Hair care for my mixed son.

Kassia - posted on 04/07/2010 ( 33 moms have responded )

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I have been doing searches on how to take care of my son's hair and all i can find is info on taking care of girl's hair. Does it make a difference if it's boy or girl hair? I am white and my son's dad is AA. My son has never had his hair cut (16 months old). The back of his hair is course and curly and acts like it wants to be a fro while the top is nice and soft and curly. Do i cut or trim his hair to try to make all of his hair want to do the same thing or will it just happen over time? I feel dumb and only just found out that i am only to be washing his hair once a week. Because i have been washing it everyday (like i have to for my hair) i have now dried out his scalp and he is scratching his head all the time. How do i moisture his scalp and his hair? I have been using shea butter shampoo from the Body Shop (specifically for babies, tear free). Is that an ok shampoo to use? Do i start using conditioner on his hair? If so what kind? My boyfriend and i have been putting olive oil I think it's palmers brand) in his hair to keep his curls tight and moisturized. Is that wrong? .... I have lots of questions for this is something very new to me. I would love any suggestions on what to do or what NOT to do.

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Amy - posted on 06/03/2013

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Hi! My son is 18 months old. He is a mixed baby. His hair is both like mine and his dads. I have been.washing his hair almost every day as of late. But I was told his hair will fall out. He is my first and every now and then I have been using African Pride olive miracle.but his hair feels so dry. What can I do to make his hair soft and silky? And moisturize his hair? Any advice is welcome! Thank you

Carrie - posted on 04/09/2010

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no no my boys are mixed and i found this stuff called mixed chicks and it works great. it keeps there hair soft and the curl tight. it really works i live by this stuff for there hair.

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Ok girl, here goes...it doesn't matter if it's a girl or a boy at this stage, you can use the same products. If you aren't into braiding/cornrowing, then maybe trimming your son's hair would help make it more manageable for you.



I have 2 mixed daughters,and I am Black, so I've had all the hair issues in the world at some point over the years. Yes, only wash your son's hair once a week. It is important to use conditioner on his hair, but because most of the brands of conditioner out there might still be too harsh for him...try using a 2-in-1 which detangles (I like Just For Me products) and then spray a leave-in conditioner in afterwards before combing.



Also, I'm very particular in using 'black' hair products for my girls...I find they have way more moisturizing qualities to them than 'white' produts, which seem to really dry out their hair.



Olive oil is wonderful for moisturizing the scalp, and I've used it on both my girls' hair, even though they have different textures. Also try using coconut oil hair moisturizer/scalp conditioner. It's wonderful!! You can get it from Sally's Beauty supply, and I think some Wal-Marts have it too...I think the brand I use from Sally's is by Proclaim.



To be honest with you...I've had to try many things for my girls, because what worked for my 4 year old, didn't always work for the 2 year old...you kind of have to learn through experience.



I use the coconut oil scalp moisturizer once a week after washing, but I use Just For Me leave-in conditioner and oil moisturizing lotion everyday before combing with a WIDE tooth comb.



I hope all of this helps, please let me know.

Samantha - posted on 10/25/2012

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Hey Kassia!



I have two children of my own one is a girl and is 7 and the other is a boy he is 2. My kids are also mixed and I am Italian and German (weird combo) but anyways......From experience you definitively don't want to wash your baby's hair everyday. If you must wash his hair cause he gets something in it don't use shampoo every wash just some conditioner. I usually just purchase something that has extra moisture (spend a couple bucks). I usually wash my kids hair mostly conditioner then I spray leave in conditioner and then just some non scented lotion. Get a soft brush and comb it through only when wet and moisturized. There is a company called Meleleuca that my mom got into for awhile and they have a leave in conditioner that works wonderful on my kids hair. I also buy just plastic spray bottles from where ever and put water in them to damp their hair on days I am not going to wash it.



Mixed kids usually start getting their course hair in the back of their heads first. I would not trim or cut it unless it is growing in unevenly. When you are brushing his hair brush it back and forth and in the direction opposite of the way it grows, that will help it thicken up over time. My baby is 2 and I have not cut is hair yet he has long curls and I love them. My daughter has had her hair trimmed but she is also 7 so needs is every once in awhile, but she also has thick tight curly beautiful hair.



