I assume that all black women are racist and rude, I just knew for a fact that those two women were racist and rude.

I love my boyfriend and I don't care what other people think, but it's frustrating feeling like I need to defend my relationship. I have friends who say comments like 'Do you like dating black guys?" and it drives me nuts! I don't enjoy dating a specific race of men, I love my boyfriend for the person he is. His color had no bearing on whether or not I'd date him!

Southernman - posted on 12/13/2013

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@ Peter:

Your attempts to seperate the bond that white men and women have together is duly noted.

You and your black liberal swine will not wedge yourselves between us.

Karon - posted on 12/21/2012

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Sweetie, dont let them bother you; the sad thing is after all these years, all the scientific advancement, all the biological tests that people still havent realized that under the skin WE ARE ALL THE SAME. my son did not come out with a third ear or a tail or some bulllshite like that because his dad was white and I am black. hello??? WAKE UP its 2013 (almost anyways) black, white, asian, we are ALL HUMAN!!!! end of conversation. darling, if anyone looks at you funny, you and your bf should ask them where they`re hiding their tail in their outfit or better yet, compliment them on how well they learned to walk upright in such a short time. theyre so dumb and ignorant they wont understand and you and your bf will have a good laugh about it. dont let them get to you they arent worth it. Love is love and if you found it cherish it and pay no attention to the cromagnon fools roaming the streets of the world. hope that helps :)

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Onetraeh - posted on 07/25/2014

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Idk why u all bother talking to each other whn clearly u r not going to get along

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I do hope everyone realizes that some moderator or fake poster put these two very similar post-one from a white woman's perspective, and one from a black girl's perspective- just to stir up a debate. That's why the two post are almost exactly identical. LOL

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Lol, double standards. I especially like the part about it not being as bad for my sister because at the end of the day she's still got white privilege. By the way, my sister was pretty much disowned by some of her family and a lot of her friends, how is that not as bad? White men said other white men would never date her because she date a black man. I even remember one specific event were someone mentioned "Once you go black you never go back, because they won't take you."
By the way, I'm completely aware there are situations were people don't deserve the time they get in jail. (Mother always told me, Guilty by association. Don't hang out with people that get into trouble, don't hang out in places were you get in trouble, don't go looking for trouble if you don't want trouble...etc, etc.) Of course there are extenuating circumstances, there always are.
Also, I find getting called a cracker, or becky or any of the listed names just as offensive. Who are you to sit on your computer and tell me that's not equally offensive to me? I'm tired of people using the n-word argument when black rap artists say it nearly every other word on their music. How can you sit there and use that argument when it's said for profit everyday? I don't care if they take the er of the end and add an a the word is still the same.
Further, I never called you anything, let alone nappy. And I NEVER said nappy headed hoe. I even said I myself have been called nappy headed, That's what I said.
I'm offended by nothing you say, you are entitled to your opinion. The reason racism doesn't die because people like you sit here and rehash history that is old and dead. Things are changing in all over the world. These issues are only on going because people want to make things black or white instead of gray. Like I was telling her, white woman take flak for dating blacks too. She shouldn't sit here thinking I'm black and all white woman hate me because I stole a white man. That's simply not true.

So you can take my words and twist them into something hateful if you want too, I see your going to anyway. My advice was the girl stopped generalizing white women's behavior, ignore what she heard (it's not going to kill her to hear someone say something bad about her), and to live her life proud to be her.
As for white privilege- I have a 4.0 gpa and I live under poverty level, on EBT. Holding a grudge on an entire race of people is silly. Holding a grudge against white women because you think you "know" we got it better is silly. Can't say I have ever been in trouble with the law but I've never allowed myself to be put into a situation were I could get in trouble with them, or hung out with people that might get me into trouble. And Autumn, you know nothing about my life so don't talk to me about "white privilege" because I have struggled to make ends meet since I have left my Mother's house and please stop putting words in my mouth because I haven't called anybody anything.
PS It's also extremely arrogant to tell someone that they don't have it as bad as you because they're still white at the end of the day-that's a rather racist statement too.

