Does anyone else hate when filling out Race on forms and it says Choose one?

Roberta - posted on 04/03/2010 ( 45 moms have responded )

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My daughters are white and black. I hate when they say choose one then they have the individual choices and then a few say multiracial. I think they should all say check all that apply.

My daughters are White and Black not either or. It asks them to deny part of their heritage. They need to keep up with the times put check all that apply not Choose One.

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Ashley - posted on 05/24/2010

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i agree my son is white and black and indian... and i Never know which one to check...usually i check other and put bi-racial

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Dan - posted on 05/28/2014

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I think they should stop asking altogether, after-all, we are all HUMAN aren't we!?

Ginger - posted on 06/23/2010

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I totally feel u! I don't care what the form says I check all that apply. My kids biracial they aren't "other" either that makes me crazy!

Donna - posted on 06/22/2010

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Yes this happens in New Zealand also. My two boys are part Pakeha/ New Zealander and part Samoan. I am often made to choose just because it suits their forms. Why should I have to?

Becky - posted on 06/20/2010

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ya know, my daughter is puerto rican and white. my grandson is black, white and puerto rican. I believe that there should be one catagory on that questionairre... race.... check .... HUMAN

Xylina - posted on 06/19/2010

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its because blacks not a race its a ethnicity. I am light skinned and my hairs not kinky but i am black and i am mixed neither of my parents is white. my dads mother was from germany and his dad was african american descent and my mothers mom was polish and her dad was half native american and half african american. there's a saying black comes in all different colors. As you can see Obama stands proud as a black man even though his mother is white. I grew up putting other but now i proudly put black because that's what i am i cant go and apply for a job and say I am white! Black comes in all colors from light to dark chocolate. my step dad looks like any african american on the street but his mother is full blooded indian! just because someone is lighter skinned don't make them not black. They are black but not african american. Most blacks are mixed anyway blacks not a race.

Brittany - posted on 06/19/2010

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i know how you feel when i was in school on all of my forms it allways would say white black haspanic alskin native or native american not of haspanic oragin well i am irsh and polish and native american and i had no clue what to put and i would just put native american and white and they would allway send my papers back so me saying i am white so there is realy nothing you can do they are going to put whatever they wanna put no matter how you fill out the papers

R - posted on 06/10/2010

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I hate that as well ever sinc I was little I had to deal with that I'm a mix and I look mix but I act like the white side of me but have hair like the black side of me but light skin .
my son Blond hair light blue eyes and veary light tan skin but slightly curly hair on the back of his head.
he is only 11 months old and one lady told me to pick a race because she didnt understand what biracial ment even after I told her he is White and black because I'm white and black and his dad is white .

Rebecca - posted on 05/25/2010

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When ever it says choose one, I mark the one that says other. But when it says mark all the apply I mark White and Black.

Kathlene - posted on 05/25/2010

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i write beside the blank in big,bold,capital print WHITE and BLACK...the ones who take my form looks up at me and i smile soooo sweetly back at her...daring her not to say one word...and they never do...

Aicha - posted on 05/22/2010

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I just check other when it ask to choose only one if it doesn't say choose one I check off all that apply

Christina - posted on 05/21/2010

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I have only had to fill this things out once but i check other and put biracial out to the side of it. I have always wondered what to do in that area and now i know.

Olivia - posted on 05/21/2010

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Both of my daughters are half mexican and half white. I always put that they are hispanic. It is an advantage for them because they will get more scholarships that way.

Sherry - posted on 05/20/2010

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I always put prefer not to answer if the option is there...I have never thought race should be an issue. Why does it matter what race you are????? Everyone should be treated equal no matter what it really really really makes me mad its just another way to seperate us

Janise - posted on 05/19/2010

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What I do is choose Other. There's usually a line where you can fill out what you mean by other. That's where I put black/white (by alphabetical order, not preference).

Krystle - posted on 05/12/2010

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OMG I really hate that! I always want to choose like 3. My kids are black, white, and filipino *pacific islander on the race sheets*. I can't tell you how relieved I am when I see the ones that say "check all that apply"!

Christina - posted on 05/10/2010

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I truly hate that part of any form. My daughter is half black, and half white. I refuse to check one box or the other because I feel as though I would be denying the importance of her white (my) side, or her black (her daddy) side. She is a mixed baby and I want her to be proud of that, She should not have to chose one of the other. I was very happy when the 2010 census let me check more that one.

Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2010

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My son is less than 1/4 black- believe me I am not going to try to do the math on that- and he is white with light brown hair. when he was born I had a problem with the boxes because I didn't knw what to put down. I asked a nurse and she said they always go with what the father is. I have no idea where that came from. Anyways now he is five and I check both no matter what, but in records he is considered black. Funny though the only people I have recieved questions from are from white women who find the whole thing facinating!

Jayne - posted on 05/03/2010

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wow what kind of forms ask race? that seems a little un-PC to me..... i'v never seen one but i would probably leave it blank or write all over it that it bears no relevance to anything...

Lisa - posted on 04/29/2010

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I hate when i have to fill out that question. My girls are half black and half Spanish. I always put "other" whatever that means, since they leave me no other option because im not gonna put just one because they come from two different races.