Hope this helps ; )

Heather - posted on 01/23/2012

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First of all gender really isn't going to make any difference in what you should be putting in his hair. CJ's BUTTer has some really great products for all hair types, but it works phenomenally in ethnic hair! You want to be sure that you stop washing his hair so frequently immediatly, and when you do wash it use CJ's BUTTer Carcass Cleaner, it is an all natural head to toe moisturizing shampoo/body wash. After and in between washes use CJ's BUTTer Spritz it is also all natural, and can be used as either a leave in conditioner or detangler it will eliminate the frizz and contol his curls. What is really great is they have a ton of different fragrances that you can choose from and even unscented if you prefer, so if you want something a little masculine, or even a baby lotion scent you have that option.

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Kai's - posted 2 days ago

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I'm so glad I found this link. I have a 16 month old son. I am filipino n his father is black. He has fine curly hair and the length of his hair is uneven throughout his head smh. I am having the same problems with his hair as u are. I been washing his hair everyday or every other day and I noticed his curls getting dry n frizzy as the day goes on. I spoke to my coworker who suggested using Just For Me hair milk curl smoother. I was hesitant to use product with different ingredients because I didn't want to further ddamage his hair plus I think he is too young. Tonight is my first night using this product so I'll keep u posted. If anyone knows another product that is closest to natural products please let me know

Jessica - posted on 01/03/2013

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I use mixed chicks on my son's hair. He is mixed black, white, and Latino (so hair may be a little different). I also ditch the shampoo due to shampoo containing harsh, drying sulfates which strips natural moisture from the hair.

Isolina - posted on 01/03/2013

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If you dont want to cut it, try Nutress Hair products! Great for moisturizing and detangling.

Sana - posted on 10/30/2012

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Ok babtgirl,... I'm biracial and 40..... My hair still has four different grades going on,... What I mean to say is it may change,... And it may not. if you want to keep his hair long,... Condition it to death,... But there are certain condiditoners that are better for us. Check out curly like me,.. It has pics of girls mostly, but the premise is true for both sexes. There are comb through conditioner and ones that you leave in, we need both.

RENEE - posted on 03/30/2012

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The olive oil treatment is good but the lotion is much better of which is in the green bottle ( i think it's palmers) which is in the black hair care but most of my family who r latinas use this product on themselfs and their children. DO NOT wash his hair everyday u r stripping him of all natural oils. Every other day is minimum but can go longer. His hair will eventually loose the tri-texture but giving him a style or trim is good too, That is ur personal choice to make. Enjoy his uniqueness!

Rie - posted on 03/23/2012

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Hey first I want to say the course hair in the back and silk smooth hair in the front will never go away. It just comes with being mixed. Second I just recently found out that you should wash mixed hair twice a week simply because like African Americans we have natural oils in our hair that need to be cleaned. Now while olive oil is great ( i've been using it for years) it mostly use to help grow, strengthen, and stop breakage in our hair it does nothing for the scalp.. Palmers has olive oil hair dressing (hair grease) that does wonders for mixed hair. Dont put too many products in his hair or it will cause breakage. Now most people told you not to cut his hair but if you want it to grow out u can take him to a female salon i prefer Dominicans because they have hiar just like mixed people and they know what they are doing. If you want to keep his curl i wouldnt sugesst a cut just a simple trim to keep it growing. THINGS PEOPLE DONT KNOW IS MALES HAVE DEAD HAIR TOO SO JUST AS WE NEED A TRIM/CUT TO KEEP OUR HAIR HEALTHY THEY NEED IT AS WELL. I SURE HOPE THIS HELPS I KNOW MY MOM HAD A HARD TIME WHEN I WAS LITTLE 80'S AND 90'S DIDNT HAVE MUCH FOR MIXED PEOPLE BUT NOW WE HAVE EVERYTHING.. GOOD LUCK!!!!

Lisa - posted on 01/20/2012

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My son just turned a year old on Jan 14 and I have not done a thing to his hair. I wash it three to four times a week with Johnson's head to toe baby wash. He does not have a dry scalp and never has. His hair is very thin and very fine with big curls...but around his face, ears and neck, his hair is straight! Never gained a curl. His hair has never been unmanageable!



But as of late, people are telling me I should do this or that with it because it will fall out because of dryness. His hair is not really dry, even when its 'frizzy' its still put together. So should I worry about it or just see where his hair takes me??

