child's names are they really that bad

April - posted on 11/27/2009 ( 80 moms have responded )

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OK so i have had a lot of people ask me if my daughter is Hispanic and white then why did i give her such a white name...i think that's the most ignorant question anyone could ever ask. its mainly from her fathers family...they are Hispanic and think i should have named her some other name than what i did...so her name is Abigail Elizabeth Lopez. is there anything wrong with giving my child a white name and ending it with a Hispanic name? does anyone else have this problem or is it just me?

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Stephanie - posted on 11/27/2009

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no matter what they are goin to think that, my family is just like that, always asking why did i give him that name why not juan or jose or somethin more hispanic, like does it matter, itz my child i can name him whateva i want, just dont pay them no mind, they will get over it

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Tiffany - posted on 02/24/2010

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It doesn't matter what other people think. As I see it is its your child not theirs. & I had the same problem. My daughter is a variety such as myself. I have mexican indian dutch and irish in me. Just think about it now, my daughter has the much in her not including her dad is black & indian so also has that to throw in! lol & everybody saids she looks indian like middle eastern and I have should have named her India. Im like no her name is Destiny. But I see exactly where your coming from. But I see nothing wrong with your childs name I see it as the best of both worlds because im just assuming now that your caucasion so she has the abgail part from you and lopez to through it in for the hispanic side. i see nothing wrong. but newho. overall just ignore over all what people say because at the end of the day it doesnt matter!

Nina - posted on 02/24/2010

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Who cares what her name is there is no such thing as a white name or a black name or whatever. I got grief for naming my daughter Elyzabeth because she is half native I guess everyone thought I would name her something more "native" (and only my family cared that her name was not native and I am white kind of backwards) but honestly I don't think names really fall under races. It seems dumb to me that someone would even ask something like that.

Lisa - posted on 02/24/2010

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I hear stuff like that all the time. I am white, my sons sperm donor is black. I named my son "Reno Michael Tatman" I gave my son my last name instead of his sperm donors which is "Lynch".I always get told that Reno sounds like a mexican name, but now that my son is 5 months old everyone is always telling me how they love his name.

Keeshea - posted on 02/24/2010

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My mom and aunts gave me a hard time about naming my baby. I would that I was going to name him after my father, but we struggled with selecting a middle name. We thought about names like Wyatt, Carson, and Monroe {my husband's middle name - its the family name - he's related to James Monroe and John Tyler [5th and 7th Presidents of the US]}. My mom and aunts said that those names were for white people. I was pissed! My husband and I ignored them and choose Layne as his middle name.

April - posted on 02/24/2010

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All I can say to this is WOW, thats some nerve. She is your baby, not theirs. Abigail is a beautiful name for any race. Who wants their kids to be labeled by their name anyway? Don't worry, they will get over it in time, for now just tell them you named her that because she is beautiful and so is the name, not because she is "white" or "hispanic." No need to cause more diversity issues in the world than there already are.

April - posted on 02/22/2010

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I dont believe there is a name under the sun that is safe from comments. If the issue isn't about what race the name represents it will be about something else. I suppose its just part of naming!!!! ;-) My daughter is half white half black ... she has a boys name... maybe thats why i dont hear anything about it representing one race or the other.. people are to busy hassling me for giving her a boys name. But its pretty, and bold and she is pretty enough to stand with it. I dont regret her name.

Your daughters name is right for her. Dont let anyone shake you of it. tell them they can name their next daughter adrianna and leave the naming of your children to you... ok, maybe not. ;-) but abigail e lopez is beautiful. she is just as hispanic now as she would be with a different name. ohh.. another note: sometimes people nag about that kinda stuff as a way of saying 'i love you'.. i think the term is 'fussing over someone'.