Autumn - posted on 07/21/2014

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and also one more thing that kills me...when you complain about snide remarks your sister gets or whatever from people, it just boggles my mind because black people get snide remarks and worst regardless of who we're in a relationship with. You may be with a black man or your sister may be with a black man or whomever and complain about getting a "dirty look" every so often. i agree it's not right to be rude to someone, but you don't deal with what black women go through regardless of who we're with. our dirty looks and snide comments come regardless of who we're with. and it never stops...we can't just get out of a relationship and go back to being privileged and white, no we're black when we're with blacks, whites, asians or whomever.

Autumn - posted on 07/21/2014

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I can go on and on. But, I find that debating with people who refuse to see is pointless. The bottom line is, you do have white privilege. Sorry. If you don't want to see that, you don't want to see it. fine.

But I find that one of the biggest factors if not the biggest factor that is responsible for the rift between white women and black women as a group is the lack of acknowledgement of white privilege on the part of many white women. i've had this debate so many times and it seems that it is impossible for some people to just open their minds and see the inequalities. it's funny that you imply that white privilege doesn't exist, yet black women who live their lives at the EXPENSE of those who benefit most from white privilege swear by it. your very comments are a testament to your white privilege. you can sit on your computer and tell ME that it's if i'm called "nappy-headed," it's because my hair was nappy, yet you have never had to deal with the prejudice of being nappy-headed. You can claim that someone told you your hair was nappy once...but the reality is have you been turned down for a job for doing nothing other than wearing your God-given hair...have you been told that your white hair was unprofessional or militant? Have you had policies in the military enacted to bar you from wearing your natural hairstyles? Have you been expelled from school or work for wearing your hair in it's natural state? No, I doubt you have. white women have not lived that experience...and you won't because of your white privilege, but I and many other Black women have. So for you to imply that being called nappy-headed HOE is somehow excusable is the ultimate in arrogance, entitlement and insensitivity as far as I'm concerned. that very statement shows me your white privilege.

Autumn - posted on 07/21/2014

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The president is "biracial" and so what over 90% of the government officials are white...now what?

one black person being president for 8 years doesn't erase systematic and institutional racism, i mean how can you not get that?

I never said white women's lives were perfect, you said that. I don't deny that there are white women who deal with hardship, but just know that even if you deal with hardship, you have the benefit of white privilege at the end of the day...and as hard as your life may seem, i can guarantee it would be harder still if you were Black.

Autumn - posted on 07/21/2014

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@ kelly mcgowan,

wow calling my hair or black women's hair nappy when i clearly implied in my first comment that that was offensive is pretty ignorant....

also here is a check of sources for the wage income gap: http://www.nwlc.org/sites/default/files/...

The fact that you would use the term "nappy" with no knowledge of the history of the word (clearly) and the blatant oppressive and discriminatory references to the word shows that you're very insensitive and ignorant of black history and I don't recall if you're in a relationship with a black man or not, I think you said your sister is...but either way...if you don't know why the term NAPPY especially coming from a white person is offensive, then you need to take some time to learn about Black history. if you have a half-black daughter (or niece) you're going to have to deal with that reality one day or at the very least she will and what will you do to help her?? tell her it's acceptable if someone call's her a nappy-headed hoe???.....

Next your argument about "don't commit the crime and you won't do the time," has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that white women still serve less time for committing the same crimes, that's just deflecting. if two people commit the same crimes and have the same prior history, they should be serving the same sentences not one serving a lighter sentence based off of skin color. that's called discrimination, which is a violation of the 14th amendment and a civil rights violation.