Sherelle - posted on 04/18/2010

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I've found that a way to also combat the bald spot issue is to rotate their heads while they are sleeping. My 10 month old is starting to get one on the side he sleeps on the most so I move his head to the other side. The rubbing of their heads on whatever they sleep on seems to rub the hair off their heads. I also once a week scrub his scalp with the baby brush to loosen any dead skin or remove any excess oils. He is half black half puerto rican so his hair is curly like mine and very dry. Just for me products have been working although the mixed chicks stuff sounds promising. Hope this helps!

Robin - posted on 04/18/2010

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Hey there! My son is half white and half AA. He is 20 months old, and I refuse to cut his hair. We use products called mixed chicks. They have the right amount of ingredients that work for the mixture of his hair texture. It makes his curls gorgeous, with 0 frizz. You can get a sample of the trio for .99 at www.mixedchicks.net. We love this stuff. They even have a video to show you how to use, along with before and after pics of kids. It works, because it is designed for biracial people. Give it a try!

Crystal - posted on 04/15/2010

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Africa's best super grow is great! I use it on my daughter's hair and is smells good, absorbs wells and grows the hair quickly!

Catherine - posted on 04/14/2010

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I have 3 children ( Im White/Mexican And their Father is African American/White and each of them have different hair my oldest son has Really curly hair with a little corseness to it .. My daughter has very fine hair whispy hair .. and my youngest son has a lil wave to it ..It looks as tho he is gonna have hair like his big bro bc it was the same when he was young...With my oldest i had teh same problem I didnt kno what to do with it when he got his curls and i washed it too much .. The product i use for his hair is Miss JessiesCurly Pudding(www.missjessies.com) It works soo ood on his hair and keeps it just right ..

Tanya - posted on 04/14/2010

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My mom and grandmother's advice to me was to put a combination of baby oil and baby lotion all over my son's body, face and hair after each bath. There are also many natural oils and oil lotions you can find in the "colored hair care products" aisle. I would say you ca also follow the advice online for girls' hair. Most sites just assume you;re just going to cut boys' hair, which is silly.

Paige - posted on 04/12/2010

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I am native american and white and my son's father is AA. My son has "white" hair it's dark brown and big soft ringlets. But he has a protein disorder so his hair is thin, but it grows so fast, yet uneven. He has a bald spot in the back that is just starting to grow in at 13 months and around it stays fuzzy. I still use Johnson and Johnson for babies with Shea butter. then just some regular conditioner. And I was his daily. So really it's the theory all peoples hair is different. you just have to try different things till you find what works best for him.

Tasha - posted on 04/12/2010

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I use tyhe products that I found on a web site Mixedchicks.com. Also anything from Carols Daughter is very good as well, I would reccomend the Hair Balm and the Tui Hair Oil. Its kind of expensive, but it last for a while if you purchase the bigger products. Becasue biracial children need moisture on their hair!!

Chrystina - posted on 04/11/2010

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They have a great line of hair care products you can pick up at most walmarts its called "just for me" product line its for that kind of hair.. The Pink lotion works great it keeps thier scalp moist and hair moist... cant say it smells the best but it does work and they do have it in the kids formula.. My friend and both have malatto kids i have a son and she has a daughter.. and for the kids that have soft hair but is super curly they have a curl smoother creme that is absoloutly fantastic works great to tame the curls and is an awesome detangler you can use it in wet or dry hair and for parents that give the kiddos a bath before bed its awesome when it comes to both hair types just put it in right after the tubby comb it threw and in the morning thier hair isnt half as snarly and is sooo much more managable! I use the curl smoother and pink lotion combo in my friends daughters hair to keep her hair soft and her curls tight.. I definitly recomend looking into the "Just For Me" product line for thier hair.. there also some stuff you can get from the hair store called hair food.. keeps the hair healthy... I could keep goin on with hair products but those are what i recomend the most tho from personal ecperience!

Chantelle - posted on 04/11/2010

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I'm mixed native/white and my sons father is Nigerian. I have found that Blended Beauty (blended cutie) shampoo, conditioner and silk mist for my sons hair works well. In winter I also use Motions conditioning cream with vitamin E a couple of hours before washing , because its really dry here...The olive oil works well too. He has crazy curls in the back and top, but its straight on the sides. Ive only cut his hair once when he was a year old.