Jocelyn - posted on 02/21/2010

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does it really matter? it is YOUR baby. i am black and my husband is white... we named our daughter Alexis Nicole.. is that white or black? honstly we picked it because its cute and it fits her.. not because of race done and done

Regina - posted on 02/21/2010

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dont pay no mind to anyone you named your child something that you liked and loved a name dont go after a race a child can be named anything thing you want to your the one who calls them that name everyday not them my child has a long name and people say stuff to me all the time i named him Tayvian-Nickolas Paul Pucci and i get why you give him something so long i gave gave him something so long because i liked the way it sounds and i love his name its a name noone eles will name there child i hope hahaha ladys dont steal my name and its what i wanted and he will love his name and if he dont he will have 2 names to change it up and be like hi im tayvian or hi im nickolas so as long as your happy dont let ppl get to you

Rachel - posted on 02/20/2010

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I've had the same thing happen to me. But its not my family. Its just some friends. My kids are 3/4 white and 1/4 black. My 2 year olds name is Sarah Elizabeth Leigh snd my 4 month olds name is Jasmine Monique Nickcole. They always ask why I gave them a white person's name.

Brianne - posted on 02/20/2010

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I GET THAT ALL THE FREAKING TIME! ugh! It drives me absolutely insane! My daughter's name is Reagan and she is three quarters black. I am half white and half black and my father's side of the family (the black side) always ask me why I would name my 3/4 black baby girl after a white, Republican, male president and I always say "Because I like how it sounds and I think it fits her." I believe that someone's name has nothing to do with what race they are. And it is very ignorant and rude of other's to say such things about somebody's childs' name! They wouldn't like it very much if we talked crap about a name that they picked!

Ashley - posted on 02/19/2010

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I don't think there is anything wrong with what you choose to name your child. my daughter is half hispanic and i get that all the time . I carried her for nine months and I was the one in labor not them they have no right to say her name is too white. That makes it sound like they are putting down my side of her. I know it is hard for my husbands family to say, Alexandria Tyriana Sanchez so we call her alex. For them that brings up a different topic, why did I give her a boys name? I dont even listen anymore. I named her and thats just how it is.

Danielle - posted on 02/18/2010

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BRUSH EM OFF !!! I NAMED MY 1/2 BLACK 1/2 WHITE DAUGHTER AUBRIANA DIONNE THOMPSON... I THOUGH IT WAS CUTE, A LITTLE JAZZY AND NOT TOO 'GHETTO' BUT I DIDNT REALIZE HOW MANY HISPANIC BABIES WERE NAMED ADRIANA OR ARIANA.... EITHER WAY ITS UR CHILD, U ARE THE ONLY PERSON WHO SHOULD HAVE ANY SAY IN UR DAUGHTERS NAME. BESIDES SHE IS HALF WHITE SO WHY DENY THAT BY GOING FOR A FULLY "ETHNIC" NAME ??? I LOVE HER NAME I THINK ITS VERY CUTE !!! AS LONG AS SHES HAPPY THATS WHAT MATTERS ! I ALWAYS TOLD PPL U CAN GIVE HER WHATEVER NICKNAME U WANT ! MAYBE IF THEY WANT TO CALL HER BY A MORE HISPANIC NICKNAME THAT WOULD MAKE THEM FEEL BETTER LOL

Samantha - posted on 02/15/2010

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O yea and Christopher is his fathers first name so he's named after him as well

Samantha - posted on 02/15/2010

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Nothing is wrong with it. My son is black and italian, italian being me. My sons dad finally agreed upon a name with me and people say that I gave him such a white name. Mind you his dads last name is Fontenot (french) but he's black. So my son's name is Denim Christopher Fontenot. Heres the funny thing, I got the name from Toni Braxton's son, LOL.

Rachelle - posted on 02/14/2010

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you're right, pure ignorance....not to mention unkind and petty! I know they are family, but if it were me, I'd think I limit the contact between them and your daughter. It would be terrible if she started to feel some of their negativity and feel badly about herself or even worse, gain some of their ignorance. Good Luck!

Jillian - posted on 02/13/2010

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Theres no problem with that she is white and hispanic so her name is mixed thats cool...my son's name is a name for both races but my daughters is Concepcion GayLyn Villar first and last is hispanic like her dad and middle is white.....people ask me all the time ( before meeting my husband) why I named her a hispanic name and i always have to say becasue she is...( my kids are light skined even tho their dad is really dark so people cant tell on the spot).........

Asia - posted on 02/13/2010

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My child - at least from my side of the family - is going to be named including all aspects of the child's heritage. What you named your child is up to you and your partner. Who cares what they think. Although it can make a small difference at times in her life, her name does not make her who she is.