Also, be careful not to judge people who go to prison. you don't know their life circumstances. so before you say don't do the crime and you won't do the time, i'd recommend reading the book "the new jim crow," for some insight. and also being "called becky," or cracker," although rude are not even comparable to being called n-word or nappy-headed ho, given the contextual history of the word and the bias in society that favors white people. so it's like apples and oranges. you may get called "becky" (....?) but at the end of the day you still have white privilege. if you go out for employment, you're more likely to find a job and be hired than a bw of equal education/ qualification, if you go missing vs. a bw it's more likely that people will look for you than the bw. You are less likely to be brutalized by the police and you are less likely to have your children taken away (unjustly) and fostered out. that's fact. so please spare me.

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I don't live as a black woman so I don't pretend to know what it is that you have to endure on a day to day basis. But at the same time Autumn, you don't live in our shoes. You think white women don't face oppression? Suffer in prison? Face racism ourselves? God, you must think our lives our perfect, and that is a frikkin joke. You have no idea what it's like for us anymore than we do for you, so why act like you do?
White supremacy? That's a joke. In case you missed it, the President is black. So is his wife and kids. And pretty soon, whites will be a minority in America. (That's information based of the US Census Bureau. Not just smoke out my A$$)
http://www.upworthy.com/in-28-years-whit...
http://usnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/06/...
http://www.cnn.com/2013/08/22/opinion/an...

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No, but white women get called white trash, crackers, Becky, snow bunnies just to name a few....if they called you a nappy headed ho, it was probably cause your head was nappy. I'm white and even I have been told I have nappy hair when it was in fact nappy. Boohoo, don't do the crime and you won't go to jail in the first place. No problem then right? And referring to that post, I just joined here so if it didn't pop up on the feed down at the bottom or the new topics, yea I didn't see it. But like I was saying, my sister went through this first hand. It's not a one way street, sorry not buying it.

Autumn - posted on 07/20/2014

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@ kim Vincent

"I would have to disagree. In fact it is your statement that is racist. It seems that everyone of every color except white women are allowed to do what ever it is they like, with no reprocussions, and then play that "racist" card when they are caught with their pants down. White women are not the monsters everyone seems to think. We make just as good partners as any other race! We work hard, raise great children and can love a man just as good if not better. But there is one difference, we don't NEED a man because we are smart enough and strong enough to do it all ourselves. So back the hell off and don't play that stupid racism shit 'cause no one is buying it!"


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@ this comment: "We make just as good partners as any other race! We work hard, raise great children and can love a man just as good if not better. But there is one difference, we don't NEED a man because we are smart enough and strong enough to do it all ourselves. So back the hell off and don't play that stupid racism shit 'cause no one is buying it!" don't we think highly of ourselves...lol


yeah boo hoo white women are so oppressed...ww are so oppressed they earn more income than both black and non-white Hispanic women even when you control for education and employment position...ww are so oppressed they serve less jail time for commiting the same crimes as black women...white women are so oppressed they get called n-ppy-headed hoes by radio talk show hosts daily...NOT!

get over yourself. one little post on a website and you're that defensive...please...

talk about your white female privilege: http://www.ankhesen-mie.net/2012/02/cont...

Autumn - posted on 07/20/2014

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that is true most bp in the Us have European blood in our lineage, but there is a difference between growing up in a household with 2 parents of different races in the present day. "biracial" people of today have a bit more privilege in that they at least have the option of claiming their non-black ancestry whereas 50-60 years ago that wasn't an option at all, in fact it could get you in trouble. our mixed-grandparents/ great-grandparents didn't have the option of claiming their (usually) white fathers who abandoned them due to the laws of that time

Autumn - posted on 07/20/2014

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I agree love isn't colorblind, but all things being equal if white supremacy didn't exist, I really think that people would be able to be with whomever they want and it wouldn't be an issue... and in an ideal world that would be possible...but we live in the real world and racism exist...so no I am no naïve enough to believe that white supremacy wouldn't influence our choices in who we do or don't date, but at the end of the day people will do what they want to do.

saying someone should be thrown in an oven though is extreme though.