Alecia - posted on 04/10/2010

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My son had the hair too. I didn't find a great product until I cut his hair off at two years old and his sister's hair started to grow in. After years of experimentation; I find that the Olive Oil moisturizing lotion, shampoo and conditioner does miracles with de-tangling, moisturizing, body and shine. Try it. It is worth the money:D

Nicole - posted on 04/09/2010

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First I have to say that every biracial child's hair is different, so what works for some might not work for others. I have two little boys 4 and ten months, although the baby still doesn't have much hair and I am half black and half white and their dad is black. For my 4 year old, who's hair is very soft and curly, I cut his hair for the first time when he was 14 months because his hair wasn't even in lengths and then I was only cutting it maybe once a year cause I love his curls, but he hates getting his hair brushed now so I've been keeping it on the shorter side, I just use clippers with the 1" or sometimes even the half inch comb thing. I wash his hair once or twice a week, then in the mornings I use the Johnson and johnson detangling spray and then brush it and put the olive oil, oil moisturizing hair lotion. I've used mixed chicks in my own hair, but for me it didn't seem to work any better than cheap stuff, but maybe I need to watch the video. There is also this site, http://www.naturallycurly.com/hair-types, but I think it is mostly for girls, but I'm sure any thing that works for a girl would work on a boy, you just wouldn't need as much of it.

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My son is one year old and his hair is the same way. He has one spot in the back that seems dry and frizzy. You should only wash his hair once, maybe twice a week. I condition his hair and put olive oil in it. In the mornings I wet his hair down with a brush and put a little olive oil in it. Make sure that whatever you use does not have alcohol in it because it will dry out the hair.

Carmen - posted on 04/09/2010

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i agree with jannell, you don't have to wash his hair every day, that will dry out most people's scalps. i use jojoba oil on my daughters hair and it works great, it's not greasy and leaves her hair in cute ringlets. I even use it on my hair and it works well. when i'm in a rush i just use simple detangler. your baby's scale should make it's own natural oils, just don't wash it all away!:)

Shell - posted on 04/09/2010

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hi we use stasofro which comes with a gel for the curls and a conditioner spray. you should be able to get in in any afro caribbean shop or ask them for a substitute. it controls curls but allows to afro up if that is what you wnat, easier to comb too.

Jannell - posted on 04/09/2010

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First of ALL i would STOP washing is EVERDAY!! my son is 3 and NEVER had a haor cut......wish you couls see his hair! its the first thing everyone says about him"o i LOVE his hair"
i was it like once a week.... and i use condintoner, and LEAVE it in. My hair is also VERY curly, and thats what i do to mine.
I wash it, comb it,put conditoner in it, let it air dry. Try to keep the curls together,. to avoid the frizz look. May want to try some gel too.........any questions fee free to ask!
I have a 13 girl whos hair is like a old school telphone cord. thats UNMANAGABLE! thats when you go get it relaxed at a salon....good luck

Felicia - posted on 04/08/2010

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my daughter is Guatemalan and African American. I wash her hair with her baby wash which is good for kids with eczema, it is Aveeno (the one with the dark blue top). Then I condition it with Herbal Essences Orchid (blue bottle). Next I use Motions hair lotion in a pink bottle. Her hair stays nice and curly and is easy to manage. I have not found mixed chicks yet, but I heard that it is good. I do most of this at night and in the morning I add a little more motions if she needs it.

Sarah - posted on 04/08/2010

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My daughter's hair is the exact same way. She is mixed with black and white. She is four now and it is still the same LOL. When it grows longer, the front dangles in her face while the dryer, tighter back stays in place. It looks crazy. The best product I have found is called Mixed Chicks. They have a site www.mixedchicks.net. You can buy their products or search for a local salon that carries them. I use Tresemme' shampoo and conditioner in her hair and buy the Mixed Chicks leave-in conditioner/styling product. Watch the tutorial video on the site for how to apply it. If applied correctly, it will get him a lot of compliments and will not dry real sticky. When I use it right, Jaylah's hair looks better than ever. The leave-in product is expensive, but it will last you a long time.

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i put olive oil in the water i use to rinse the shampoo out ( i use dove sensitive baby shampoo) and then i put lots of vaseline on his head. it seems to work for the dry scalp. as for how to take care of his hair, i would just cut it (unless his dad is jaaican and believes he won';t talk properly if he does). but my son's hair is all over like white people hair so i'm not really sure what to do for the other part of ur questions

Beth - posted on 04/07/2010

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i am white and my son's dad is AA. my son has had 3 haircuts already. he is 19 months old. all i put on it is sumthing called soft and precious. it makes his hair calm dwn and it smells really good, too!

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