Crystal - posted on 02/13/2010

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I kinda have that problem with my kids. I wanted to name my oldest Elijah but my g-ma couldn't say it so I named Eli, I really wanted Xavier but went with Eli. My youngest middle name is Amiel and I love that name, my mother HATES it and always makes fun of it and say it sounds like A meal like a happy meal and it pisses me off. Shes lucky I didn't make it his first name which i almost did.

Kendra - posted on 02/11/2010

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a white name? i didnt know you could put color to a name.

Abigail is a Hebrew name...so what if she has a Hispanic last name. there is nothing wrong with giving her a name that is non hispanic.

thats like saying all hispanics need to name their kids carlos or juan or something like that. be proud of her name. it is beautiful

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I know like I had told April Hogg, that My name is Elizabeth and it's not White its Hebrew, Biblical.

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It's not a problem especially if you are American and can properly pronounce it. Unlike those who are both of Hispanic race who don't even speak English, and can't pronounce it. Like my neighbor who named her son Kenny Daniel Martinez. and they both can't speak English.....to something like this Is not a problem but it's just stupid I think..

Patience - posted on 02/10/2010

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Yeah, I do. My girls are both White and Pacific Islanders. IE Japanese, Hawaiian and Phillipino. One is Alyssa Ann Marie Nishikawa and the other is Phoenix Konstantine Nishikawa, Mine is Patience Marie Nishikawa. Both girls are fair in skin, Brown hair and eyes. I am blue eyes, light brown hair. They ask me if I am Japanese and if the girls are Hispanic. I ask them do we look like it?

April - posted on 02/10/2010

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Christi for one Tyler is adorable and i know a Hispanic kid named Tyler. He went to PESH with us. Other than that, i love my daughters name. Its beautiful. She is beautiful. Iv learned to not listen to them. For all i could care his family could kiss my a** now. but i wont be mean. So it doesnt bother me just the fact that she has a "white" girls name bothers them. Too bad...

Chelsea - posted on 02/10/2010

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i dont think its just a white name i have friends named abigail and elizabeth who r 100% hispanic!!!!

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i see nothing wrong with it.I think it is a very pretty name. Also - if one parent is white, and one hispanic - seems to me one side of the family will be able to ask that question, and you can never win. i think you name your children what you want, not what the grandparents want.

Shelley - posted on 02/10/2010

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As long as you love it And your daughter knows you love it it's all that matters. My Daughters father is Mexican And of course has a large hispanic family. But we names Her Teagan Persephone Bautista. I'm white & Teagan was my choice, but Persephone was picked by her Mexican father when he was in college from his greek metholagy classes and her Last name is Bauthista. We live it a predominentlysouthern white town now. And my Daughter will walk and tell any one her name and she is very proud of it. And it's a mixed name just like her And most of teh world now.

Teri - posted on 02/09/2010

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My daughter is biracial (her dad is black) and I named her Lily! If that isn't a white name, I don't know what is??? Anyway, who cares? I love the name and as a teacher, I appreciate anything that is easy to spell and recognize as girl/boy names.

Kelly - posted on 02/09/2010

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I am black, jamaican and adopted by a white family, my husband is Danish. we named our son Simon (MIL first didn't like it as "we're not Jewish", now it's the only name that suits the kid), his middle name is Egon (Danish). My daughter has a Hindu name (Shyla- it's just so pretty) and Grace as her middle name (Daddy liked the song by U2).

So if anyone thinks my kids are too White or too Black or too anything but cute, they can stuff it.

Hey just an aside when I met my husband everyone thought he was either Black or Jewish as his name is Marty. Yeah, try Denmark folks. Just goes to show........

Lindsay - posted on 02/09/2010

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Not all Zulu names are unpronouncable, as I discovered when we were naming our daughters. My partner is Zulu and I am Scottish. Our children both have 'white' first names and 'zulu' middle names. But we actually looked at the meanings of each name before deciding

Samantha - posted on 02/08/2010

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I agree with most of the posters. If my ex had his way all four of my kids would be named after him. Names need to fit the child. I had names picked out for my kids in my teens. None of them stood the test of time. My oldest is named after his father but has never gone by the name always his initials. My youngest was going to be Mathew Isaiah until he was born and it didn't fit him instead he got Jaxxon Sage. Black White Asian whatever just needs to fit the child.