Autumn - posted on 07/20/2014

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@ linda

" Whites and blacks need to get out of the ghetto and act civilized and talk american English if they are going to live in this country. You need to ignore people like that and you also don't need to degrade yourself to their level. "

ooooh brother, you can't be serious with this comment.

Autumn - posted on 07/20/2014

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@ Kelly McGowan,

thanks for your comment. however, I hope you noticed this post by a white woman and noted the comments on there about black women...

http://www.circleofmoms.com/moms-of-bi-r...

you see when a white woman made a post that was just as ignorant if no more so...there were HARDLY ANY people, especially white women, who came to the defense of black women who were stereotyped and maligned in that post. no instead, there were ww who cosigned and high-fived the stereotyping and ignorance of the white woman poster. duh not all white women behave this way...that's obvious...but why is it so easy for people to jump up and defend white women when posts like this come up but they cannot extend the same courtesy to bw. I see FAAAAAR too many posts on here and else where that stereotype black woman as being jealous and mean towards ww/bm and until I start seeing more ww, coming to black women's defense...I have no sympathy. couldn't care less if this offends people. sorry

u seem reasonable, so if this offends you as an individual, then sorry...but i'm not defending a group that doesn't defend me

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I have to agree that just the way this post is worded sounds kind of racist toward all white women. This is not a problem unique just to a black woman dating a white man. My sister was a WHITE girl dating a black man. She had the same problem as you, not just from strangers but from some of her own family. Black girls were looking at her like that, like she had stolen the greatest black man alive. White men were telling her she'd never go with another good white man because of the fact she dated a black man.
You say you aren't racist but I get the underlying feeling of a strong dislike of white women. By saying he choose a black woman because of nasty behavior like that is kind of generalizing the behavior of all white women as being nasty like that, and that's stereotyping, and racist.
Not that I am trying to put you down, but hate only breeds more hate. The world is a dark, ugly place sometimes and it's up to you to make it shine. So be black, be proud of your white man, and don't dare let no one make you feel insecure with a few dirty looks, because they're just looks. They may hurt your feelings but when you play into others negative emotions, they win-automatically, and you just get angrier. Congrats on the baby.

Linda - posted on 06/22/2014

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I'm not into whites or blacks being racist and I live in a black racist neighborhood and it is pathetic. God made us all and everyone should love one another. It's not about color when you fall in love with someone, it's whats in the heart. Whites and blacks need to get out of the ghetto and act civilized and talk american English if they are going to live in this country. You need to ignore people like that and you also don't need to degrade yourself to their level. Go on about your business and hold your head high. Leave the drama out of your life from other people because it affects you and your husband's life and your children. Make you some good friends and be obedient to God and everything will work out. God loves us all and he will bless us if we praise him..

Johann - posted on 06/11/2014

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To Melanite-posted 05/18/2014

Your post is probably the funniest post I ever read. I think your way of reasoning is typically the reason how racism started in first place.(which is a very sad thing) You make uneducated remarks and I strongly suggest that you seek help from a professional or maybe your Mommy who brought you TV games and toys. The thing about your condition is that you are the only one suffering in your own pool off sadness. No one really cares if you hate IR relationships and see relationships as wealth based or thinking that there must only be one race at the end of the day despite true love and happiness,

From the way you commented I take it that you still very young. Go and have a look at the stats what the percentages shows in growth in IR relationships Mr Statman, I suggest that the sooner you make peace with the concept that relationships are about love, respect and religion meeting on commen grounds the sooner you will stop kicking the dog for no reason:-) Good luck BRO!

Melanite - posted on 05/18/2014

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Black people should NOT be mixing their gene pool and only validate their own self hatred when they do so.

Blacks have some of the HIGHEST interracial stats in the world with whites and after all that white people have done to us isn't it ironic we have the highest IR can anybody else say self hatred

While I dislike both Black men and Black women who date IR it's really black men that make me sick my to stomach when they date IR

1) Black men as soon as they get any kind of financial stability always run to a white woman as quick as he can it's pathetic. WW have the most financially stable men in America in WM so why the FUCK as a BM are you passing down your wealth to a WW when BW need it TEN times as much?