Jackie - posted on 04/29/2010

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Drives me nuts. My son is half white and half hispanic. Luckily for me though I can choose the white/ of hispanic heritage part or i just choose other. If its not there I write it in myself. Bi-racial babies are here and corporate America just needs to realize this and let us mothers give our kids every chance to identify with their heritage. Even if it is on paper.

Tanya - posted on 04/29/2010

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I have bi-racial children and I always check both regardless because I agree that would be denying a part of their heritage. Most forms in our area though have kept up with the times and allow you to check both or have a bi-racial box. However, schools are an exception I think this has something to do with minorities and govenment funding but I still agree that it isn't right.

Kelly Marie - posted on 04/29/2010

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totally agree my daughter is now labled as other this drives me crazy they dont even have a mixed box

Jennifer - posted on 04/10/2010

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My son is 1/2 black, 1/4 mexican and 1/4 white. When I have to fill out forms I never know what to put him down as. Some times I just mark, 'white', 'black' and 'mexican' and other times I mark other and fill it in.

Kelly - posted on 04/10/2010

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I explained to my son who asked if he was black or brown...I told him that I am labelled white but am really pale skin not white. And he is brown but labelled black. Then I explain that the labelling is not right but it's something they ( the government) haven't kept up on. He seemed to understand...because I don't get into the labelling because very few are absolute "white" or "black".

Amanda - posted on 04/09/2010

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i always mark both the black and white boxes just because there not just white or just black there both and should be catorgized as that. There are so many different mixes out there its going to be hard to find a just black or just white person here pretty soon.

Alicia - posted on 04/08/2010

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I completly understand both of my sons are white, columbian, and afghanistan. I think it is denying part of there heritage to even leave one part of there race out. Like there dad is half white and columbian and im half afgan and white so if i just pick one we have to leave out a huge part of who they are.

Eva - posted on 04/08/2010

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I have always hated that.. I check other. I agree they need to update their paperwork or do away with it all together. :)

Christina - posted on 04/07/2010

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I completley agree my son has 3 differant cultures in him White,African American, and Japanese and they alwasy put "OTHER" for him and it anger's me that he is a "OTHER" and the don't have a boxed for multi-racial

Ariel - posted on 04/07/2010

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Whenever I have to fill out a form I check other and write in molato. Meaning mixed race.

Yannine - posted on 04/07/2010

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I have that problem too, my daughter is Chamorro, (pacific islander), Mexican and Costa Rican. I agree they should have a multi-racial box.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/06/2010

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I agree, I think they should have either a box that has mixed in it or check all that applies.

Felicia - posted on 04/06/2010

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I think that we have to fight to have that changed. I was pleasantly surprised at the 2010 census allowed you to pick more than one.

Andora - posted on 04/06/2010

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I totally agree! when my youngest, who is both black and white, began kindergarten they asked me to check the box and i refused. i told them that they should have a "what the heck does it matter at 5 years old" box. it shouldn't matter either way anyway. but they wouldn't let her start till i "completed the form". grrrr.

Crystal Lynn - posted on 04/06/2010

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i always put other. i know what you mean. their dad says im suppossed to put black but i dont agree, i think i should be able to put both

Tonya - posted on 04/06/2010

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From my understand of "history" going back to slavery if a person had one drop of african/black blood they were considered black. Unfortunately this rule from hundreds of years ago has not made it's way out of the minds of some people. I hate having to choose what race my children will be and I choose other if biracial is not there.

Schailar - posted on 04/05/2010

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I have issues with that myself. When I have to fill out forms and it says to chose one. I look black but I identify more as white(the culture my upbrining everything) Its confusing and I just disobey and mark both white and black...what are they gonna do? They should really recognize Mulatto as its own race. Some folks may see the term as oppressing but I see it as liberating!

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luckily in canada, well toronto anyways, pretty much every form i have ever seen has a box for if you are mixed. if they didn't i would just check them both anyway

Michaela - posted on 04/04/2010

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Absolutely.. Its like I have to pick which half of them i will deny, and I'm with you all the way about the check all that apply, I think I would be less offended by having to put a lable on my children in the first place. This is 2010 and ya know people are just people!

Lydia - posted on 04/04/2010

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OMG...I HATE IT. MY SON IS BLACK AND PUERTO RICAN....I ALWAYS PUT EITHER LATINO OR PUERTO RICAN BECAUSE HIS FATHER HIS BLACK AND MY SON DOESNT KNOW HIS FATHER (HIS DAMN DADDYS CHOICE) AND BEING AND SPEAKING SPANISH IS ALL MY SON KNOWS

Andrea - posted on 04/04/2010

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i agree with u because i dont' think it's right to have to choose one race for them when they have more than one race in them

Stacey - posted on 04/04/2010

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Yes, this totally bugs me! Happens every year when we are updating school forms. Every year I mark both the black and the white box. Every year they are categorized as black. Considering a large portion of the school is a mixture of some type, I think multiracial should be an option!

I started to get the same irritation when I was completing our census form, but then realized that on that I was allowed to check more than one box.

Jaime - posted on 04/04/2010

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I haven't come across this yet Roberta but there is a good longish thread discussion about it on here, I will see if I can find it and bump it for you :)

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