Carley - posted on 02/05/2010

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That is really annoying.I am black and white and my kids father is puerto rcan and his side always hated my kids names.I used to joke when my son was little about his multi-cultural name Izaiah Thomas Hernandez(black,white,p.r.)lol.They just have to get over it.It is your kid and what you feel their name should be is your business.You don't have to be a Jose or Maria to be hispanic.

DeJeania - posted on 02/05/2010

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I think names are a personal choice and aren't just for certain groups, that is just ignorance on their part. Why can't you name your daughter Jessica, Amanda, Brittiny, Veronica, Sharica without it crossing a color line...I say that the name is a personal choice because it has meaning to you or your family and please ignore them.

Hsin-Hsin - posted on 02/04/2010

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I gave my son an old fashioned American Name - same as his dad's. And I gave him a Chinese name - uniquely made for him based on his birthdate and time, but i only use this on his chinese passport and at home.

Kim - posted on 02/03/2010

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Of course there is nothing wrong. Whats wrong is that everybody else is ignorant. White Name? Hispanic Name? Who cares! She has a beautiful name and its hers.

Lisa - posted on 02/03/2010

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to be quite frank its nobody's business what YOU want to name your child....i too had people weighing in on this very same issue...giving me derivitves of his father's name and I wanted my child to have his own name so I settled on Marcus Nigel Harris he still had his dad's name in there but his very own name....I don't go for the XYZ the third and ABC Jr. The way I see it, if your name is supposed to convey your heritage then we may very well all need to be renamed. My son's name is appropriate and suitable for him, I am satisfied and that's important.

Teresita - posted on 02/03/2010

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People will be ignorant no matter what. Look my name Teresita Robinson. filipina first name american last name. Lot of people used to poke fun of me when i was younger bout it. I told them they are just jealous cause i have the best of both worlds lol.

Esther - posted on 02/03/2010

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Wow people! When it comes down to it, it is up to the parents to decide what their child's name is going to be! And grandparents etc. should have no say in the matter. Of course different factors should be taken into consideration, i.e. culture, religion, will the kid be picked on with this name etc. But in the long run, choosing a name for your child is a big deal, and is something very special that parents only get to do once for each child that comes into the world. My parents, my mother in particular, cannot stand my sons name: Giovanni. She associates it with someone that she met once and did not like, and therefore tried to tell me that I should not use that name for that reason. Well, too bad!! There is a particular reason as to why that name was chosen, and it will not be changed for anyone!! And you should not change the name Abigail Elizabeth either! My daughter's name is Taylor Elizabeth, and my middle name is Elizabeth as well, so you definitely shouldn't change it ;)

Tara - posted on 02/02/2010

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My husband and i dont agree on the name issue at all. we get stuff about our kids names all the time. im white and my husband was born in kenya. he wants the kids to have "white" names and i would like them to have traditional african names. i dont care what my family or anyone else thinks of my kids names. but they do have unique names....Kenyon Andre' Oriebo and Jorden Michael Elijah Oriebo and our next child will be either Logan Tyler Oriebo or Amelia Laylani Oriebo. naming a child is something that is between the mother and father...dont let people tell you what to name or not name your child

Robyn - posted on 02/01/2010

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My husband is hispanic, and he's worried about some of his family making comments to us about naming our child a "white" name. I'm white so my baby is half-white. I told him just to tell that part of his family that the baby is half white... We are naming him Tristan Miles Podhajser. Podhajser isn't a hispanic last name because my husbands step father adopted him, he's white (Jewish). So we embrace many different cultures in our family :) There is nothing wrong with naming a child a white name and then ending it with a spanish last name, nothing wrong with that at all!

Rowan - posted on 02/01/2010

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JENNIFER Lopez, RYAN Cabrera, MICHELLE Rodriguez, JESSICA Alba .... Do yousee the pattern. My son has an English first name and an Arabic last name, big deal. honey it's not important what his family think if that is what you and the father chose mutually then who are they to say anything about it. Honey, I think the name you chose is beautiful just like your little girl.