2) Who was it that nurtured you when dad wasn't around who was it that brought you clothes, fed you, brought you toys and video games while working two jobs then you turn around and spit in the black woman's face by marrying and praising Becky. How dare you put the WW on a pedestal. You're the WORST kind of scum...

3) As for BW who date WM you also make me sick too.You're traitors and need to be thrown into an Oven

4) IR dating depopulates and dilutes the black gene. Most mutts are MORE self hating then the self hating black parent they came from and 80% of them tend to marry whites and essentially breed themselves out into the white gene pool. Our genes also make whites more fertile since Europeans naturally are less fertile then Africans

5) Love is NOT colorblind I find it funny when people who state love is colorblind are usually the same clowns who REFUSE to date people within their own race and specifically date WHITE PEOPLE. White people are usually seen as the "standard of beauty in the world" and you're telling me that practically ALL minorities who date IR are NOT dating other minorities but White people and then you're telling me love is colorblind LMAO what a joke try again losers

Irish - posted on 04/27/2014

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I'm Asian married to a white men. My children are happy they're experiencing both cultures. You can't expect people to accept, them that's their problem, besides you're not here to please anyone but your love ones. For most people, who thinks like that just ignore them. They are so many ignorant and hateful people in this world. Love, happiness, enjoy life to it's fullest and have fun making good memories.
Stereotype before you get to know someone is wrong plain and simple.

Kelly - posted on 04/18/2014

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Its just so sad how people can have so much hate in their hearts, reading most of these comments smh, but love is love. The people who look most of the time are just looking and maybe they look at you the wrong way and maybe sometimes their just looking. I get looks all the time when im by myself or when i'm with my boyfriend. My boyfriend told me when we first started dating that he doesn't care what people think, and neither should i. When we first started going out to eat for dinner i use to think everyone was laughing at us or just looking period, what i learn is we can't stop people from looking nor saying what they say behind or backs, you just have to enjoy one other. Your on the date with him not them so imagine they aren't their and be happy. "i'm brown and he is white" and i love him MLK died for this !!! God see nothing wrong with it.

Lulu - posted on 04/14/2014

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It used to be that if you had a drop of black blood you were black. While reading this post I notice people referring to themselves as bi-racial. But all black people are bi-racial because we are all mixed up and not pure anything.

Rachel - posted on 04/04/2014

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This whole post is upsetting to me. We are in the "Mom's of bi-racial babies" community and this is what we have to talk about? I'm a white women married to a black man with a beautiful son and regardless of what PEOPLE (not their race) do when you walk into a room or have to say is so pointless. Instead, why don't we focus on how we are all in interracial relationships/families. Something that makes us all unique and ALIKE!!!!

Komi - posted on 04/02/2014

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Oh dear, I totally understand what you are going through. I am black, nigerian . My boyfriend is Swiss, been together 8years, and have the cutest 7months old baby girl. Before my baby, I get looks, derogatory ones. We live in lagos Nigeria, and the mentality here is solo bad. One is looked down upon when dating a foreigner . It's so bad, anywhere we go, stares. Now it's worse with my baby.

I get so upset, and realize I frown all the time. So, now I am learning it shouldn't get to me.

Enjoy my baby, and boyfriend .

Vivien - posted on 03/25/2014

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Hormones,love,New situations all lead people to be a little touchy about their lives. As you get further into the role of mom and wife you will realize that very few people judge couples because of race. You will be judged as a good mom,a good wife,a great friend or coworker. The race card is a weak one these days. There are far greater issues by which we are judged. Smile,hold your head up,and have a great life.If you allow your thoughts and paranoia room to grow they will spoil your happiness.

