Kristian - posted on 06/03/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )
Here is the situation. My fiance and I have been together for nine years now. In November we discovered I was pregnant and to be honest we were both really SHOCKED! Excited but still shocked. My family (who is white) took the news great everyone was really excited his family took it great also until it came to his mother. Her reaction when we told her I was pregnant was "By who??" and of course that created some problems. To make things slightly more interesting my fiance has a 15 year old son (from a previous relationship) and we recently had a DNA test done on him because of somethings his mother had said and done and well its not his son after all. NOW my fiances mother is absolutely insistant that my child is not his as well. Now to be honest I dont care for this lady at all and she even before this pregnancy didnt care for me. But she has now bad mouthed me to all of the family AND to the "other baby mama"!! She has since told me that she wont have anything to do with my child until she sees proof that it is his child. Although i would love to not give a dna test just so I dont have to be bothered with her its not fair to my newly arriving daughter. However i feel like if i consent to DNA test then I look guilty of doing something i shouldnt have been doing (which im not) and if i dont consent to DNA testing then it will look like I have something to hide. Either way it goes i have told her I am NOT paying for it because there is NO question that this is his child. Does anyone have any advise??