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What I don't get is why some people think certain names have racial implications. I mean, sure, if you name your kid a Japanese name (for example) then that's an Asian name, and a Swahili name is an African name, but most of the names people are talking about here are kind of old fashioned, even Biblical names. These names have no racial or national affiliations.



The other thing is that sometimes people think of a name having some racial affiliation, and they're actually wrong about that. For example, if you ask most people in the US, they'll tell you that the name Tyrone is a "black" name, but that's not exactly correct. The name is actually Irish in origin. It is a popular name among some black families in the US, yes, but the name itself comes from Ireland. There's a county in Ulster Province called County Tyrone, and I do know of Irish guys who have that name also, and they're pretty darned white by anyone's standards. To me, that shows that names don't have a race. Names can be of a certain language (like the examples I gave before of Japanese and Swahili) but a name itself has NO race.



I am Irish, and my husband is Thai and Finnish. We have a Finnish last name. Our son's name is Orren Kiet. Orren is actually the Hebrew form of Orin/Oran, which is a Gaelic name meaning "green" (the Hebrew form, Orren/Orrin means "pine tree"). We didn't use Orin because our daughter's name is Erin, and the spellings were too similar, but we fully intended to use a Gaelic first name for our son to sort of honor his Irish heritage (he was almost Seamus, but we decided it's too common). His middle name, Kiet, is Thai. I've found out that it is also Chinese and Vietnamese, but that doesn't matter. It just goes to show that names can span many languages, and are not the property of only one ethnicity of people.

Jeanna - posted on 01/29/2010

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My Daughter's name is Emily Grace Adams, she is white and black and her father wanted me to name her Brianna Leann after him. He said that Emily Grace Sounded to white. I told him she is half white and that Brianna Leann sounded just as white as Emily Grace did.

Janessa - posted on 01/29/2010

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My boyfriend and i named our baby Dominic this stupid negro thought it was a black name lol. I put her in her place fast lol its not like i would name my child a real african name. i mean negros have been in the Americas almost as long as whites and i do not know what tribe i am from what is the point in that. Anyways i think our son has an aweseome name Dominic Gabriel James.

Janessa - posted on 01/29/2010

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omg what stupid people isaiah is not a black name please educate yourself and them. That is a bible name so it would be jewish. A real black name would be an african name from africa not those ghetteo made up names lol.

Manon Alexe - posted on 01/28/2010

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What's race got to do with her name? My girl is zulu/dutch has a greek first name and german surname....its just the name that fitted her most. Granted i didn't want a zulu name for her, but only as those names are unpronouncecable...lol. And personally i think you did it very nicely and 'mixed' her names. Just as she is mixed. I think its awesome.

Katrine(Katie) - posted on 01/28/2010

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My son is white/black, and I hear all the time that he has a white first name and a black middle name, Kameron Zakiah, when actually his middle name is hebrew. Then when we call him Kam(most of the time) I hear that that is what black ppl would call him and I need to call him by Kameron!!! Personally I think that people just need to get over it, it's MY child's name, not theirs. If they dont like it, I just say Oh Well, dont name our child that then!! If my son was to be a girl, his name would have been Ki'era La'Shai and I caught hell about that all the time about how it was too black, and she needed a white name!!!

Crystal - posted on 01/28/2010

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Well I am Mexican American and my husband is white, and we loved being able to include our own hertiages into our kids' names. My son's name is Tyler Randall (one of the whitest names I know - but it includes my husbands family name) and my daughters name is Eva Marie. (So to Ashley - your comment to we're not in Mexico we're not going to name our daughters Eva, Maria or Guadalupe ...) Names are not geographical these days, so wherever we are, no matter what our backgrounds are, we have the right to name our kids whatever the he** we want.

Lotta - posted on 01/28/2010

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I think it's a great name! Shows both her backgrounds. My daughter is Swedish/Tanzanian and her name is Malaika Annika Suzana Nasibu Westerlund. I think it's a great mix!:D

Heather - posted on 01/28/2010

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Its people in general. Everyone is going to have an opinion no matter what. She is your daughter and she was named Abigail Elizabeth Lopez for a reason. My husband is black and his name is Dexter. Is that proper for a black male? Names shouldn't be associated with race, thats just profiling and wrong.

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