Vivien - posted on 03/25/2014

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As you get older and your family grows you will realize that the way you are feeling right now is filed in part by your youth and a relationship that is based on love ,but is still just a little out of your comfort zone. As you become less hormonal and more confident in your role as wife and mother.you will realize that it doesn't really matter what others think. In fact very few people care about others they are too busy worrying about their own lives . Smile and the world will smile with you.

Tasha - posted on 03/09/2014

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WOW!!! Henry your seem to be the biggest racist in the world. I am sorry that you see your race as so little that you feel the need to attack another. if this is what you feel about Black men what is you opinion of the interacial children they produce. Please do tell iI am eager to find out just how ignorant and pathetic you are.

Tasha - posted on 03/08/2014

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I am 26 and biracial. My fiance is white and has a 2 year old son, which I treat as my own and I also have a biracial daughter who is almost 4 years old who my fiance treats as his own . And more often then not when we are in public and his son calls me mommy or my daughter calls him daddy the looks we get are mortifying. Some are so bad that it makes my fiance go off!!!

White - posted on 01/26/2014

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Cause white swans belong with white swans and black crows Belong with crows

Rees - posted on 01/18/2014

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Wow! iNTERESTING LISTENING TO OPINIONS ABOUT INTERACIAL RELATIONSHIPS. I'm in one myself, having been since the 90's which was not a done thing then, especially being a black man dating the hottest white lady. I 've had my fair share of all sort of comments including the pastor of the church I attended, a man I served in the church and travel with for some years.

My personal take to all the comments was no offense whatsoever - I just knew that the individual who was making racist remarks was the one with the problem not me so i never paid attention. Today, my wife and I have two gorgeous kids (taking after her) and i must say - i just dont notice anymore whether ppl are looking or commenting because it's none of my business - if they have issues, let them deal with their issues and I will not be dragged to an uninformed mind and closed worldviews.

I have a life to live and am enjoying leaving it in diverse democratic SA, those who have issues maybe they should consider immigrating to Norway or Sao Tome' or something where mixed relationships are in a minority.

Mirror - posted on 01/14/2014

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Be secure within your relationship. Why are you so hung up on what people are thinking about your relationship. Sounds like a waste of energy to me. I'm a white woman with a black man. So you can only imagine what it is like in rural southern Georgia. I don't let it get to me. I just concentrate on us. We are happy with each other and that's all that matters to me.

Kellie - posted on 01/02/2014

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I am not racist and grew up appreciating all kinds of people regardless of color. I've seen the wat people do look at mixed race couples and it's just out of their comfort zone. We as a society have become very open minded but depending on where people live, mixing of cultures isn't okay because of the idea that there will be children born to said couple. We need to educate our children and teach them to just love one another.

Kellie - posted on 12/29/2013

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The racism goes both ways. Whites don't think mating with a black is okay and blacks are not okay with mixing with whites! I personally could care less but you can't escape it. How will the children be classified? White or black? It just gets sketchy but one needs to prepare themselves for that!

Marion - posted on 12/25/2013

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I feel like this! When some one does that to you, think of them as not educated.

Southernman - posted on 12/13/2013

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@ Peter:

Your attempts to seperate the bond that white men and women have together is duly noted.

You and your black liberal swine will not wedge yourselves between us.

Aishwarya - posted on 12/13/2013

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For me honestly, an Indian woman with a black man or vice versa and that too with kids, it quite rare

We are often afraid of what *near & dear ones (inclusive of culture* would think. After seeing couples of different races marrying Indians, I can only conclude, that the whites are the ones which are not shunned by Indians as the blacks. And I believe its because the blacks are not even close in status, behavior, appearances, education, family values, morals and culture.

Most blacks greet each other in a ghetto way *Yo Nigga, what's shakin?* in comparison to a modest Indian greet *Namaste! How are you?* .. thus as mother, we wish to impart our kids with a blend of best culture values, morals & see each other as representatives of the divine.



However, for us even whites are more acceptable, because of skin color, which is preferred over the black look, which is looked down upon. I know personally for me, I wouldn’t want to have kids with big noses, lips and kinky hair, not because it is unattractive... but kid should not feel insecure, left out of a culture that isn't receptive of biracial child.

Wendylovessomeone - posted on 12/08/2013

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I hated people who are racist. God created us as equals. No one is better than anyone else. My husband doesnt want my daughter dating a black boy. To me its a
skin color. I told my daughter that when she is an adult she cant date whomever she wants. All I care about is if she is happy and that whomever she dates is good to her and respects her. I don't divide people into races. I see everyone as being the same.

Amy - posted on 12/02/2013

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That is annoying. Just ignore people like that. I had something similar happen to me. I am white and I had a boyfriend who was Costa Rican. He looked like he was black though and had dreaded hair. I can remember being in Tampa, FL and walked past a group of black women...they all chimed in with some crap. I just couldn't believe it. And I thought it was funny cuz he wasn't even black. But yeah, just let people be rude. Who cares.

Cassandra - posted on 12/02/2013

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i don't have that problem where i at i'm black and my boyfriend white we have a handsome baby boy and we don't have no problem like that anyone look and stare us down like that at all. Don't worry what people think of you and your family at least they don't touch you that all i have to say.

Nicole - posted on 11/25/2013

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Karon I LOVE YOUR POST!!!! I am so sick of this racism kick that everyone is one...get off it people its like Karen said we are all human...and since there is only one species of human that makes us all the same biologically...hating someone based on the color of their skin, texture of their hair, eye color (Hitler), fat, skinny, ecetera is just ignorance...pure ignorance...I'm human and my light brownish white mixed with some peach undertones should not be a factor....I just wish we could refer to eachother by another means....I hate saying someone is white or black or African American when they were not even born in Africa...so annoying...cant we just say that is my human friend such and such or check out that human's cute butt...lol...Thank you Karen...I do love your post...wish people would educate themselves on race and what is really going on with it.

Sarah - posted on 11/22/2013

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Hey,
I'm a white girl and I am seeing a black South African guy.
All the time we get stared at when we are out. If we kiss or playing around people stare. I really do believe it's out of curiosity.
I wouldn't let small minded people bother you. Some people are small minded and ignorant.
The other day we had just parked up in the car...a black woman about 50yr old walked past us and couldn't take her eyes away from us. I just don't care. If someone said something I would say something. I have experienced the same from
white people too.
I don't understand a racist mentality... I just don't get it.
But you know it does work both ways I've heard black woman comment on white girls taking all their good men.
Life is about being happy so just live your live be healthy, happy and full of love

[momoftwo] - posted on 11/15/2013

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Oh no no Autumn no double standard. I just think the girls that say those things or act that way towards you are just jealous and being ignorant and they are being racist. They need to grow up. I'd tell someone off if they make racial comments about someone. I don't like discrimination when it comes to anything, I like being a peacekeeper lol.

Bi-racial babies are so cute too, my sister has a friend that I think is Jamaican and her husband is a red head and they have a daughter together and she is adorable! She has the nice dark skin and freckles it's soooo cute!

Mcglen - posted on 11/10/2013

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all i ever wanted lately is to date a white lady not because its a fantasy or to prove a point but to learn about other cultures , the point is we are all equal , the same , like bleed the same color blood and when you love someone its not a matter of , money , skin color or looks but its feelings. so lets live , love and let God

Ade - posted on 11/10/2013

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the best thing is just to ignore ppl and let them talk ....i am black and my boyfriend is mix (half white half black with some indian) but when you see him he looks pure white...i live in London he stays in bristol just two hours away from London..there was a time he came down to London to see me and we hang about in the park and this black man walk up to us and said ..he doesnt understand why black ppl cnt stick to black ppl....white should stay with white....ma partner was really upset we just walked away from the man...very sad situation...

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